I need to vent

[Tinkiegrrl]

My hubby died 8 years ago.
He could have all my vape gear without asking and everything else if he would just come back!
Just sayin'
Hope you find peace in your home, it is worth working for.
Pat

I'm so sorry to hear about that. It's part of the reason I'm venting here rather then really laying into him, although we've had discussions. With his family medical considitions, and some of them manifesting in him already, really I'm glad he's willing to try at least. He's also joining the Y to start getting back in shape. This vape thing has lighted a fire in him, now that he can breathe it appears. I see how it's benefitting his entire mindset in regards to his health and he needs to

 

[Hill]

I always, ALWAYS offer to buy him something when I'm ordering. I show him what I'm getting. I remind him on how he likes to take my crap. I tell him I research these things and when I buy something new it's typically an upgrade from what were using and he'll wind up liking it. He always says no. Don't buy two. I don't know if I'll like it. I only need what I have. Etc etc.... The tank he broke I bought plain because I expected he'd get around to taking it. It just took him weeks to decide he wanted it, and by then I was used to having three carto tanks with three flavors to choose from. I never expected to be left with one though, since he broke it so fast. And for the record, the one he broke was not one of the ones I dropped. I don't know what happened. He says I've just placed it on the tabke too hard? I'm not buying that. That glass is tougher then that for sure.

I got it. Just buy one anyways and don't tell him and keep it hidden then when he takes yours you can just bust out the new one for yourself.

 

[edyle]

I got it. Just buy one anyways and don't tell him and keep it hidden then when he takes yours you can just bust out the new one for yourself.

YES.

The thing is DON'T ask him first.

As long as he is asked first he will take the conservative approach.

 

[patkin]

Girly wraps and painted decos or paste-on diabmonds on tanks...mmm... hearts and flowers would be good or do glittery gold/silver

 

[PattyS1962]

I vote with the "buy girly stuff" crowd. But that is only the battery. I guess you could do only pink and purple tanks too. Maybe that would work. Put some heart stickers on it too.

Buy extra everything. Always. You know him. You know how he is. You say you aren't surprised. When he goes to steal yours, pull out the one you bought for him and say, "AH HA! I told you so! Admit I am always right!"

Seriously, this doesn't really sound like a problem to me. It sounds like one of the many funny relationship things that you and your husband have that you will tell stories about until the end of your days.


Edit: I don't mean to minimize what you are experiencing. It obviously drives you a bit crazy. Maybe just buy a little bit extra to make sure you aren't out of things.

 

[rob33]

seems kind of silly to come in here venting when you should be talking with him

32 years and this works best

 

[Lbx!]

He's a chef. He does all the cooking. You don't mess with the person who cooks your food.

As a chef I will vouch for her being 100% correct. Speaking as a man and a chef, pink or purple do not bother me. Culinary is so testosterone driven that there is very little left in the world that would embarrass me. I am willing to be he is in the same boat.
In all seriousness though, the best solution is to be honest with him. Explain how you feel and then just do what you know you need to do. Buy double. The other thing to do is of course vent with people who will understand your frustration. My wife "borrowed" my VV 3.0 and now it is hers. Good deal. She is not smoking and I can replace it far more easily than I can replace her.
I feel your pain though Tinkiegrrl, it does suck when your loved one falls in love with all of YOUR gear. You could always "borrow" his @home knives. Hehe, mess with him and leave them in a clean dishwasher. (do not run them through it though..please). Pull one out and say "Well, I liked this one so I decided it was mine. Now it is all clean and shiny!"

 

[Tinkiegrrl]

As a chef I will vouch for her being 100% correct. Speaking as a man and a chef, pink or purple do not bother me. Culinary is so testosterone driven that there is very little left in the world that would embarrass me. I am willing to be he is in the same boat.
In all seriousness though, the best solution is to be honest with him. Explain how you feel and then just do what you know you need to do. Buy double. The other thing to do is of course vent with people who will understand your frustration. My wife "borrowed" my VV 3.0 and now it is hers. Good deal. She is not smoking and I can replace it far more easily than I can replace her.
I feel your pain though Tinkiegrrl, it does suck when your loved one falls in love with all of YOUR gear. You could always "borrow" his @home knives. Hehe, mess with him and leave them in a clean dishwasher. (do not run them through it though..please). Pull one out and say "Well, I liked this one so I decided it was mine. Now it is all clean and shiny!"

LOL! Messing with his knives is a definite way to piss him off. Oh, I remember the first time I attempted to put one of his "babies" into the dishwasher. You should have seen him run! "No!!!! That does NEVER GOES IN THE DISHWASHER!!!!"

 

[Steamix]

You could always "borrow" his @home knives. Hehe, mess with him and leave them in a clean dishwasher. (do not run them through it though..please). Pull one out and say "Well, I liked this one so I decided it was mine. Now it is all clean and shiny!"

Oh my. Machiavelli, eat your heart out