It's 4:38 AM here. I'm sorry, did I say something wrong? I'm going to hit the sheets.
No not at all. It was in response to THE's random airport post.
Loveline: Am I too open and honest.. with women? WWYD?
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No not at all. It was in response to THE's random airport post.
"No. I don't treat women as objects. If I wanted to, I'd be running them on the streets."
Thats how you seem to talk badely about women. You make other ppls points in your responses.
Thats how you seem to talk badely about women. You make other ppls points in your responses.
But I don't do that.. and wouldn't.. If I had made them into some kind of object in my mind, I wouldn't have a problem doing something like that.
THE,
I understand perfectly the concept of what you do. You may want to do some reading. It has nothing to do with conforming. It has to do with gathering information and perspective. It makes you think, and helps you grow. I don't need to understand anything more than the concept of what you do to know that you desperately need some perspective.
Let's examine in your first post. You make no mention at all of the intelligence or personality of either woman. The closest you get is "honest." You bring up "great body," though, over and over again. You talk about how much money they make, over and over again.
I'm not asking you to be blind or stupid - I'm just asking why those are the ONLY things you think and talk about.
The only reasonable explanation I can come up with for that, is that this is a business arrangement. If that is so, then you should make it from a business perspective.
If it's not a business arrangement, then you are either looking for a sugar mama, going to great lengths for a lay, or being dishonest. One of the three.
Then stop what you're doing, and focus on that. You are not going to help your situation by throwing yourself into morally questionable situations. You need to focus on yourself.
Looking at the abyss is not going to kill you. Promise. It sucks, but it's not going to kill you. Do it, before you truly do become a bad person.
You want advice? That's why you posted this, right?
Don't see either one. Stay home, and work on yourself. Forget about it, until you get yourself together.
I understand perfectly the concept of what you do. You may want to do some reading. It has nothing to do with conforming. It has to do with gathering information and perspective. It makes you think, and helps you grow. I don't need to understand anything more than the concept of what you do to know that you desperately need some perspective.
Let's examine in your first post. You make no mention at all of the intelligence or personality of either woman. The closest you get is "honest." You bring up "great body," though, over and over again. You talk about how much money they make, over and over again.
I'm not asking you to be blind or stupid - I'm just asking why those are the ONLY things you think and talk about.
The only reasonable explanation I can come up with for that, is that this is a business arrangement. If that is so, then you should make it from a business perspective.
If it's not a business arrangement, then you are either looking for a sugar mama, going to great lengths for a lay, or being dishonest. One of the three.
Then stop what you're doing, and focus on that. You are not going to help your situation by throwing yourself into morally questionable situations. You need to focus on yourself.
Looking at the abyss is not going to kill you. Promise. It sucks, but it's not going to kill you. Do it, before you truly do become a bad person.
You want advice? That's why you posted this, right?
Don't see either one. Stay home, and work on yourself. Forget about it, until you get yourself together.
The the problem you are having is with the small furriies. You continually bring them up, when nuclear fusion is discussed by the local garbage men.
This is the real forked problem, compounded by inverted polarity reversal of cheap jewelry.
first #=number so #A would be inaccurate (nitpicking)
If you are a true "playa" (just picked that up from the youngsters) you convince B to get you a ticket but change it at the terminal and go see A.
I would handle it different.. but I think that would help YOUR situation
Might not help his situation if one of these girls owns a firearm.
I think cozzy has pinpointed the real underlying issue here. Hes a wise man, heed his words.
I've done some reading.. but I don't want to do too much and become just like every other self proclaimed DD expert. I am a natural and want to keep it that way. The women I've seen tell me how impossible it is to find a "real" one, like me, and that makes me very happy. Most men who claim to be me are just idiots trying to get into women by saying they're "into" what I do.... then some of them are just men who want to get away with causing harm to women they see.. A man like I am is almost impossible to find, I know it, and I can be cocky about it. That's not up for debate because I've proven it time and again and it's what they've told me and I can't help that.
You make an excellent point.. I did make it sound like I was focusing on the bodies and what they could do for me... I want to get away for awhile, and enjoy some female flesh...... not get married. So yes, I am focusing on what my 1-3 weeks will be like. Yes, it's a bit shallow, I suppose. I didn't mention the intelligence or personality, but believe me, both of those count big with me .... they both had to pass the intelligence and personality prerequisites to even KNOW me, so it's not something that I really had to put out there (though I should have). I assumed that the rest of the world knew something I take for granted (which I've done before)
"Then stop what you're doing, and focus on that. You are not going to help your situation by throwing yourself into morally questionable situations. You need to focus on yourself." AGREED... that is why I put a STOP to women travelling me, earlier this year.... I thought I should just work on ME and stop wasting time flying all over. What I need to do is STOP being so concerned about loved ones and let them sink or swim.
I'm not a three year old. I understand the situation and what I need to do. I'm trying to tell you that there's something wrong with me. I just don't do right things for myself, any more. And I never planned for this.. I spent all of my money when I was younger because I was supposed to be dead by now. I can still make alot of money when I want to, and for some reason I don't go and do it.
There's something wrong with me and offensive as you've been I do have to appreciate you challenging me. You don't have to hold my hand and talk to me like I need to look at and face something. I face everything head on, every day. I don't rationalize or hide anything from myself.
How am I going to become a bad person by being who I am? The only person I have ever caused problems for is
1. Myself
2. People who cheated me in business
3. Child molestors
4. Thieves
I know you're right about staying here and just working through it .. But I don't know what to do out here in the middle of nowhere .. these people around here don't like me, won't do business with me. I even saved this one guys whole business and he hates me, too. I make some money online, even now - but it is not enough and is two months late!! I managed to make enough around town here to keep everything paid up - I've done real well - but then BLAM the car broke down and I just want to
I'm so frustratedWouldn't you want to get away for awhile, too? Seeing as how nothing productive seems like it can really happen where you are? Being surrounded by ignorant negative doom and gloom type of people is sucking the life out of my soul over here
Sometimes when it doesn't rain my bumblebees cannot fly and I am on the watchtower waiting for my vodka and coca cola and I can look when the earth doesn't spin when I hold your gun and the moon is over africa, so I digress and apologize for any indiscretion and youi can remain as a fool.
And no,
I'm not saying that either one of us is gay.
Some of them do.. And I like it
A-lot.
I always say that if I ever die, I hope it's because a woman killed me.. and not to kidneys or a car accident or anything stupid like that
If you really are good at what you do, you don't need to be cocky. You should be sure enough of yourself that you have nothing to prove.
I can tell you for certain that I know what it's like to be stuck, broke, in a place that feels like it's eating your soul. I lived in a suitcase for 3 years, dude.
But I discovered that I am ultimately responsible for making myself happy. If I am not happy, moving won't fix it. So I planted my .... in a place I hated with a job that made me feel like I was selling my soul for minimum wage and not enough hours to survive, and I made it work.
I started looking harder for good people. I started being better to myself. I decided I was not going to make excuses for myself anymore.
So stop making excuses for yourself.
Then do what you need to do to make it work. Obviously what you have been doing isn't working. You know what they say about doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Try something else.
You know what else helped me?
Getting completely and totally out of the romance/dating/getting laid game for a while. Man it was a relief when I realized I had room to clear my head.
And here's a spoiler: It all had a happy ending. At least, it has as I sit here now.
I can tell you for certain that I know what it's like to be stuck, broke, in a place that feels like it's eating your soul. I lived in a suitcase for 3 years, dude.
But I discovered that I am ultimately responsible for making myself happy. If I am not happy, moving won't fix it. So I planted my .... in a place I hated with a job that made me feel like I was selling my soul for minimum wage and not enough hours to survive, and I made it work.
I started looking harder for good people. I started being better to myself. I decided I was not going to make excuses for myself anymore.
So stop making excuses for yourself.
Then do what you need to do to make it work. Obviously what you have been doing isn't working. You know what they say about doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Try something else.
You know what else helped me?
Getting completely and totally out of the romance/dating/getting laid game for a while. Man it was a relief when I realized I had room to clear my head.
And here's a spoiler: It all had a happy ending. At least, it has as I sit here now.
MistressNomad: If you really are good at what you do, you don't need to be cocky. You should be sure enough of yourself that you have nothing to prove.
Agreed.. I just feel so pleased with that part of myself that I love to express it. But you're right.
I can tell you for certain that I know what it's like to be stuck, broke, in a place that feels like it's eating your soul. I lived in a suitcase for 3 years, dude.
But I discovered that I am ultimately responsible for making myself happy. If I am not happy, moving won't fix it. So I planted my .... in a place I hated with a job that made me feel like I was selling my soul for minimum wage and not enough hours to survive, and I made it work.
I started looking harder for good people. I started being better to myself. I decided I was not going to make excuses for myself anymore.
So stop making excuses for yourself.
Good for you.. I've only been on the streets once, for a couple of months, and it was dehumanizing and humbling.. Had some good times just roaming around the highways in my old '79 Cad. Met some interesting and some scary people. It was good for me, but I don't want to do it again.
I don't make any excuses for myself.. I don't think... I just tell me how I am.
A woman with the brain you have doesn't have to be broke ... you sound like a woman who could have one hell of a career in just about whatever you want to do. And that means a-lot coming from me.
Then do what you need to do to make it work. Obviously what you have been doing isn't working. You know what they say about doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Try something else.
I just seem like I let myself have enough to scrape by.. I've been withholding financial security from MYSELF. I don't know why I do that. If someone can ever explain it to me, I'd give them anything they asked. But like you said, I know *I* have to figure it out
You know what else helped me?
Getting completely and totally out of the romance/dating/getting laid game for a while. Man it was a relief when I realized I had room to clear my head.
And here's a spoiler: It all had a happy ending. At least, it has as I sit here now.
I don't "get laid".. It's not right to think of it that way. You sound like a common male, when you put it that way. That's no good. I've given myself as long as 18 months completely away from women, before, and yes - it was very good for me. As a matter of fact, in that 18 months, I didn't see ANYONE. Complete solitude. And I was dead sober the whole time.
I also have a piece of constructive criticism for you: I think that you may suffer from a touch of the young persons "I know everything" syndrome.. so I was a bit offended when you told me that I need to "mature". We ALL learn something every day and none of us knowns everything.
Agreed.. I just feel so pleased with that part of myself that I love to express it. But you're right.
I can tell you for certain that I know what it's like to be stuck, broke, in a place that feels like it's eating your soul. I lived in a suitcase for 3 years, dude.
But I discovered that I am ultimately responsible for making myself happy. If I am not happy, moving won't fix it. So I planted my .... in a place I hated with a job that made me feel like I was selling my soul for minimum wage and not enough hours to survive, and I made it work.
I started looking harder for good people. I started being better to myself. I decided I was not going to make excuses for myself anymore.
So stop making excuses for yourself.
Good for you.. I've only been on the streets once, for a couple of months, and it was dehumanizing and humbling.. Had some good times just roaming around the highways in my old '79 Cad. Met some interesting and some scary people. It was good for me, but I don't want to do it again.
I don't make any excuses for myself.. I don't think... I just tell me how I am.
A woman with the brain you have doesn't have to be broke ... you sound like a woman who could have one hell of a career in just about whatever you want to do. And that means a-lot coming from me.
Then do what you need to do to make it work. Obviously what you have been doing isn't working. You know what they say about doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Try something else.
I just seem like I let myself have enough to scrape by.. I've been withholding financial security from MYSELF. I don't know why I do that. If someone can ever explain it to me, I'd give them anything they asked. But like you said, I know *I* have to figure it out
You know what else helped me?
Getting completely and totally out of the romance/dating/getting laid game for a while. Man it was a relief when I realized I had room to clear my head.
And here's a spoiler: It all had a happy ending. At least, it has as I sit here now.
I don't "get laid".. It's not right to think of it that way. You sound like a common male, when you put it that way. That's no good. I've given myself as long as 18 months completely away from women, before, and yes - it was very good for me. As a matter of fact, in that 18 months, I didn't see ANYONE. Complete solitude. And I was dead sober the whole time.
I also have a piece of constructive criticism for you: I think that you may suffer from a touch of the young persons "I know everything" syndrome.. so I was a bit offended when you told me that I need to "mature". We ALL learn something every day and none of us knowns everything.
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