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krazie_Kid

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Yeah totally off topic, infact it is left field. I just ended a year and 2 month relationship, and I feel fine. Actually, I feel happy. I do not feel as my life is being controlled anymore, and that I have my freedom back, but I am worried that since I feel fine, that something is wrong for me feeling this way.....
 

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Thank all of you, I just have been under so much garbage, she was always changing me, and telling me when I am happy that I am depressed, and I just was worried that something was really wrong with me, that I should go see a professional cause now I feel relieved that she and I are done.

Eleanor we were engaged to be married, but its just a lot of bs, she always wants to be with her mom, 24/7 and not around my family, she never wants to go out, perfect example, tonight I wanted us to go to the carnival by my house, and she said no. My friend calls her to see if shes going (Yeah we dont communicate well at all xD) She tells him yes, then I call her and told her what my friend said, and shes saying she never said that, so we had a huge blow out. But yeah, a lot of drama happened in 5 months and neither of us expected each other to break up. But all good things must come to an end... Wait if thats true, why does life come to an end? That aint a good thing! Most of us have crappy jobs, and/0r crappy lives!
 

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It's early days yet, you might find you start to miss her especially if she has been there for you in those depressing moments we all have. Mine constantly put me down but I know that's only cause she loves me and I don't always act in ways that suite her, but i'm not easy to live with. Ironic I know. Hope you both find happiness. :)
 

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Some relationships persist purely for the familiarity. A lot of time, people will stay in a crappy relationship just because they're afraid of the change that comes with being alone. If you're feeling liberated by the break-up, it means that it wasn't right for either of you. It's not odd by any means. In fact, this should tell you something. You shouldn't let anyone control you, or dictate how you feel, act, or live. The right person will ask you how you are feeling, not tell you. Not knowing all the details, honestly, the argument you had seems trivial, but it may have been the straw that broke the camel's back if you and her were already having problems. If the relationship had any hope, you'd get through something like this, cause lord knows, relationships entail far greater challenges than carnivals.

That being said, sometimes break-ups are harder than you think. Good luck and keep your head up.
 

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If you feel good, you did the right thing. Even if you feel $h..ty, you still probably did the right thing.
My advice: always live together first for a year, before you start talking about getting married. You think you know someone, but you don't ever really know someone till you live together.
 

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If you feel good, you did the right thing. Even if you feel $h..ty, you still probably did the right thing.
My advice: always live together first for a year, before you start talking about getting married. You think you know someone, but you don't ever really know someone till you live together.

+100 on this one.
 

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If you feel good, you did the right thing. Even if you feel $h..ty, you still probably did the right thing.
My advice: always live together first for a year, before you start talking about getting married. You think you know someone, but you don't ever really know someone till you live together.

Agreed but I would up the cohabitation to three years. That is enough time for getting to know each other, learning how to live with each other, and discovering all the negative traits and habits of your SO. At that time, you can decide if this is the person you want to be with forever. You should be willing to accept the positive as well as the negative in your intended mate. We all have an ugly side.
 

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Some relationships are never supposed to be, some end at the right time, and them there are the special ones that you know will end horribly but you have to go through in order to find yourself.... It's how life works... No relationship will be successful unless both parties have collected enough scars and experiences on the way to know who they truly are.... Once two people know themselves they can go into a relationship not trying to change the other, that's the base of a strong partnership..... :)
 

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Does she look good? Good in bed? Smart? Rich? All things to consider on how much crap to take off of her and her Mom...

And about most of us having crappy jobs and lives? Well maybe you need to get out of NY or something if thats how you feel about it. Fresh air trees and sunshine.... Get out of the rat race in the city.

One thing I do have to say is I am moving with my family to Tenn sooner or later, once our house sells. !
 

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Man, you guys are good psychologists. If I ever have a relationship problem, I am coming here. Some great insight and advice guys. Great new avator, JMP.
And Krazie: the right one will come along.....just make sure she vapes so you have that special "vaping" bond.

Gramva you said it perfectly, that put a smile on my face!

@Etheral I am not easy to be with at all, I am very self conscious, and I am very very weird and odd.

Everyone, thank you all for your advice, I am glad you guys gave such great input. THank you all and have a great holiday!
 

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I actually prefer musicians and truck drivers...the longer they are away from home the happier I am. If they visit every couple of weeks for a day or 2 its all good. Then they can be on their merry way until the next time :D
:laugh::laugh: I actually married a truck driver and I can tell ya...it sucked ! :laugh::laugh: I couldn't wait til he came home and 2 days WAS NEVER nuff !! :laugh::laugh: now he don't drive no more & I need a vacation :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:
 

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I actually prefer musicians and truck drivers...the longer they are away from home the happier I am. If they visit every couple of weeks for a day or 2 its all good. Then they can be on their merry way until the next time :D

See I am the kind of guy that at my age (22) I am stupid for thinking to settle down, I just wana fool around and test the waters. I always liked those kinda punkish girls, and I knew that the relationship wouldnt last.

But to get back to your point, I could defiantly do something like that haha!

:laugh::laugh: I actually married a truck driver and I can tell ya...it sucked ! :laugh::laugh: I couldn't wait til he came home and 2 days WAS NEVER nuff !! :laugh::laugh: now he don't drive no more & I need a vacation :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

Sometimes it is just enough and others it is not, then when they are home you go crazy haha!
 
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