I agree a lot of couples don’t make time to be couples. They’re missing out on what makes marriage worth the effort.
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I agree a lot of couples don’t make time to be couples. They’re missing out on what makes marriage worth the effort.
After 36 years of marriage we are still best friends. She knows that I have no interest in some of the places she shops, but I'll walk around and find something to occupy my time. We split up in Walmart and I walk around automotive and electronics while she shops in clothing and other areas.
We've both been retired (early) for about 9 years. Both of us attended the local technical college after retirement just in case we had to go back to work. She did construction management and worked with her nephew for a while doing bids and estimates and I went through the Cisco networking course. We walked across the stage at the local Coliseum on graduation night and received our technical diplomas.
Life's been good!
Yep....if you're comfortable in each others company something is going right. We give each other a bit of space to do are own thing but generally we just like being together and if you get that feeling of love as you did when you first fell in love that is really special and should never be taken for granted.
I generally have 5-6 setups on the go but I didn't used to have that many. A lot of it is testing new review products......having said that though I like having my daily vape (BB) always available with my Ataman V2 or V4. The BB is set up for DL and the Ataman's are strictly mtl rta's and I love having the two contrasting vape styles available to puff once in a while
I generally have 5-6 setups on the go but I didn't used to have that many. A lot of it is testing new review products......having said that though I like having my daily vape (BB) always available with my Ataman V2 or V4. The BB is set up for DL and the Ataman's are strictly mtl rta's and I love having the two contrasting vape styles available to puff once in a while
I retired from a rather stressful sixty hour/week job at 70.. I lasted from January 5 to March 1 before I realized that I am not a retiring kind of guy. I have been working around 15-20 hours a week in a different though closely related field, I enjoy getting out, seeing most of the same people in a different capacity, using what remains of my mind and I am pretty well compensated for my efforts.
Mrs CMD and I go our different ways most days but at 4.30 PM we are home together either enjoying our back deck or streaming TV or out for a bite to eat. Some weekends our daughter comes over for a couple nights with her two dogs and that, with our own two, certainly disrupts the routine - probably a good thing.
It is kind of interesting, my life changed dramatically upon retirement, no aspect was the same. When my wife retired, far earlier than I, many aspects of her life were with little change but with more time to do what she does. I have wondered if that contributed to her comfort in retirement and my discomfort.
Turning back to relevant topics. I am like @Rossum, I have two squonkers at the ready at all times. Both are regulated, DNA 75. I have no panic because I happened upon a sale and bought ten DNA 75 boards and screens for $150, all I will need to do is hone my soldiering skills and I will be back squonking when a board inevitably fails. Like the late and lamented American philosopher once said, "What, me worry?"
Mrs CMD and I go our different ways most days but at 4.30 PM we are home together either enjoying our back deck or streaming TV or out for a bite to eat. Some weekends our daughter comes over for a couple nights with her two dogs and that, with our own two, certainly disrupts the routine - probably a good thing.
It is kind of interesting, my life changed dramatically upon retirement, no aspect was the same. When my wife retired, far earlier than I, many aspects of her life were with little change but with more time to do what she does. I have wondered if that contributed to her comfort in retirement and my discomfort.
Turning back to relevant topics. I am like @Rossum, I have two squonkers at the ready at all times. Both are regulated, DNA 75. I have no panic because I happened upon a sale and bought ten DNA 75 boards and screens for $150, all I will need to do is hone my soldiering skills and I will be back squonking when a board inevitably fails. Like the late and lamented American philosopher once said, "What, me worry?"
I've been downsizing my body too. It's been nice to tug the belt past another hole and not because it stretched this time.
20 pounds and counting……
It would probably be more if Mrs. States didn't keep stocking the freezer with ice cream bars.
Vaping with pods has helped because they're so easy to carry. Instead of being all taxed and stoved up from smoking my carbon monoxide free blood is liking the change without getting that nervous energy from nicotine withdrawls. It's like listening to jazz music…… toes tapping while being soothed at the same time. After discovering the pod system that checks all the boxes my supply of at least 5 devices with me is now one or two.
20 pounds and counting……
It would probably be more if Mrs. States didn't keep stocking the freezer with ice cream bars.
Vaping with pods has helped because they're so easy to carry. Instead of being all taxed and stoved up from smoking my carbon monoxide free blood is liking the change without getting that nervous energy from nicotine withdrawls. It's like listening to jazz music…… toes tapping while being soothed at the same time. After discovering the pod system that checks all the boxes my supply of at least 5 devices with me is now one or two.
I understand, I like having blood go all the way to my fingertips with actual oxygen as opposed to carbon monoxide. My increased time outside has led me to not so much wight loss as to weight distribution. The ice cream bars must be something wives like to do, We have three boxes (all "Carb Master").
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Women retire more easily than men. I think because we still have our identity as wife/mother/housekeeper, and also because we tend to have more hobbies. Men who have a good variety of hobbies do well, too.
I retired young, and that was fine for me. Becoming a widow has been an extreme challenge. The difference being that my job was not my identity, but being a wife was. I never knew what ‘finding yourself ‘ meant until that happened. Throwing myself into my passions - including but not limited to vaping- has been the key. Vaping isn’t just about saving my life by not smoking, it’s about saving my life by keeping me engaged and looking forward.
I retired early and never missed work at all. Maybe cause my new boss was an ___. I go through phases of buying and downsizing and since I don't go to movies, vacations or eating out often, I look at vaping as my entertainment as well as a lifesaver, as DeloresRose said.
I have always been a collector and vaping is a bit cheaper than growing over 1200 roses which I did at one time.
I have always been a collector and vaping is a bit cheaper than growing over 1200 roses which I did at one time.
I regret the mid section friendly ice cream bars don't come in larger quantities. I like the yogurt kind but an open box is an empty box since they only come in svelt sized boxes. Just back the truck up to my front door please.
My mower needs new wheels too. Used to be I'd barely push the personal pace handle and eventually get the grass cut. Now I (unconsciously) slam the handle, get the rear wheels doing a burn out and end up chasing the mower trying to keep up like George Jetson on the tread mill chasing Astro. "Jane, stop this crazy thing". lol. By the time the lawn is done I'm worn out like a flag after a hurricane. "oh wait… missed a blade of grass" and go back over the lawn again.
Mrs. States moves about the yard moving things I'd just run over like the dogs toys or a twig from the maple tree. Then we set on the deck while I settle down and enjoy a cold drink of stevia sweetened lemonade and feed the mosquito population. I used to light a cigarette and choke through the experience. Now I puff on a Vladdin while she smokes her favorite brand that I love the smell of. I even take a drag or two. But that's all I want anymore. I've gotten so used to taking a couple of drags from my vape stick and being done. Once you light the cigarette you're obliged to finish it.
Like a beer where 2 or 3 swallows satisfies me I do the same with the vape stick. My parents used to split a Miller pony a couple of times a year. An 8 pack would last them all summer. And sometimes they'd share a cigarette. My pop was a heavy smoker and my mom liked a drag or two. History is repeating with Mrs. States and I now. Only she is the smoker. When we go to dinner I only carry one device anymore.
My mower needs new wheels too. Used to be I'd barely push the personal pace handle and eventually get the grass cut. Now I (unconsciously) slam the handle, get the rear wheels doing a burn out and end up chasing the mower trying to keep up like George Jetson on the tread mill chasing Astro. "Jane, stop this crazy thing". lol. By the time the lawn is done I'm worn out like a flag after a hurricane. "oh wait… missed a blade of grass" and go back over the lawn again.
Mrs. States moves about the yard moving things I'd just run over like the dogs toys or a twig from the maple tree. Then we set on the deck while I settle down and enjoy a cold drink of stevia sweetened lemonade and feed the mosquito population. I used to light a cigarette and choke through the experience. Now I puff on a Vladdin while she smokes her favorite brand that I love the smell of. I even take a drag or two. But that's all I want anymore. I've gotten so used to taking a couple of drags from my vape stick and being done. Once you light the cigarette you're obliged to finish it.
Like a beer where 2 or 3 swallows satisfies me I do the same with the vape stick. My parents used to split a Miller pony a couple of times a year. An 8 pack would last them all summer. And sometimes they'd share a cigarette. My pop was a heavy smoker and my mom liked a drag or two. History is repeating with Mrs. States and I now. Only she is the smoker. When we go to dinner I only carry one device anymore.
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I found breaking (dropping) mods has been the fastest way to down size. Not sure who invented gravity anyway...
Oh, I have been known to carry 3 setups with me when I KNOW I wont even get a chance to vape. Because you just never know. LOL.
The husband grew up around women (mostly, his dad died when he was like a year old and his family is a matriarchal bunch.)
We will shop together.... But, not for clothes. LOL he hates it. One year, I asked for my birthday present that he go clothes shopping with me, and he wasn't happy but he did it. He was SO good at it too, saying all the right things, encouraging me to try on this or that. LOL.
Some of the stuff I got was a bit slutty. But otherwise, I was a big fan. For some stuff though, you just want to go with your girlfriends.
I have been too busy and crazed and whatnot and my two favorite women at my work just BOTH went out on FMLA for having kiddos. Etc.
Don't get me wrong, plenty of folks I like, it's just... Girlfriends, IDK. I need to start adding that into my life.
Anna
The husband grew up around women (mostly, his dad died when he was like a year old and his family is a matriarchal bunch.)
We will shop together.... But, not for clothes. LOL he hates it. One year, I asked for my birthday present that he go clothes shopping with me, and he wasn't happy but he did it. He was SO good at it too, saying all the right things, encouraging me to try on this or that. LOL.
Some of the stuff I got was a bit slutty. But otherwise, I was a big fan. For some stuff though, you just want to go with your girlfriends.
I have been too busy and crazed and whatnot and my two favorite women at my work just BOTH went out on FMLA for having kiddos. Etc.
Don't get me wrong, plenty of folks I like, it's just... Girlfriends, IDK. I need to start adding that into my life.
Anna
I dropped a Pico in the pool once and quickly killed it so I ordered a 'few' more.
I am a sucker for unique colors and pretty mods. In fact, just ordered a green/white Pico and a Rosefinch mech just cause they are pretty.
Pico in the pool. Wasn't that a movie? Yeah, a FEW more always seems to be my "problem"
I don't believe in avoidable panic, life hands me plenty on my own. I'd rather be prepared and wrong, than unprepared and right.
However I am stocked enough that anything else is just "I want that." I mean, it's harder to say no if you are thinking deeming is around the corner,
Although it has been a topic on ECF since I joined one that made me super panic stricken in the beginning. Maybe it's this endless thing that will never happen but I really do wonder. Dates are firming up, but then they were "Firm" before.
Since I like vape items and can be self sufficient I don't worry although right now I'd like my savings to be more, etc. I should start worrying about THAT.
However I don't regret much, not compared to the treatment costs of COPD. I don't even factor in my cigarette costs, but the treatment costs of COPD are INSANE.
Anna
However I am stocked enough that anything else is just "I want that." I mean, it's harder to say no if you are thinking deeming is around the corner,
Although it has been a topic on ECF since I joined one that made me super panic stricken in the beginning. Maybe it's this endless thing that will never happen but I really do wonder. Dates are firming up, but then they were "Firm" before.
Since I like vape items and can be self sufficient I don't worry although right now I'd like my savings to be more, etc. I should start worrying about THAT.
However I don't regret much, not compared to the treatment costs of COPD. I don't even factor in my cigarette costs, but the treatment costs of COPD are INSANE.
Anna
Even if you don't feel comfortable doing that yourself, if you've got the boards, I'm confident you'll be able to find someone who's capable. Also, IIRC, the newer generation DNA boards (75, 200, 250) use good-sized pads for the wires rather than through-holes that are too small for the recommended wire size (as the 20, 30, and 40 did).
And lastly, I'm pretty sure you've got mechanical squonker backups.
I have retired three times now. This morning I was asked to come out of retirement again, for a month.
I used swear words they had never heard before.
It's educational I said.
I just did a rough count up, excluding the 10 or so I have given away, there are >30 devices or tanks etc boxed and stored, plus spare coils, the odd spare tank glass, cotton, wire ( I rarely build), bottles, flavourings etc. If a no-deal Brexit results in UK becoming a desolate desert island I & relatives should be OK.
Oh and the makings for liquid, but probably not enough... hmmm. Only one little squonk, hmmm I was going to get another.
Shopping. Urgh. I would rather wrestle alligators than go clothes shopping, even for myself. Look, click, buy it, thank you Postie for delivering, done.
I used swear words they had never heard before.
It's educational I said. I just did a rough count up, excluding the 10 or so I have given away, there are >30 devices or tanks etc boxed and stored, plus spare coils, the odd spare tank glass, cotton, wire ( I rarely build), bottles, flavourings etc. If a no-deal Brexit results in UK becoming a desolate desert island I & relatives should be OK.
Oh and the makings for liquid, but probably not enough... hmmm. Only one little squonk, hmmm I was going to get another.
Shopping. Urgh. I would rather wrestle alligators than go clothes shopping, even for myself. Look, click, buy it, thank you Postie for delivering, done.
And lastly, I'm pretty sure you've got mechanical squonker backups.
I have a Reo Grand that I modified with a silver positive and a silver screw for ground. Then there is the utterly indestructible CC built to survive all be a nuclear detonation.
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