I thought I had ditched the analogs for good. I thought NOTHING could ever get me to start smoking these filthy things again. I thought wrong. My wife wants a divorce. I feel like I have been torn apart from the inside out and my old friends were waiting all along.
Guess I'm done vaping for now...
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Sorry to hear that, that completely sucks - I can only hope it works out for the best for you in the end, both with your personal life as well as with smokng
Sorry to hear that, that completely sucks - I can only hope it works out for the best for you in the end, both with your personal life as well as with smokng
Your old friends are right on this forum here waiting to help you through this. When you're ready, your trustry old e cig will be waiting for you in that kitchen drawer.
Sorry for your loss, and best of luck. We'll leave the light on for ya.
Sorry for your loss, and best of luck. We'll leave the light on for ya.
Ren,
Been there - done that(the divorce thing).
It takes a little time, but it will get better - you just can't see it right now. For me, it was the best thing that ever happened to me, although I did not know it immediately.
It is all good now.
We are here for you.
Oh - and vaping will keep you from smelling like cigarettes. Lots of ladies do not like the old cigarette smell.
Been there - done that(the divorce thing).
It takes a little time, but it will get better - you just can't see it right now. For me, it was the best thing that ever happened to me, although I did not know it immediately.
It is all good now. We are here for you.
Oh - and vaping will keep you from smelling like cigarettes. Lots of ladies do not like the old cigarette smell.
I can't even imagine the pain and anger you're probably feeling. I can completely understand the need/want to go back to analogues though. In times of stress it's sometimes works out for the better to go for the quicker, easier, stress reliever. Don't forget about the e-cig though. Give yourself some time for the stress to work its way through your system, then come back. While thngs may seem out of your control, this is one thing that IS WITHIN your control.
Best of luck, and take it one day at time.
Best of luck, and take it one day at time.
Be done with both of them. Give her all your cigarettes,
and keep your vaporizer.
Hang in there...
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Father Luke
and keep your vaporizer.
Hang in there...
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Okay,
Father Luke
Agreed.................I tried to get divorced once but it just wasn't meant to be. You might not laugh at this now, but I am jealous.(and not about the cigs)
I can't agree with this more...I'm not Divorced(Never married) But i'm in and out of court fighting for Visitation and Custody of my only daughter....When your the father in a custody case there is very little you can do, nothing seems in control i've found keeping the rest of my life OVER controlled and orginized has help me keep the little sanity i have left...
Take it one day at a time rengic and know that even if it feels like the world is against you...YOU still control YOU
an e-cig is a type of smart recovery. You want the less of two evils. Smart recovery says even if you smoke for a few days or even weeks you can allways come back......
the e cig will still be there, as long as you are aware of the fact you can start vaping again....a pack of cigs wont be the end.....
also, if you want to save your marriage, I say step outside your comfort level, and change a little for your wife- or don't.......................................................I'm going surfing.
the e cig will still be there, as long as you are aware of the fact you can start vaping again....a pack of cigs wont be the end.....
also, if you want to save your marriage, I say step outside your comfort level, and change a little for your wife- or don't.......................................................I'm going surfing.
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Jeez guys, thanks for the sweet replies. I felt a little silly posting this here but now I don't regret it one bit! This is one of the most difficult things I have ever experienced but YES. My PVs will be in the drawer waiting until I regain some semblance of control. I can't cope right now but it doesn't mean I won't be able to later. Plus, I ordered some fresh liquid from litecig just recently and it is not like I'm going to just toss it out.
rengic, I can completely sympathise....going through a painful divorce myself as well as separation from my kids. It's definitely not fun and most words don't help very much. Just know you're not alone out there...take it one day at a time, try to keep your chin up and remember that there is a light at the end of the tunnel....it may not be the light we want at this very moment....but it is a light.
The divorce part sucks and I understand the need to go back to analogs for a while. They are like an old friend that you love and have missed. But don't forget your trusty PV, it's a much better company to keep.
Hope everything works out for the best.
Hope everything works out for the best.
As others have said, fellow Washingtonian, it hurts BADLY at first, and then you will realize it's for the best. The same thing happened to me, and not 6 months later I met the PERFECT girl. I had always joked with my ex, "I'm going to trade you in on a new model." Well, I did, she was 18, going to college, had her **** together, financially stable, and rockin' body. So I test drove the little ferrari for 2 years, and now we are happily married, my life is on the up and up, and I'm with a prospective oral surgeon not a prospective subway sandwich shop manager with an "in the closet" drug problem.
It really is for the best my friend, think of some of the doors that will open for you and you'll feel a little better. Have a nice glass of brandy and a nice fat cigar, relax and you will see that all is not lost, but there is certainly more potential for you to GAIN!
It really is for the best my friend, think of some of the doors that will open for you and you'll feel a little better. Have a nice glass of brandy and a nice fat cigar, relax and you will see that all is not lost, but there is certainly more potential for you to GAIN!
Thanks .308. Its hard to imagine much good will come of this now but then again its hard to imagine things that haven't yet happened. BTW, nice grouping on your avatar pic. I haven't been to the range in a while (wife didn't approve lol).
Going through a divorce is a little like losing someone to death. you need to go through all the steps, rage sadness denial and finally acceptance. Give it time. God knows it hurts!
When your emotions have settled down, understand cigarettes are like alcohol, they only dull but don't relieve the pain. keep your P.V. closer and find some friends of your own!
We are here if you want to vent..it helps. I know! I just lived through one of the hardest months of my life with the help of the good people here.
When your emotions have settled down, understand cigarettes are like alcohol, they only dull but don't relieve the pain. keep your P.V. closer and find some friends of your own!
We are here if you want to vent..it helps. I know! I just lived through one of the hardest months of my life with the help of the good people here.
I feel for you, been through it. Dignity is a treasure no one can take, unless we hand it over first. I wouldn't give anyone the satisfaction of saying, they drove me to do anything. That's one area you she doesn't have a sayso over and is in your hands. You don't need cigarettes any more, you can vape through it. Atleast that way, you won't be kicking yourself for it later on and it'll give you one sure thing to hold onto.
Having gone through this myself, I learned not to let anyone else decide or change my decisions, when it comes to my health, my personal contentment and enjoyment of life. Life is too short for this, just like that vapor, is here, for a moment, and then it's gone. If vaping was your choice and was helping you, you can't let circumstances dictate to you how to handle it. In the past, we turned to cigs, and at the time, it may have felt like we had no choice. But now we do.....this could determine your future and how things may affect others in your life down the road.
Time is a funny thing..... you never know what will be , it's always wise to leave room for changes, things can seem like an end one day, and can turn around to be a new beginning the next, you never know.....nothing is permanent, and it's never too late.....
Having gone through this myself, I learned not to let anyone else decide or change my decisions, when it comes to my health, my personal contentment and enjoyment of life. Life is too short for this, just like that vapor, is here, for a moment, and then it's gone. If vaping was your choice and was helping you, you can't let circumstances dictate to you how to handle it. In the past, we turned to cigs, and at the time, it may have felt like we had no choice. But now we do.....this could determine your future and how things may affect others in your life down the road.
Time is a funny thing..... you never know what will be , it's always wise to leave room for changes, things can seem like an end one day, and can turn around to be a new beginning the next, you never know.....nothing is permanent, and it's never too late.....
Denial and Isolation.
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer.
Anger.
The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she's dead), or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.
Bargaining.
Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"
Depression.
The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath.
Acceptance.
This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.
Grieving and its stresses pass more quickly, with good self-care habits. It helps to have a close circle of family or friends. It also helps to eat a balanced diet, drink enough non-alcoholic fluids, get exercise and rest.
Talk about it and give yourself a break..Your worth it, and you deserve it.
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer.
Anger.
The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she's dead), or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.
Bargaining.
Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"
Depression.
The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath.
Acceptance.
This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.
Grieving and its stresses pass more quickly, with good self-care habits. It helps to have a close circle of family or friends. It also helps to eat a balanced diet, drink enough non-alcoholic fluids, get exercise and rest.
Talk about it and give yourself a break..Your worth it, and you deserve it.
rengic....not much I can say that hasn't already been said.
I've also been through the divorce thing (my decision) and in a relationship that ended that was not my decision....
All I can say is sometimes, I do "Thank God for unanswered prayers."
Had my prayers been answered, as I asked for them when I had a broken heart.... I would now be a very miserable person.
If you smoke, don't beat yourself up for it. Things will fall into place as time sees fit.
Hang in there!
I've also been through the divorce thing (my decision) and in a relationship that ended that was not my decision....
All I can say is sometimes, I do "Thank God for unanswered prayers."
Had my prayers been answered, as I asked for them when I had a broken heart.... I would now be a very miserable person.
If you smoke, don't beat yourself up for it. Things will fall into place as time sees fit.
Hang in there!
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