my husband still smokes, he's tried my PV but he didn't like the flavors. I smoked menthol, he smokes camels. I don't like the plain tobacco taste, so all my flavors are fruity or menthol. I would like him to quit with me, but can I make him? nope. Even if he did quit or switch, if it's because I made him it won't stick unless he chooses it himself. I agree with what others have said. Talk about it, make a deal that both can be happy with - ie not smoking in the house, car, etc. But, don't force him to quit, it will only make it harder on both of you. You never know, if he sees it working well for you, he may make up his own mind to try it.
Does Your Lover/Wife/Husband Still Smoke?
- Thread starter Jo OnTheGo
- Start date
- th_trl_thread_readers 0
- Status
Reading much of this thread makes me do some re-thinking. Six months in, I mostly vape, but still smoke about four cigarettes a day (maybe two of which I thoroughly enjoy). My wife smokes and, so far, is uninterested in vaping. I'm starting to think that getting down to zero cigarettes shouldn't be my goal after all, if there's any risk of my developing an intolerance for the smell of smoke or for those who smoke.
I've been tobbacco free for about 4 weeks. My wife is trying as well. If she stops smoking that will be great. If she does not then that will be OK as well. She is living her life. I am living mine. We just like to do that living together. 17 years and counting.
It's so nice to see both your names and text grace this screen again. Early on in my vaping journey I would follow both your leads. Thank you both. =)
The wife still smokes here. She should quit because she has health issues but she never gave vaping a real shot. She couldn't get passed the coughing stage on the inhale that some people have a problem with, not matter what I tried. When I set her brother up with an e-cig and HE coughed like crazy and couldn't (or didn't want to) get passed it, that was all the ammo she needed to set the e-cig aside.
I *wish* she would give it (vaping) more of a shot but it is what it is. It's well over a year for me so I would think that if I was going to be some sort of an example it would have happened already. The good news is that a pack of analogs here is now over $11. Oh wait, that's NOT good news either...
My wife is a nonsmoker, and she has always HATED the smell of cigarettes. She was not crazy about kissing me, except for a little peck, and always insisted that I smoke away from the house, lest some smoke creeps in.
When I started ecigs, all that changed. I know this is a "G" rated forum, so suffice to say that now she has become extremely passionate, and kisses me like she did when we first started going out. She has no problem with me vaping in the house, and even says she likes the slightly sweet secondhand aroma.
Ecigs has made turned my wife into a new woman!
RadicalJD
When I started ecigs, all that changed. I know this is a "G" rated forum, so suffice to say that now she has become extremely passionate, and kisses me like she did when we first started going out. She has no problem with me vaping in the house, and even says she likes the slightly sweet secondhand aroma.
Ecigs has made turned my wife into a new woman!
RadicalJD
You're right. I'm just worried about the smell of his smokes and my temptation to snag his cigarettes and smoke them if the desire hits me and my will isn't there. Mainly, the smell. And taste. What am I gonna do, stop kissing him? I'm jumping the gun, but, just checking to see what others have gone through.
Last night someone said, once I start vaping, other smokers are going to "stink", probably like I do now (ew). Can I live with the smell if he still smokes? Would I never truly have a fresh-smelling house?
I ruled out dating non-smokers. I gave it up ten years ago as I KNOW it wouldn't work out. I worry too much about how I smell and my breath, etc. For the first time ever, I'm seeing the possibility of me being a non smoker, ie, a vaper. It's freaking me out. Seriously. Like, that's the glue that keeps he and I together. The smoking. I dunno. Maybe I'm worrying too much in advance.
Sorry for the .. deeply personal stuff.
- It'll stink up the house, the bed, the furniture, which they are both working very hard to someday own, I don't like the smell of kim chi and I personally could not spend the rest of my life in a home that smelled like fermented cabbage, or in her case cigarettes
- She wants him to make wise life changes so they can live happy and healthy for many years to come, theres nothing more painful than seeing a loved one carry around an oxygen tank just to move around the house (a close uncle and a grandfather both fell ill to prolonged use of cigarettes)
- Relationships are about complimenting each others attributes and assisting with ones faults, if one person in the relationship is not willing to admit and begin working on a severe fault, then it is that persons mistake by not making an effort. And judging by your hubbys dislike for your e-cig devices, I assume he has not given them a legitimate chance.
- Just because she was smoking when they met doesn't mean its hypocritical to try to change his damaging habit, if you met your significant other during a time where you both smoked "Whacky Tobaccy" (pretty common IMO), would you still permit the use now that the both of you are 40 years older?
E-cigs are still new and there will be many naysayers, many of them being smokers themselves. But to brush them off before doing your research is an act of ignorance. At the least, the BF could cut down on his cigarette intake with the use of e-cigs or atleast cut down in general. I'm pretty sure that analog cigs weren't meant to be smoked at the 1-2 pack-a-day rate that most of us smoked at. Just my
I'm deeply tempted to hug you right now. Thank you, friend
Excellent thought. Maybe not a big-time goal of "quitting" smoking. Maybe just developing a taste for vaping. So much food for thought.
I totally understand your concerns and they are valid ones. You must decide for your self how much you care for your BF and if you are willing to stay with them if they decide they don't care to use an ecig. The temptation to smoke can be a difficult thing to over come, just remember this is your choice not his. If you truly wish to quit cigs you will, but it may take time. Always remember that if you do break down and have one you have not failed! Best of luck!!
I do read the forum every day but don't post as much as I use to.
Thank you so much for the compliment
I do read the forum every day but don't post as much as I use to.
My husband and I both smoked when we got married 26 years ago. He quit 21 years ago. I continued to smoke until I started vapeing. I didn't smoke in HIS car, or in the same room as him. I did this for 21 years of our 26 year marriage. He would say man that smoke stinks..........I moved to another room. The reason I started vapeing was to be able to "smoke" in the house. I started on a Friday and by the next Friday I was analog free. I went into vapeing as another method to get my fix without the intent to actually quit. So I compromised?? I have had a few drags of an analog but don't have the desire to smoke. I've had a few "high stress" times the past 4 months and just craved my pv and not smokes. Not sure if this is any help but it's what worked for me. Remember I wasn't going to quit just suppliment my analogs
My husband quit smoking 6 or 7 years ago, cold turkey, when he had a heart attack. I continued to smoke. I knew he hated the smell of it everywhere, even though I smoked in just one room. I will give him credit: he never got on my case about it. He knew that if he hadn't had a heart attack, he never would have quit.
He and I became aware of e-cigs at around the same time, last fall. He had a friend who was raving about them; I had a co-worker who did the same. I tried vaping and I haven't smoked since. My husband is thrilled. My kids are thrilled. My house and car are thrilled. I am thrilled.
I can sympathize with the new vaper who suddenly realizes just how gross smokers smell. I'm not sure how my husband put up with it all those years. I can't stand that smell anymore and I can smell a smoker from a mile away. (slight exaggeration) On the other hand, I remember well how it felt to be that smoker, and I knew then that I smelled like smoke - I just didn't know how bad it really was.
I never nag a smoker. I never will. It doesn't work. What I do now is to talk about e-cigs to every smoker I come across. Some are receptive but others think it's just another worthless gimmick like the patches and gum. All I can do is try to educate people, and lead by example. Your husband may be watching you and your e-cig more closely than he lets on. Maybe one day he'll be ready to make the switch.
He and I became aware of e-cigs at around the same time, last fall. He had a friend who was raving about them; I had a co-worker who did the same. I tried vaping and I haven't smoked since. My husband is thrilled. My kids are thrilled. My house and car are thrilled. I am thrilled.
I can sympathize with the new vaper who suddenly realizes just how gross smokers smell. I'm not sure how my husband put up with it all those years. I can't stand that smell anymore and I can smell a smoker from a mile away. (slight exaggeration) On the other hand, I remember well how it felt to be that smoker, and I knew then that I smelled like smoke - I just didn't know how bad it really was.
I never nag a smoker. I never will. It doesn't work. What I do now is to talk about e-cigs to every smoker I come across. Some are receptive but others think it's just another worthless gimmick like the patches and gum. All I can do is try to educate people, and lead by example. Your husband may be watching you and your e-cig more closely than he lets on. Maybe one day he'll be ready to make the switch.
Thank you, Stover and Malyden. And everyone. It's insight like these that really helps me see other points of view; not just my tunnel-vision. For instance, me+vaping+he smokes=disater.
I have a feeling I'll be back to read these over and over again.
I have a feeling I'll be back to read these over and over again.
First both me and my wife smoked when we got married, 14 yrs ago. She recently had thyroid cancer surgery and we were told to keep smoking by her cancer Dr. the changes to the body when quiting are hard mentally and physically. I was ready to quit whenever she wanted, Love and addiction are both powerful things. I still open the door for my wife, I fill her car with gas so she doesn't have to, but thats me, we both cook and clean. I appreciate her and what she means to me. If she doesnt want to quit smoking with me even after the cancer scare, I will still love her and stand by her without any drama attached. I would talk to her about my concerns and thoughts about OUR future health , but I wouldn't become one of those anti-smoking preachers and drive her away from me. Something to think about here also, how do you feel about people that wanted you to change to what they want. Religion, politics, music, clothes, work, food, smoking..............
My Husband still smokes. I've been vaping for almost 2 months. I have had no urges to smoke. We have never smoked in the house-only outside. I am not pressuring him at all. When and if he is ever ready his e-cig kit is on the counter....
(His sister bought it for him not me)
(His sister bought it for him not me)
LOL FINALLY, someone sees it as I do. I make sure to ALWAYS smoke at least one regular cig a day specifically so I will NEVER become an anti-smoker.
You are worrying too much in advance. If you go into vaping with the idea that you MUST quit smoking immediately, you may fail. Give it a chance; take it as slowly or as quickly as you want, and just sit back and enjoy it. It seems you are putting way too much pressure on yourself and now on your BF. It's supposed to be enjoyable. It seems you are obsessed with what-if's before you have even charged your first battery.
Thanks for the kind words. I don't post as much as I used to. Frankly, I was getting too stressed with too much preaching the gospel of vaping and seeing smokers as lepers. It just gets under my skin. You are a good husband though. If my husband decided I was no longer "allowed" to smoke (he is a lifetime non-smoker and we have been together for over 40 years)that would be a dealbreaker for me. Oh, and since I am a stubborn and rebellious sort, I would also probably smoke twice as much. LOL
Very wise words that all women should take to heart.
Okay, well, all people should take it to heart, not just women.
Although it does seem to be far more common among women to think they will just be able change the things they don't like about a guy. And if you ask me, that is a one of the biggest reasons so many marriages turn out bad.
I just started vaping as of yesterday, when my SideSho arrived. My husband wasn't exactly as excited as I was, he has been the e-cig route before and never had much luck. But after seeing how sleek and beautiful (shiny red! <3) it is and trying out some flavors from Liquid Xpress, he is definitely warming up to it. Hopefully - I will convert him.
Not because I *really really* want to change him - I'm just sick of the hacking - his health is important to me. =/
My husband wasn't exactly as excited as I was, he has been the e-cig route before and never had much luck. But after seeing how sleek and beautiful (shiny red! <3) it is and trying out some flavors from Liquid Xpress, he is definitely warming up to it. Hopefully - I will convert him.Not because I *really really* want to change him - I'm just sick of the hacking - his health is important to me. =/
- Status
Similar threads
- Locked
