"Offensive" Odors

[Boomer]

Seems to me that he is jealous of you being able to smoke in the house whilst he has to go out to the porch (If thats the case, thats how i read it). If he does not go to the porch and makes you then what everyone else says!!

You should stick to your guns on this one!

 

[skullsoup432]

I was vaping in a buddies truck, who didn't have a clue as to what the juice ingredients are. All of a sudden he pulled over an popped the hood. Then he said "I smell antifreeze, somethings wrong." A pretty damn good guess.
No one else has complained of odor.

 

[e-pipeman]

I was vaping in a buddies truck, who didn't have a clue as to what the juice ingredients are. All of a sudden he pulled over an popped the hood. Then he said "I smell antifreeze, somethings wrong." A pretty damn good guess.
No one else has complained of odor.

Love your sig skullsoup - but shouldn't Walrus have it?

 

[Walrus]

Love your sig skullsoup - but shouldn't Walrus have it?

LOL... I don't have room in my sig line anyway

 

[Caesarea]

Someone said :
(snip)

<<Maybe the man feels that his "tobacco" is threatened by your e-cig?>>


I have a theory that where one of the partners smokes and the other vapes, there is a genuine olfactory clash. I know I couldn't bear my analogs right from day one. Maybe this is a mutual phenomenon when both vaper and smoker are under one roof?

Whereas if there had been a partner about who was a non smoker or ex smoker, the chances are that the vape scent would not have been noticed. Lots of posts bear this one out.

How about if the analog smoker dislikes the vape scent BECAUSE he/she smokes???? not necessarily as a control issue, or because you threaten this activity, but that there IS a genuine difference in the perception of the smell.

Seems plausible to me. What do you think?

 

[ChainSmkr]

Maybe he's feeling threatened and defensive because he'll be left combusting alone

I think that's exactly what's going on. He needs to join you in vaping, then watch the apartment magically become odorless again!

p.s. If this happens often, you may want to rethink things. Being whimsically "disallowed" is gonna grow old real fast. 8-o

 

[Bruceslog]

Are you saying he's smoking analogs and that's ok but your vaping is not ok?

How to train your man

Step1 When your man does something you don't like, don't nag him to death with your words. Clearly state in 2-3 sentences your issue. If he wants to talk about it, you've got a good man. Discuss it with him. If he doesn't you're going to have to train him.

Step2 After you've stated your issue, walk away. Most men don't think on their feet, so you shouldn't really expect a well thought out response. Give him the silent treatment for 1-2days. The whole time he will be thinking about what you said. If he doesn't call you during this time, your man does not want nor deseve you...kick him to the curb.

Step3 After you have given him the silent treatment for a day or so, call him or go to his house when it's convenient for you. Do not bring up the issue...if he asks where you have been just tell him you were busy. If he brings up the issue, just listen, DO NOT SAY ANYTHING even if he is wrong. A few nods and uh-huhs will suffice to let him know you are listening. Most men already know when they've done wrong, so if your man is bullheaded and doesn't want to admit it, guilt him by not acting in the way he would expect you to:nagging and argumentative. At the end of the conversation, wether you agree with him or not, say: I'm glad you told me how you feel. Now because I listened to you I need you to listen to me... If he tries to interrupt you, remind him of how you listened to him, but do not raise you voice at any cost!

Step4 Most likely your man will never commit his heinous act again, but if he is crazy enough to go there, repeat the steps again. This time stay silent for 2-3 days. In the end, you will find out if your man is just a bullheaded jerk that you need to let go, or if your man truly cares about you. The thing is a man will care more for a woman that is strong enough to stand firm in her beliefs. If he doesn't that he isn't the man for you.

Wow Reb, you are dangerous ! You've got man training down so well that I think you could even teach a puppy dog trainer a thing or two
Very Good post. I hope it works for Menolly.
And Thanks to that post, I might recognize when I'm "being trained" now, and then I can save my wife a few days of trouble.. and save myself some lonely evenings in the process

On to the topic
I've been using Johnson Creeks Vanilla Ice Cream this past week, and when I vape when my better half is near, it makes her thirsty for a Vanilla Coke. She has a great sense of smell, has never smoked herself, and she can smell the vanilla flavor as I vape. She says it is a light, sweet vanilla scent that makes her want one of her vanilla cokes, but she says that hasn't been a problem for her.

I think that your boyfriend is being unreasonable, selfish, and rude.
I'd suggest using the training your man method above, or, of course, any of the other fine solutions offered to you in this thread. I agree with the biggest majority of the posters here.

Best of luck Menolly,. Keep us posted !

 

[Rob]

I am going to disagree with everyone here. My daughter is also sensitive to artificial type smells, and while many of the flavors I have tried, did not bother her ( I have tried about a dozen or so) 2 or 3 of them did. I made sure to finish those up away from home. It is possible that the smells do bother him, and I would say to try a few different flavors. Its like these body sprays, scented lotions etc..... to me some of them have this terrible, nose burning, reek. The sense of smell is highly subjective.

 

[ed_bollix]

Bad smells? I alway blame the cat.

 

[sherid]

Does the smell of his cigarettes bother you? It seems to me as if your fiance did not want you to quit smoking cigarettes and is now stealthily trying to make you feel that the cigs smell better than the vapes so you will either quit both or go back to smoking. I have heard of men with low self esteem who have morbidly obese wives who lose 'tons" of weight trying to sabotage their newly thin wives with tempting snacks. Maybe that is what your fiance has in mind.

 

[CssReb]

Wow Reb, you are dangerous ! You've got man training down so well that I think you could even teach a puppy dog trainer a thing or two
Very Good post. I hope it works for Menolly.
And Thanks to that post, I might recognize when I'm "being trained" now, and then I can save my wife a few days of trouble.. and save myself some lonely evenings in the process

I found it on the internet

and if that don't work ladies, try a headbutt

 

[Menolly]

No, he doesn't want me to stop smoking. (We live together, BTW- and never smoke inside) The difference between him and I, though- is that he smokes because he enjoys the tobacco. Maybe 5-7 cigarettes a day. He's not really addicted. I, on the other hand- was/am addicted. Smoking at least double what he did, and I hate the taste of combusting tobacco. I've always needed heavy menthol to cover the taste. He enjoys everything about it- especially his spicy Perique blend American Spirits. He even likes the smell of cigarettes on his clothes. (Crazy, I know)

Most of all, he doesn't understand why I want to quit. He's starting to, but he can't fully sympathize with me on this. And some of you are right- he wants to keep our traditions of smoking together on the patio (which I don't see why we can't...I just take the e-cig instead!)

He's always been very sensitive to artificial smells. When I got an air freshener for my car- he had to roll the windows down. Since he was a kid, he'd get a stomach ache from going to Pier One (with all the candles). He can't go into Bath and Body Works with me. We buy non-scented laundry detergent and dryer sheets. But regular smells, like from cooking, are fine. If I could find some liquids that were actually fruit or floral flavored without being more like "fruit candy", I'm sure he'd react better.

I'm willing to keep going outside to vape- I'm used to going out there for a cigarette or three anyways. He puts up with a TON of my ****. (for Instance, he wants no pets, but we've got 2 cats, 2 birds, and dog. I'm a messy person and he'd a tidy person....that sort of thing. We balance each other out in the end.) I was just wondering if some scents were more...light.

Seriously though, I'm gonna vape some unflavored and see if he still complains though. Do the clove flavors smell like cloves, or fake cloves?

 

[Wildsky]

I found it on the internet

and if that don't work ladies, try a headbutt

Frying pan is much easier than a headbutt.

 

[shakey ceasefire]

The difference between him and I, though- is that he smokes because he enjoys the tobacco. Maybe 5-7 cigarettes a day. He's not really addicted.

He's not addicted? Are you kidding? He's a half a pack a day smoker, and his lungs are full of tar just like any other smoker. If he's not addicted, why doesn't he stop? I smell bs ... (likes the smell in his clothes? really?)

 

[kcrlshell]

He's always been very sensitive to artificial smells. When I got an air freshener for my car- he had to roll the windows down. Since he was a kid, he'd get a stomach ache from going to Pier One (with all the candles). He can't go into Bath and Body Works with me.

This whole thing is interesting, (and also must be very frustrating for you). I'm the same way your fiance is about perfumey smells, and also a smoker of 30+ years. I can't even go in Bath and Body Works or Pier One. Makes me want to take a scraper to my whole upper respiratory tract. Household air freshners and expensive perfumes make me insane. Yet, food smells, fart smells...stuff like that doesn't bother me. So, what I'm trying to say is, he may not be manipulating you at all and genuinely bothered. I'm waiting on my battery to charge right now...just received my first e-cig two hours ago. It's going to be a VERY short experiment if it leaves a perfumey coating in my mouth and nose.

 

[dEFinitionofEPIC]

...he smokes because he enjoys the tobacco. Maybe 5-7 cigarettes a day. He's not really addicted.

LMFAO .... heard that one many, many, many times before.... I think he just likes the smell of denial on his clothes.

 

[Menolly]

LMFAO .... heard that one many, many, many times before.... I think he just likes the smell of denial on his clothes.

Maybe a little addicted. If he runs out, he can go for at least a day or two before he "needs" to buy more. THAT is a foreign concept to me!

 

[CandyGirl]

No, he doesn't want me to stop smoking. (We live together, BTW- and never smoke inside) The difference between him and I, though- is that he smokes because he enjoys the tobacco. Maybe 5-7 cigarettes a day. He's not really addicted. I, on the other hand- was/am addicted. Smoking at least double what he did, and I hate the taste of combusting tobacco. I've always needed heavy menthol to cover the taste. He enjoys everything about it- especially his spicy Perique blend American Spirits. He even likes the smell of cigarettes on his clothes. (Crazy, I know)

Most of all, he doesn't understand why I want to quit. He's starting to, but he can't fully sympathize with me on this. And some of you are right- he wants to keep our traditions of smoking together on the patio (which I don't see why we can't...I just take the e-cig instead!)

He's always been very sensitive to artificial smells. When I got an air freshener for my car- he had to roll the windows down. Since he was a kid, he'd get a stomach ache from going to Pier One (with all the candles). He can't go into Bath and Body Works with me. We buy non-scented laundry detergent and dryer sheets. But regular smells, like from cooking, are fine. If I could find some liquids that were actually fruit or floral flavored without being more like "fruit candy", I'm sure he'd react better.

I'm willing to keep going outside to vape- I'm used to going out there for a cigarette or three anyways. He puts up with a TON of my ****. (for Instance, he wants no pets, but we've got 2 cats, 2 birds, and dog. I'm a messy person and he'd a tidy person....that sort of thing. We balance each other out in the end.) I was just wondering if some scents were more...light.

Seriously though, I'm gonna vape some unflavored and see if he still complains though. Do the clove flavors smell like cloves, or fake cloves?

if he truly is that sensitive, i would be inclined to sympathize. there are certain products i don't like either. air fresheners are just one of them. i tolerate them and keep quiet out of politeness but i don't think people should have to do that in their own homes. what's all this "freshening" for anyway? clean it if it's dirty and smelly.

i know, i know, some people enjoy the fragrance, that's fine, i inhale deeply too when i smell something pleasant. but that's the problem isn't it? we all don't agree on what "smells" good or certainly what smells bad. we have to put up with so much on a day to day basis, is it so much to ask to be able to breathe fragrance free air in the precious hours we have to spend at home?

i'd be really upset if he smoked indoors and told me i have to vape outside. but i'd calm down as soon as he was moved out.

he already demonstrated a willingness to compromise on the pet issue, "he wants no pets, but we've got 2 cats, 2 birds, and dog" ? that's a pretty big compromise, imho.

sounds to me like he just doesn't want to lose his smokin' buddy?

cloves? you better have a ham in the oven, otherwise take it outside. (but that's just me)


i hope you can work it out.

 

[Bruceslog]

I found it on the internet

and if that don't work ladies, try a headbutt

LOL

Head .... 8-o

LOL

 

[Bruceslog]

Well, Menolla, sine he's That sensitive to perfumey odors, I hope another flavor of juice works for you

And even if he only smokes 7 analogs a day, his sense of smell should diminish before too much longer anyway.
Did for me.

But, Now, since I have been vaping e-cigs for a short while, I can be out for a walk in the park and I can smell somebody smoking a Marlboro, in their Car, from 30 feet away.

I've only tried strong flavored juices. Vanilla, Cherry, Cola. Sorry I don't know of one that does not have any odor at all. I'd help ya there if I knew.

Again, Best of luck.