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These are the kinds of things that really pull a person into themselves. Some people handle that better than others. If there is something else he can focus on, that might help. (((HUGS))) It will get better.
Keyz,
It absolutely could be from the anesthesia, it sometimes take a couple/three weeks for that stuff to work its way completely out of the body. It also sounds like he's going through some depression/anger from being/feeling helpless. A lot of patients experience this post - major surgery. He resents being taken care of, or the need to be taken care of, so he lashes out. Pretty typical. I'm sure he doesn't mean to do it, it's just so frustrating for an independent type person to be bed ridden and helpless. (I Know this from experience) and it can make you an emotional wreck.
Just hang in there and reassure him that he'll be himself again. He's probably more concerned about the change in behavior than you are. Make sure the kids know it's not them, it's just a reaction to the surgery and he'll be himself again soon. Kids have a way of taking stuff on, thinking it's their fault so they need to be reassured!
Use your friends here, vent all you need to ... I know it's really hard on you too, so don't try to shoulder the burden alone.
We're all sending good energy and healing vibes your way! Hang in there!
It absolutely could be from the anesthesia, it sometimes take a couple/three weeks for that stuff to work its way completely out of the body. It also sounds like he's going through some depression/anger from being/feeling helpless. A lot of patients experience this post - major surgery. He resents being taken care of, or the need to be taken care of, so he lashes out. Pretty typical. I'm sure he doesn't mean to do it, it's just so frustrating for an independent type person to be bed ridden and helpless. (I Know this from experience) and it can make you an emotional wreck.
Just hang in there and reassure him that he'll be himself again. He's probably more concerned about the change in behavior than you are. Make sure the kids know it's not them, it's just a reaction to the surgery and he'll be himself again soon. Kids have a way of taking stuff on, thinking it's their fault so they need to be reassured!
Use your friends here, vent all you need to ... I know it's really hard on you too, so don't try to shoulder the burden alone.
We're all sending good energy and healing vibes your way! Hang in there!
Hugs (((((Keyz))))))! Hopefully the doctor can give you the answers you need. IMHO, he might need some short term counseling. He's been through a real life and death situation which would affect most if not all of us.
Good morning PIF! Day 2 of classes and I survived night 2 in Vegas.
Keyz, I'm sorry to that. I'll keep you and you family in my prayers.
Keyz, I'm sorry to that. I'll keep you and you family in my prayers.
Wow, UR, not only a carto that lasts for a full pack of cigs, but BT to connect to my homies -- gotta get one of those! 
OMG talk about big brother!!! I love technology and all- but I need a pack of cigs tattiling on me about like I need the toilet paper to tattle every time I pee...
Thank You all so much!!!Its so nice to feel like people are there and understand what your going through.It helps alot.Thanks Guys!!
Keyz - depression is very common after heart surgery - and not sure if it's a documented effect - but my sister's hubby sounds like your hubby. A little better now, but still gets unreasonably aggravated over stupid stuff (and he use to be way laid back).
Just remember, that while the Dr may not be able to talk to you about the hubs without his permission - you can talk to the Dr about him and the Dr can listen and take notes ;-)
For instance - you can tell the Dr that he needs to continue the visiting nurses because you can't give him the care he still requires.
Keyz, i went through this with my stepfather last year - a very sweet loving man, a pastor and leader in the local interfaith council suddenly a grumpy and yes, .....y guy. Threw tantrums and was really weird. The doctor said this wasn't unusual after major heart surgery - something about the reaction to the bypass machine and anesthesia. It just sort-of faded after a few months, and he's back to normal now. We just let him blow and gave him his way for a while. Thank goodness it passes! The only leftover is a chair my mother hates lol - a big black leather recliner that he insisted on, a $1500 piece that doesn't fit in with her decor - but it's comfortable for him and he loves it (he's 6'8").
He also fussed and griped about needing to be cared for, but I talked to him about mom needing to take care of herself as well as him...he didn't like it at the time but was thankful later for the extra help. It will get better, really - keep the faith {{{(((hugs)))}}}
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haven't been around so much, but Keyzy, you're still in my thoughts and prayers.. things will get better, chin up, buttercup!! XXOOSqueeeeeeeezesOOXX
in other news... another reminder, in case you weren't vaping last summer.. use caution when leaving your PV in the hot car in the sun. Now if you will excuse me, I have to find some ice to put on my lip..
in other news... another reminder, in case you weren't vaping last summer.. use caution when leaving your PV in the hot car in the sun. Now if you will excuse me, I have to find some ice to put on my lip..
OK someone who knows, tell me. Dual cartos...what in the heck is this black stuff in my carto??? The more I vape on it the more there is! Is it burnt pieces of something or what? My juice is crystal clear, this is like, fine black dirt or something....
Dude.
I've not experienced this so I have no clue. Where the heck did you get these duals??
Im so glad you guys said that.I just needed to know it happens and it passes.All I read about just said depression.Thank you soooo much!
Keyzy, this is common after bypass surgery. I've read that 30-40% of patients have depression after bypass surgery. I remember reading that former President Bill Clinton used to get real angry and short tempered in interviews right after he had his bypass surgery. Just be extra patient with him and I'm sure it will lessen soon.
Lol Vaporkings
great vendor IMO, too.. but that's kinda scary.. have you emailed them?
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