I was for a long time then it came back.
You were a smoker until recently - tell me how much influence other people, even close to you, had on your resolve to keep smoking, especially when they went on about it, mentioned it, gave you the stink eye, anything really?
Exactly.
Let him SEE it working for you - don't push it - its not worth making issues where none used to exist. Let him make his OWN mind up and perhaps he will come to follow your lead.
Good luck on YOUR journey
- It'll stink up the house, the bed, the furniture, which they are both working very hard to someday own, I don't like the smell of kim chi and I personally could not spend the rest of my life in a home that smelled like fermented cabbage, or in her case cigarettes
- She wants him to make wise life changes so they can live happy and healthy for many years to come, theres nothing more painful than seeing a loved one carry around an oxygen tank just to move around the house (a close uncle and a grandfather both fell ill to prolonged use of cigarettes)
- Relationships are about complimenting each others attributes and assisting with ones faults, if one person in the relationship is not willing to admit and begin working on a severe fault, then it is that persons mistake by not making an effort. And judging by your hubbys dislike for your e-cig devices, I assume he has not given them a legitimate chance.
- Just because she was smoking when they met doesn't mean its hypocritical to try to change his damaging habit, if you met your significant other during a time where you both smoked "Whacky Tobaccy" (pretty common IMO), would you still permit the use now that the both of you are 40 years older?
E-cigs are still new and there will be many naysayers, many of them being smokers themselves. But to brush them off before doing your research is an act of ignorance. At the least, the BF could cut down on his cigarette intake with the use of e-cigs or atleast cut down in general. I'm pretty sure that analog cigs weren't meant to be smoked at the 1-2 pack-a-day rate that most of us smoked at. Just my
I understood he wanted me to live longer btw, but nagging doesn't work. If I'd put on a bunch of weight and he'd said 'well if you aren't slim then its a dealbreaker..' - yeah same thing lol. Probably drive me to more food too.
Agree 100%, Cap'n. But it's hard when you get into bed with someone who smells like an ashtray.
I agree with Sherid - I have to say lol
They BOTH smoked, they both smelled of smoke and now one doesn't. Perhaps its less f a control issue than an enthusiasm that needs a partner, and afear the other person's continued habit might undermine their new one. That's reasonable but as soon as you start laying down the law the other person might lay down their own, or dig their heels in, even if they DO want to quit at some point.
No amount of nagging or ultimatums would have stopped me smoking - I'm an adult, I made a choice before I met my husband and he knew I smoked when we got married. If he had told me I wasn't allowed to smoke anymore I think I'd have the roof and then hit the floor running
I'm just saying that if you make an ultimatum you might have to live with the consequences and I'm sure that's not what you're thinking of or desire or indeed intend on doing.
I'm sure you guys will work out something you're both happy with and here's wishing you both well
), and theres nothing more frivolous than two friends straying from each other because of different lifestyles. In this case its a progressive relationship planning on moving onto the next level, and some things need to be laid out on the table before they proceed. BTW i went off on a rant, but congratulations on your e cig purchase!
