I know what you mean about no help from the family! My husband too is the youngest in his family and when his mother had a stroke because of a diet drug she was given it was me that had to quit my job and take care of her as the rest of the kids (2 older brothers & a older sister) were going to send her to a retirement home! Her and my husbands father were terrified at that thought. She lived for about 5 years more in her home thanks to my husband working extra hours!It is "home" and "family" for me VVVVVVVV
I'm the youngest of 3 kids (I'm over 50 now) and our parents have both passed on. Mom first (about 9 years ago), and Dad just over 6 years ago. I thought that if I became executor of the estate, we could have saved on some of the attorney fees. Mom and Dad were "Depression-Era" kids and saved EVERYTHING (and I mean EVERYTHING). Mom's passing was expected, but Dad's wasn't. Therefore, a 40-year-old house FULL of CRAP that needed to be cleaned out. I'd thought I would have gotten help from my siblings (I live the farthest away). My sister couldn't even accomplish the three relatively simple things I'd asked of her within one month of Dad's passing. My brother did help somewhat, but fizzled along the way. I spent COUNTLESS weekends traveling (taking MY vacation days/personal time) to work on the house. Countless trips to dumpsters/Goodwill, etc. Had FRIENDS come help me (very willingly giving up THEIR personal time.) It took me three years to get the house ready (plus the housing market was VERY soft for awhile) to sell. Then I had to wait on the attorney to finish the estate returns (I wasn't going to tackle that.)
I'm done with my siblings. I know that doesn't sound very Christian of me (and I struggle with that feeling) but I've not seen my sister in six years - she only communicates to gripe about settling the estate. My brother only contacts me when he needs money. I thought about telling them both to stuff it and consider what's left of the estate as my reimbursement, but in the back of my head, Dad wouldn't have approved. So I've split what's left and I'm done.
/RANT OFF
Then when my father in law was left alone my husband & I would drive over 1 hour each way daily to take care of him as he was also sick by then and depressed. We eventually had to move in with him as you guessed it the family wanted to put him in a home although it was the last thing he ever wanted! So we closed up our house and moved down with him and made some of the most trying but happiest days in all of our lives that I would not trade for anything!
Although the other kids were older and all within 10 minutes of them I am proud & glad it was us!
......you are helping folks without even knowing it...I for one really enjoy your posts on the StratoMyst Ship Contest Thread ..... very clever ..and amazing pics!
Nope. I offered time and time again for the them to come get what they wanted. Insurance n retirement was pre-split. Sorry you went thru what you did...