My wife was the same. We'd run an errand and then 'surprise, surprise' we had to hit up a couple flower places on the way home. I hauled the large wagon as she stacked it with flowers and stuff and more stuff. Good thing I had a truck back then.
Well I had my second interview. I have no idea how it went, I was too tired. It felt a bit "meh" honestly. It would be to START a methadone and ambulatory detox program. I am not sure I really feel up for that. Yeah it would be interesting, but IDK... I think they liked some of my answers, certainly, but maybe not so much other ones. I think I rambled a bit. I accepted the VA job offer anyway, and I gotta call HR and I SO much don't want to. I have the feeling I should just resign but IDK how to do it quite. And call SSI oh boy. Well, it's early I did two big things so meh.
Anna
Anna
Well I emailed HR I could not face her on the phone. So we'll see. I will call SSDI but maybe this afternoon. I am super tired and I don't feel so great. But I DO feel GREAT about getting the hell away from my company, man. I feel really AWESOME about that. They are now locking the bathrooms and there is one for staff, and one for patients. You have to get a hall monitor key. Yay. Sounds delightful. I also emailed my other favorite doctor and like, I hope she gets back to me.
Anna
Anna
Working on projects at home, for neighbors, family members, and friends, is how I got interested in remodeling originally. I said 'I'll never get into construction' for a long time, because I looked at it as a pain in the ***. After doing several projects, I had a change of heart.
Building with your hands for a living can be empowering, uplifting, and deeply satisfying. The act of creating something beautiful and functional, seeing the joy it brings to the client, exceeding expectations, and wowing someone is why I still do what I do. I've considered changing careers because of my back issues, I suppose one day I won't have a choice, for now though I'll stick with this as long as I can.
It sucks that all your husbands hard work got ruined by water damage. I've seen this happen before, it's heartbreaking. I think I might get why he did the work himself the first time, saving money is a plus, but it was a labor of love also.
vape related: The Tesla steampunk with Brunhilde is a beautiful setup. I'm feeling Shinyitis again after looking at yours.
ape related: The Tesla steampunk with Brunhilde is a beautiful setup. I'm feeling Shinyitis again after looking at yours.
It's a great vape for sure but yeah, it's pretty fun looking. I think I got the tube for 18 bucks. Originally I got the DL Brunhilde by accident and I pulled it out and it was terrifying. I can't FIND it now, I want to sell it and get it out of my house. It's lurking somewhere, I just know it. Cellophane off man, anything could happen. Vape is FAN tastic.
Anna
A remedy for bad sunburn, that we old Floridians let the tourists know about...is to liberally apply apple cider vinegar to it with a sponge or washcloth. Repeat several times as it dries. It definitely stinks, but sure takes the heat and pain out of a sunburn. You can always shower after you've given it a chance to take effect.
My wife was the same. We'd run an errand and then 'surprise, surprise' we had to hit up a couple flower places on the way home. I hauled the large wagon as she stacked it with flowers and stuff and more stuff. Good thing I had a truck back then.
Yeah, filling the truck is the easy part, getting it in the ground, not so much. Getting back up from getting it in the ground, priceless.
Hey, seems to me you told me not to worry cause you could sail through any interview even feeling like crap. Guess that didn't work so well..........
Think we're all fighting that funk a bit.Oh, and hi random folk. I've been working a lot, and in a funk, so absent recently.
Went to Dentist with Dd. You have to wait in car til called in (phone). After we went to Lowes, to Hannaford Grocery, and to Walmart. Saw 7 people with no masks and they were all in Walmart. One will be fired before the days out. (Works there)
Dd got her stitches out but they couldn't line the dentures yet because too much swelling still
Dd got her stitches out but they couldn't line the dentures yet because too much swelling still
Normally I do fine but by now my brain is roided up mush. Seems to me I might have done better had I KNOWN like, what the position WAS before they asked me all these questions that made my head hurt. Like, "What would you do if a dude showed up, no doctors were available, and he wanted methadone maintenance when it was his first time quitting, well....oh and he has an ETOH use disorder."
I was like, "I really would talk about a Suboxone taper FIIST not methadone maintenance man, and surely in your 1 MILLION foot complex I could find a doctor SOMEPLACE who could give him clonidine or whatever, but I would assess his safety and if needed contact the inpatient unit but I am all not BIG on shoving someone on methadone if they have NEVER tried a detox." The doc was like, "REALLY? Not at all?" I just sort of sighed and said, "A methadone commitment is a BIG deal and it's pretty toxic on your body actually. Unless he was homeless, penniless and like risking his life in that very second and I couldn't find a single family or support contact to get him through to an assessment the next day, well no, I would not suggest starting methadone immediately. If he flat out turned me down and gave me sensible reasons, I would do it if HE wanted, but that would not be MY first choice for him." I think I was too risk averse for them. I flat out told them that while I could see the benefits of ambulatory alcohol detox, when I trained on the SAMSA levels, I FREAKED out and put everyone at too high a level. I was so FREAKED out by my failure to answer the questions correctly and etc. like I had to go home and do a bunch of research on like, the percentage of people dying on ambulatory detox and it was surprisingly low.... there are many benefits but I am very PRONE TO INTENSE ASSESSMENT of if someone can do it, etc.
I don't think I am their gal and I don't want to deal with setting up a methadone program because well, that requires a TON of interaction with like, a TON of regulatory agencies and stuff and doing that and just SHOVING people on methadone, IDK.
Not one time trying to detox and we pull methadone out? Nope. I gave a good interview. It was honest and I kinda thought THEY LESS knew what to do. I kind of had no clue either because I was like, ,"I don't know how your system works, I mean, couldn't I call his PCP or whatnot. I'm a SOCIAL WORKER I can make all the programs you want, but I cannot ORDER or even CALCULATE a methadone dose that's not my function. Etc.
It was weird, a bit. I think it's because they only use suboxone and that is what they are doing. The psychiatrist was like, 'I am a methadone guy at heart." I was like, "I am sure, and I get it, and with your population it can make sense, but I believe in graduated interventions for the ost part.'
I just was not their gal BBUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
West Virginia State Motto
"Montani Semper Liberi" (Official)
The West Virginia state motto is a Latin motto and in English it means "Mountaineers Are Always Free".
Accepted, put in my application and etc. and we are going home.... East coast but chiller.
Anna
I was like, "I really would talk about a Suboxone taper FIIST not methadone maintenance man, and surely in your 1 MILLION foot complex I could find a doctor SOMEPLACE who could give him clonidine or whatever, but I would assess his safety and if needed contact the inpatient unit but I am all not BIG on shoving someone on methadone if they have NEVER tried a detox." The doc was like, "REALLY? Not at all?" I just sort of sighed and said, "A methadone commitment is a BIG deal and it's pretty toxic on your body actually. Unless he was homeless, penniless and like risking his life in that very second and I couldn't find a single family or support contact to get him through to an assessment the next day, well no, I would not suggest starting methadone immediately. If he flat out turned me down and gave me sensible reasons, I would do it if HE wanted, but that would not be MY first choice for him." I think I was too risk averse for them. I flat out told them that while I could see the benefits of ambulatory alcohol detox, when I trained on the SAMSA levels, I FREAKED out and put everyone at too high a level. I was so FREAKED out by my failure to answer the questions correctly and etc. like I had to go home and do a bunch of research on like, the percentage of people dying on ambulatory detox and it was surprisingly low.... there are many benefits but I am very PRONE TO INTENSE ASSESSMENT of if someone can do it, etc.
I don't think I am their gal and I don't want to deal with setting up a methadone program because well, that requires a TON of interaction with like, a TON of regulatory agencies and stuff and doing that and just SHOVING people on methadone, IDK.
Not one time trying to detox and we pull methadone out? Nope. I gave a good interview. It was honest and I kinda thought THEY LESS knew what to do. I kind of had no clue either because I was like, ,"I don't know how your system works, I mean, couldn't I call his PCP or whatnot. I'm a SOCIAL WORKER I can make all the programs you want, but I cannot ORDER or even CALCULATE a methadone dose that's not my function. Etc.
It was weird, a bit. I think it's because they only use suboxone and that is what they are doing. The psychiatrist was like, 'I am a methadone guy at heart." I was like, "I am sure, and I get it, and with your population it can make sense, but I believe in graduated interventions for the ost part.'
I just was not their gal BBUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
West Virginia State Motto
"Montani Semper Liberi" (Official)
The West Virginia state motto is a Latin motto and in English it means "Mountaineers Are Always Free".
Accepted, put in my application and etc. and we are going home.... East coast but chiller.
Anna
So I'm still rather confused.
1. You got the job in WV?
2. You are sure you will be doing what you want to do? You plan on a lifetime job you really want to make sure you’ll enjoy it.
I accepted the WV job. Everyone who knows us says it's right. It feels right. They did not raise the salary (and while it is true some VAs have that option, others may not) but with the cost of living and all, I'm not too worried. in 3-4 years I will be making what I was.
I also had to factor in that my "real" salary is 70K right now, it is artificially inflated by living in DOUGLAS which I must say work/life wise has been HORRID. It's been the WORST job wise and even remotely decent healthcare wise. It's been AWFUL. So I'm not sweating it with the cost of living and taxes, it will be no big deal.
Honestly, I love that area of the country and I want down to earth happiness and so does the husband. I genuinely believe I can enjoy this job because it is 100% clinical. I have looked at the jobs that I can apply for upcoming, and none of them are "better" better situated with like, better things happening. The interview was FUN. I did not have to feel uncomfortable even momentarily. I think they were scared I was gonna say no because of the salary but they were happy I didn't. There was laughing and I like that .
I am 100% sure I can be happy in a stable, government job in WV, and frankly the husband and I are weridos ,we belong there. It's all gonna be fine (mom.) LOL. My biological mother has given her approval and said, "You and the husband will be happier there than CO."
Dude I also SO don't want to start a methadone program. I think it's the best option and I know I can do government work, done it in genetics and it is DRAMA free, thank the lord.
Anna
Clarksburg is beautiful, too.
I also had to factor in that my "real" salary is 70K right now, it is artificially inflated by living in DOUGLAS which I must say work/life wise has been HORRID. It's been the WORST job wise and even remotely decent healthcare wise. It's been AWFUL. So I'm not sweating it with the cost of living and taxes, it will be no big deal.
Honestly, I love that area of the country and I want down to earth happiness and so does the husband. I genuinely believe I can enjoy this job because it is 100% clinical. I have looked at the jobs that I can apply for upcoming, and none of them are "better" better situated with like, better things happening. The interview was FUN. I did not have to feel uncomfortable even momentarily. I think they were scared I was gonna say no because of the salary but they were happy I didn't. There was laughing and I like that .
I am 100% sure I can be happy in a stable, government job in WV, and frankly the husband and I are weridos ,we belong there. It's all gonna be fine (mom.) LOL. My biological mother has given her approval and said, "You and the husband will be happier there than CO."
Dude I also SO don't want to start a methadone program. I think it's the best option and I know I can do government work, done it in genetics and it is DRAMA free, thank the lord.
Anna
Clarksburg is beautiful, too.
4. You can negotiate with them paying your relocation. It's worth the try. Most employers will say no upfront. From my experience relocation was always negotiable. If they want you bad enough they will pay. Even a percentage would be a help. Tell them you need that. I was relocated a couple times and each time the employer paid it all including a place to stay until we found our own.
ETA: Being the VA and a federal agency, I don't know.
ETA: Being the VA and a federal agency, I don't know.
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I did negotiate relocation and the VA will not do that until G14 or something which is not a job I would even consider trying to do it makes mah head hurt. IHS will pay relocation expenses but it's usually because you are going to be living someplace horribly remote and then you have to drive an hour to get to the reservation. I'm a bit over that.
I would love if they paid relocation assistance but the parent will help and we are gonna buy and park a shipping container somewhere, it's cheapest, and then we will have to figure out how much we make on the house, etc. and what to do.
So yeah, gonna see.... It at LEAST is not going to involve paying for two households for close to two years, so even if we rent, we are gonna sock away the house money to use on a deposit.
FranC-- I get investigated, financially, socially, federally .It's fine I have done these before. VA can take a while because you have to go to the nearest VA (like Tucson probably) to get fingerprinted and like medically assessed and all that. It usually takes several months. They check your job history and your references and stuff.
My guess is 2-3- months and then we figure out a start date. It's gonna be what it is. I have one form left to fill out today but alas, I wait for my doc I want to use as a reference so I'm waiting a bit, then I have to type it and send it and then they send me to like, get my fingerprints done and then I am very polite and pleasant to strangers. For a bit. Etc.
I don't think it's a big deal as a SW like, well this happens all the time. I am just relieved about SS because they only investigate if you have outstanding financial debt and stuff, which we do not. I did not want "Fired for medical reasons" as the first thing at my last job and well, I don't need their crap benefit options which will demand genetic samples from me and etc.
I am calling SSI but it will be tomorrow. That is because today is MONDAY it is an awful time to call. I will ah, wait until it is not the first of the month either. Believe me I have done me some horrifying SSI calls. (Not just for me, but for others also.)
Anna
I would love if they paid relocation assistance but the parent will help and we are gonna buy and park a shipping container somewhere, it's cheapest, and then we will have to figure out how much we make on the house, etc. and what to do.
So yeah, gonna see.... It at LEAST is not going to involve paying for two households for close to two years, so even if we rent, we are gonna sock away the house money to use on a deposit.
FranC-- I get investigated, financially, socially, federally .It's fine I have done these before. VA can take a while because you have to go to the nearest VA (like Tucson probably) to get fingerprinted and like medically assessed and all that. It usually takes several months. They check your job history and your references and stuff.
My guess is 2-3- months and then we figure out a start date. It's gonna be what it is. I have one form left to fill out today but alas, I wait for my doc I want to use as a reference so I'm waiting a bit, then I have to type it and send it and then they send me to like, get my fingerprints done and then I am very polite and pleasant to strangers. For a bit. Etc.
I don't think it's a big deal as a SW like, well this happens all the time. I am just relieved about SS because they only investigate if you have outstanding financial debt and stuff, which we do not. I did not want "Fired for medical reasons" as the first thing at my last job and well, I don't need their crap benefit options which will demand genetic samples from me and etc.
I am calling SSI but it will be tomorrow. That is because today is MONDAY it is an awful time to call. I will ah, wait until it is not the first of the month either. Believe me I have done me some horrifying SSI calls. (Not just for me, but for others also.)
Anna
So as I understand it, it might be several months before they finish the process of checking you out and you actually get to go there. Will you be starting the process with other jobs in the meantime just in case? And will they be needing references from your last job?
Listening to this saga just makes so glad I don't have to do that any more. I can remember looking for work when there was high unemployment and the employers had the upper hand. One place did a 4 part interview process over 10 weeks, narrowing the list down each time. I got a call one day from a manager there saying I had been accepted for the final interview, they were down to the last 3 applicants. He told me they had already decided to hire me but their procedures required them to do the final level of interview. He may have been telling the truth and it was a great job with good money but by them I had been working somewhere else for several weeks. I figure the only people who were still available after 10 weeks were the ones who couldn't get another job, so they shoot themselves in the foot with this stuff.
GOOD Afternoon Random Mixers! W00T!
Hope everyone is doing good, hope Anna gets set up in WV, hope I get more stacked enchiladas IN MY BELLY! LOL
Hope everyone is doing good, hope Anna gets set up in WV, hope I get more stacked enchiladas IN MY BELLY! LOL
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