Good afternoon Folks............
Busy day today. Got a call last night asking if I would run the grief support group today at the senior center. The gal who normally runs it is a longtime friend and psychologist. She specializes in grief, trauma, PTSD and sexual abuse. We've known her since high school, was one of my wife's best friends. We helped each other, big time, after my wife passed away.
She had a last minute conference in NYC, so it was either me, or cancelling the group for the day. She sent me her planned outline for the day (Unexpected Surges of Grief). This was my sixth time running the group. I picked up a box of donuts at the bakery for the folks.
Usually there are between 3-6 people there. Today there was 11. Four new people, each with very fresh grief experiences. Whenever new people come it's customary to help them feel at ease in the group setting and to encourage them to share their experiences.
Some speak. Some get pretty emotional (to be expected). Others just aren't at a point where they feel comfortable speaking yet (fully understandable). Everyone is different.
Today all four new folks spoke. The normally allotted group time of 1 1/2 - 2 hours flew by quickly. I extended the group for another hour and a half. We never got to the planned outline (not unusual). Everyone had much to say today.
Being the one leading the group is very different than being one of its participants (my usual place). With seven, plus four new people, I was kind of nervous (yup!). But those butterflies flew away once I got things going. I am no expert with grief. Have, like many, experienced much in my own life. It's more about listening and keeping things on-topic when running the group. Several in the group suggest coping strategies. I offer what has worked for me.
Listening to peoples stories and their experiences is truly humbling. People experience all sorts of feelings (both physical and mental) after losing a loved one. Everyone deals with grief differently.
When I got home I called my friend in NYC to tell her how group went. Told her I totally did not expect 11 people. She laughed and said "welcome to my world". She's taking me to a favorite vegan place when she returns.
Anyhow, so now I'm just enjoying a
vape and a cup of decaf tea.
Sitting in beautiful silence. Simply Being.