GLASSMANOAK'S Contest Thread #119..for WINNERS and with MULTIPLE WINNERS !!

[rangerrobin]

11/22 #6

@anjelvape77 - Ditto x100 what others here have said more gracefully! Self-care is very important. I am sorry for your loss. Do what FEELS right / is best for you.

 

[Amlowe]

@anjelvape77
XoxoX
So sorry darlin.

 

[KatzWh1skers]

@anjelvape77 ....taking care of yourself does not make you a bad person. [HUGS] ...Things are in transition for you right now ... I do agree with our other angel about letting your loved one's know how you feel.... It doesn't hafta be right this second.... It's just about keepin things real ... Thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time .

@tiggerrts ... I don't know about Texas law ..but it seems to me that the best course of action is to discuss this with your lawyer , if the deadline comes and goes. He is the one who speaks legalese and the one who "represents" you. He is best versed in the "Rules" we spoke about a few months back. Let him do the confronting . I know your feelings are feeling pushed and pulled like taffy right now ... Just remember.... the Rules are set ... Yes..just like a game of chess. The other side makes their move ..or fails to...which still counts as a move ..and then ...with a cool head .. it is your legal Team's turn to move.
I hope the analogy helps .... [HUGS]

@liblue1 ...I have been adopted by a cat today ..What do you think of that??! He just appeared out of nowhere...came up to me and sat on my lap while I was outside "gathering acorns" today ... hmmm .. .. and I don't believe I have ever even seen this lil guy before today. Still... he seems to know me ..We played with some string and a catnip toy ...and he has made himself right at home and is sleeping on my bed right now Maybe he is my animal spirit In any case...I'll give the neighbors a call tomorrow and see if he's one of theirs. But for tonight... I have kitty Joy!
G'nite/ Morning everyone

 

[Roadtrip635]

11/22*1

I have spent ALL DAY on the phone...I didn't even put it down for about three hours, just kept swapping between calls...all the relatives have realized I wont be home for Thanksgiving and this is the first year without me home...I tell them its so hubby wont be alone this year but Ill tell you guys the truth...its the first year without my mom and I just don't wanna...

I don't wanna cook
I don't wanna fake smile
and
I don't wanna cry in front of my babies

Does it make me a horrible person to hide from them all?

Ive promised to come home and rearrange the house for the tree and do Christmas up right but yesterday my son and I were crying on the phone over the change tradition from my moms house to mine and now the need to change from my house to his and I realized I REALLY REALLY don't want to do the holidays this year...there was this tradition of my mom bringing the turkey before I left California and a different tradition of our calls once I left and I just don't think I can do this this year

Hubby will be off and I really do want to be with him this year but hes not really a holiday person so we will probably do something silly like get Chinese take out and watch 300 (AGAIN)

How do you do it? How do you be the strength of the family when you feel so weak inside, so terribly small

I'm sorry to be such a sad person on our happy treehome. So many are sick and have much worse problems than I. I just don't know where else to lay this down and talk it out.

Maybe this year I will make some of my alcoholic oranges (@angelphyre you remember the ones I was making a couple contests ago?) and just pretend its a different day!


I hope our sick member get well quick, our hurting members find peace and that @Fuzzy Thunderbear did not hurt his ankle too badly!

11/22 #4

My Mom passed away about a year and a half ago and last Thanksgiving was the first one without her. I had a similar feeling, I really didn't feel up to it and truly considered just not going. After thinking and praying on it, I realized I needed to go, not for the rest of my family so much as me myself and my Mom's memory. My Mom lived for family and what it meant to her and I knew that she would want all the family all together even if she couldn't be there. I won't lie, it was very tough at first, there was a sense of sadness at first. It was good that the whole family was together, we all shared and worked through it together, leaned on each other, but then that's when it happens.

We started talking about past holidays and different stories and it brought us all together in a different way. We talked, laughed and cried and were thankful for all those wonderful memories, that we could share them together. I think my Mom would have been proud, we were still a family and kept carrying on all those traditions that she loved so much. It was a wonderful way to honor her memory and what she would have wanted. Those traditions aren't about the acts, they were about the memories and spirit that they represent. I realized, time is short and it's important to have family around to laugh and cry together, to be thankful for having these people in my life.

You need to do what's right for you, to find a way to make your peace. Sorry I don't normally do emotional posts like this, but just wanted to share my experience.

 

[Uncle]

I did sleep most of the night without tossing and turning too much though...guess the Nyquil worked...

See and here I thought it would have been that spanking . . .

must be transplants from elsewhere who are stuck with a certain way of dressing in November.

Down here - when it gets into the 60's it is all the locals in those Sweaters and Winter coats . . .

@anjelvape77 I don't know if "You" knew or remember when I brought it up in the thread before, but I am not only a Counselor in Human Behaviour Modification, I also created and facilitate a Community Bereavement Support Group . . .

For brevity - DITTO - What everyone else said and I cannot emphasis it enough, especially the following . . .

@anjelvape77, you are not a horrible person for hiding at all! Each of us deal with sorrow in our own way (and in our own time frame). Sometimes retreating into ourselves is the best way to handle it. (EVEN With) That said, you must be social next year (even if you have to force yourself to do something different with your loved ones) --sequestering oneself can become a habit that then takes over your life. Don't let it happen.

You just need to explain to them why it is too hard for you. They might surprise you with how understanding they are.

(esepcially since they maybe going through the same feelings and want to change things up too. More importantly, what better time of the year then these Holidays to Celebrate the Lives of the Loved Ones who have created those memories that mean and brought so much joy to "You.")

eventually you'll get to where you can do something similar. But for now, it's perfectly okay to do what is best for YOU!

Matter of fact, this advice would be good for anyone else going through tough times during the holiday season to remember too . . . Just Sayin' . . .

but I'll get over it.

Ya' Better . . . AND - "You" know better too . . .

Just Sayin' . . .
BTW:

So - Here is "My" usual last post of the night . . .

Okay - It's that time again . . .


For "Everyone" In NEED . . .

"GOOD VIBES" & "Healing Thoughts"​

. . . are being sent "Your" Way​

Once again - For all of the 'Tree-Peeps" already gone to bed and those about to go . . .

Hope Ya' have very restful night and pleasant dreams . . .

Okay - I'm done for the Day . . .

It's . . .

AND - I'm off . . .

Good "MoringNite" All - See Ya' Tomorrow . . .

​

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[Fuzzy Thunderbear]

11/22 #4

Y A W N . . . Gonna tuck my tootsies under the blankies and dream of a warmer time... G'nite TreeFam.

 

[rangerrobin]

Good Night / G'Mornin' and Good Vibes Tree Fam!

 

[mac63]

11/23
#1

Trying catching up with work stuff I've been going nonstop all day - glad the work part is almost over for today.

 

[liblue1]

11/22 #4
Wow Katz....interesting indeed..........
Good night Treefam...............

 

[mac63]

11/23
#2

Back home and will hopefully be able to relax. Have a feeling tomorrow is gonna be another busy day.

 

[LynnNC]

11/23 #1
Good morning/afternoon/evening TreeFam... Today is gonna be a long day! 10 hour shift and only 3 days to work this week due to the holiday so the day/week is going to drag. I hope everyone has as awesome a day as you all are!

 

[mac63]

11/23
#3

1 day done, 2 to go then off for 5

 

[mac63]

11/23
#4
15 min

I'm a bit mentally fried after some of the stuff I had to deal with today - getting tired of always having to remind people of what they need to do for their job and in many case to do their job.

And I have no idea what those boxes are supposed to be.

 

[mac63]

11/23
#5
15 min

Wed should hopefully be a quiet day and they should be letting us out a bit early.

 

[mac63]

11/23
#6
15 min

Got a new toy today - Tesla Two Sub Mod. It's basically like a mech but has some of the safety features like a regulated. Has a 4500mah internal battery. Put a ST on it and was ok but giving a bit too much power to it for what I like with the STs. Then tried a dripper an that was nice. Still haven't decided what I'll be running on it - most likely a dripper but which one and what build - hmmm.

Still waiting on a couple other things to get here and I'm starting to wonder if they'll ever show up.

 

[teemae]

11-23 #1
I truly dislike mornings. This is usually I am getting to sleep at this time. Most of my dad's family is like this. We don't sleep at night. But. Gotta get the hubby and the semi on the road so maybe, just maybe he can be home for Thanksgiving.

@mac63
Awesome on the new toy, but, I believe the saying is pictures or it didn't happen. I like to see what people have and all that so I can learn new stuffs

 

[Shawn Hoefer]

I got lots of vapemail coming today! 3 mods, 10 bottles, 5 drip tips...

 

[DaleH1985]

11/23 #1
Hello Everyone. Another glorious day at work...At least I don't hate my job now. Have a great day.

 

[CountBoredom]

11/23 #1
Good morning, everyone.

 

[rangerrobin]

11/23 #1

Good Mornin' / G'Night and Good Vibes Tree Fam!