i just wrote...for 30 min... about what happened to me... and i got logged out... i am trying so hard not to break this laptop....
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Copy everything before you hit post! OOOO that happens a lot. AND... if this does happen to you again, scroll down just a little bit on the "You've been logged out page" and you will see another place to login. Login there, not at the top. Sometimes, most of the time actually, it continues with whatever action you were in the process of doing. Been there! So frustrating!
So, so sorry Nico and Mooby. I wish I could make you feel better. PLease remember we all wish the best for both of you.
Ooo, Nico and Mooby.... your stories tear my heart!
I wish I had something clever, or meaningful, or magical to take your hurt away, to take you back to the place where you were happy and free, but I don't. It's a difficult road you travel, but you don't travel alone - you've got all of us, your friends, walking right along side you....
It does get better - time is the great equalizer, and although it hurts terribly now, the pain will diminish and become memory... you have to give the scars time to form.
Take care, Sweeties!
I wish I had something clever, or meaningful, or magical to take your hurt away, to take you back to the place where you were happy and free, but I don't. It's a difficult road you travel, but you don't travel alone - you've got all of us, your friends, walking right along side you....
It does get better - time is the great equalizer, and although it hurts terribly now, the pain will diminish and become memory... you have to give the scars time to form.
Take care, Sweeties!
sadly, nico and mooby, i would venture to guess the the majority if not all of the people who responded to this thread have similar stories of hurt---it's a crappy fact of life, and a lesson to be learned....what you both need to remember, is the fact that we are all still here telling you to keep your chin up is that it DOES get better, and time DOES heal-----i could go on and on, and tell you a story as heartbreaking or worse than mooby's (hey mooby, imagine all that stuff happened but before it did you agreed to leave all your friends and your entire life and everything you knew and MOVED OUT OF THE COUNTRY WITH THE PERSON ONLY TO GET LEFT IN A FOREIGN LAND WHERE YOU DON'T EVEN SPEAK THE LANGUAGE!).....the bottom line is, most if not all of us have been there and somehow lived the tale-----and mooby, my last epic heartbreak like yours happened over four years ago, and i'm STILL on antidepressants 
.......what i said before still stands, and now for both of you-----no matter how bad it feels now, you have officially seen the worst of it and things can do nothing but get better.......i/we promise......you just have to make it through the storm, every day gets a teeny tiny bit better......
.......what i said before still stands, and now for both of you-----no matter how bad it feels now, you have officially seen the worst of it and things can do nothing but get better.......i/we promise......you just have to make it through the storm, every day gets a teeny tiny bit better......
Nico,
It was good talking to you today. You sounded like you have a good head on your shoulders and only time will ease the pain. I had Jay drop a 510 kit and bottle of menthol in the mail for you today so you should be good until you can get back on your feet. Go get some wall spackle and be happy you didn't hit a stud.
Give me a call if you need to vent, brother.
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It was good talking to you today. You sounded like you have a good head on your shoulders and only time will ease the pain. I had Jay drop a 510 kit and bottle of menthol in the mail for you today so you should be good until you can get back on your feet. Go get some wall spackle and be happy you didn't hit a stud.
Give me a call if you need to vent, brother.
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Thank you again man, . I'm good 4 right now.. just had a bit of my codeine to chill out my nerves..,,
. I'm good 4 right now.. just had a bit of my codeine to chill out my nerves..,,
I met this girl my sophmore year of h.s., and she just blew me away... beautiful black hair fair skinned , nice body. sweetest personality..., she had a bf at the time i started talking to her.. she was having problems., she broke up with him 6 months later.. then i asked her out and she said yes.., first 3 months were picture perfect... but as she gained more and more trust in me... she started tellin me that her stepfather was abusing her sexually... i.. went completely berserk grabbed my 12 gauge and was determined to kill this sick fukkk., my father stopped me about a few yards outside my house.. he literally had to pry that thing out of my hands... i called the cops and cps came and picked her up and the fukn sicko was arrested... he had been molestn her for 13 years......a decade.... and i...changed that.. and yet im still just another guy to fukc around with... mmmm.... ima stop now... im getting mildy upset... moderators forgive my language... we are all grown people here...
Well given that background I would have to say she is still having some major problems dealing with men. If she doesn't get help, she will never be able to have a normal relationship with a guy. Her whole world was torn up..you rescued her like a shining knight ..but maybe she wasn't rescued from herself.
This isn't your problem, you did the right thing. She still has yet to deal with it. maybe she never will.
Move on, live your life and understand you can't save everyone..just save yourself for now.
We are here for you.
This isn't your problem, you did the right thing. She still has yet to deal with it. maybe she never will.
Move on, live your life and understand you can't save everyone..just save yourself for now.
We are here for you.
Well, it's not unheard of to slip into self-destruct mode when something like this happens. Good news is, you can always drop the analogs and pick up where you left off when you're ready.
Girlfriends, boyfriends, relationships, those come and go, but you'll always have you. Just get back to being a healthier you.
Girlfriends, boyfriends, relationships, those come and go, but you'll always have you. Just get back to being a healthier you.
Well, don't feel bad. After my divorce, the first girlfriend dumped me because I didn't look like Tom Selleck (Jumpin' Jesus, watch my videos and ask me when I even LOOKED liked him) and my last girlfriend about 15 years ago (yup, you got that right, 15 years) was a phyco whos son was even more phycotic.
Since then, I've been living the happy lifestyle of a batcholer. I learned my lesson three times around. If any woman would be interested in me, they would have to meet the following criteria:
1) Be a vaporer
2) Not be a child molester (like my EX)
3) Have the same attitude as mine and not take any crap from the government
4) Be sex starved.
5) Not take any guff from anyone, including ME
6) Be focused in their ways
7) And not expect me to look like Tom Selleck
I think these simple requirements are not all that bad.
Since then, I've been living the happy lifestyle of a batcholer. I learned my lesson three times around. If any woman would be interested in me, they would have to meet the following criteria:
1) Be a vaporer
2) Not be a child molester (like my EX)
3) Have the same attitude as mine and not take any crap from the government
4) Be sex starved.
5) Not take any guff from anyone, including ME
6) Be focused in their ways
7) And not expect me to look like Tom Selleck
I think these simple requirements are not all that bad.
Gentlemen,
You both are making me cry...and giving me an unpleasant trip down memory lane. Oh, yes, I too have been there, done that, and got the T-shirt.
When the "love of my life" dumped me, I thought I'd never get over it. I mourned for 4 friggin' years. Then, he calls me out of the blue, says he realizes he made a mistake, and wants to get back together.
We met for dinner, and.........I realized what a jerk he was. It was honestly the most cathartic thing he could have done for me. I grew up; he didn't. Thanks to his hugely inflated ego, I was finally free of him.
Time does that. You just have to stick it out. When I looked back on how I was also nearly suicidal over him, I felt like a complete tool for ever thinking this ..... was worth dying for.
This, too, shall pass. Keep the faith, brothers. Personally, from your posts, I think you both sound like nice young men, and I think you'll find someone new soon enough. Best of luck to you both.
You both are making me cry...and giving me an unpleasant trip down memory lane. Oh, yes, I too have been there, done that, and got the T-shirt.
When the "love of my life" dumped me, I thought I'd never get over it. I mourned for 4 friggin' years. Then, he calls me out of the blue, says he realizes he made a mistake, and wants to get back together.
We met for dinner, and.........I realized what a jerk he was. It was honestly the most cathartic thing he could have done for me. I grew up; he didn't. Thanks to his hugely inflated ego, I was finally free of him.
Time does that. You just have to stick it out. When I looked back on how I was also nearly suicidal over him, I felt like a complete tool for ever thinking this ..... was worth dying for.
This, too, shall pass. Keep the faith, brothers. Personally, from your posts, I think you both sound like nice young men, and I think you'll find someone new soon enough. Best of luck to you both.
Maybe if I looked like tom selleck (sorry jim) instead of jabba the hut I would stance a chance at love again, however, and this is not a jab at any woman on here, but women seem to get have a hard time looking past the fat and in to my heart. I am either the "brother", the best friend, or the one night stand.
Katie being with me 4 years was my only real happiness I have ever had, and I just don't see being lucky enough to find a woman who will love me for me again.
Katie being with me 4 years was my only real happiness I have ever had, and I just don't see being lucky enough to find a woman who will love me for me again.
I just got home from a confrontation with the guy she was cheating with... lets just say i vented all of my frustration upon his face...and no girl would want to lay eyes on him for a while.. as for my ex... well... i'll never speak to her as long as im alive. mmm... i feel alot better... just need my VP and i'll be back to normal....hopefully...
mooby...it aint all about the looks... at all...you're just looking in the wrong places. be proud of who u r bud. i've always fat., im 6'0 300 lbs.... if my friend big mo can get a girl... you can definitely find love again man.. lets just say big mo.. can pass for jabba the huts son..
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Don't sweat it mooby. You will. I had that same feeling after my divorce after a 9 year marriage, And I found two. One was a vanity ..... and the other was a phycopath.
Needless to say, I'd rather cook my own frozen pizzas now.
Mooby-OK, I'll say it. STOP feeling sorry for yourself. Get with the program. If you're lonely, register on e harmony or something. There are soulmates out there! Get off this forum and start trolling dude!!!!!
Nico, you'll find another. I know it.
Personally, I'd have kicked that guys *** all over he neighborhood and made his face a part of the pavement. You showed great restraint. Kudos to you.
You came out on top..
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