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Publicly pouring out your heart on a public internet forum isn't helpful. Either is facilitating addiction to pity and drama with the e-sincere sympathy posts.
You make light of a man getting assaulted which could land the OP in jail and cry about a guy being told to man up. You have seriously messed up priorities.
i know right we sit out and drink with the neighbors and ever since we first saw that movie that is pretty much all the drunk talk we can manage...lol
Nice rule Stevo , I'll have to remember that.
Really guys, You don't want her back, You would never trust her again. So mourn it and move on.
Nico, sometimes you can have a great impact on a person's life. That doesn't define the rest of your life. You can also have a great impact on many people's lives. Get back on your white horse.
I agree that he needs to pick himself up and start over..But come on guys! It's been ONE day! Are you serious? It takes that long for it to sink in. I am glad some of you have real life friends to talk to..some don't, he stated in the OP that he was just venting and no one had to answer his post.
I am all for he men types, but even they have feeling..yeah I know, dirty word. Get a grip fella's.
As for the estrogen remark..that was just mean. Mean is unbecoming.
I am all for he men types, but even they have feeling..yeah I know, dirty word. Get a grip fella's.
As for the estrogen remark..that was just mean. Mean is unbecoming.
i have messed up priorities...im not the one comeing on the forums fighting with people...not the first time ive seen it nuck...my priorities are just fine thank you and comment that were made were rude, and nico and mooby both have friends on here and if they feel the need to vent or pour their hearts out they have that right...ummm public forum correct? i still think what was said was in bad taste, i would like to see the pic...crazy maybe but as everyone said get it out well he did..and im not crying about anything. stop trying to pick fights with people nuck..
I'm not fighting. I'm pointing out how ridiculous your sympathies are when you basically high-fived a guy who criminally assaulted someone. The other guy wasn't the one that made the commitment.
Your idea of bad taste obviously differs from mine.
I shared my story for two reasons:
1. I can relate to him
2. I am an open book. I don't hide anything about myself.
As for pissing and moaning, I am sorry. I love that girl and shared 5 years of my life with her (4 of actually going out). That is 1/5 (ish) of my life. It is not something I can get over very easily. I still love her.
I am also a sensitive guy, I am not very macho at all. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can not help it, it is the way that I am. Sorry if bothers some on here.
1. I can relate to him
2. I am an open book. I don't hide anything about myself.
As for pissing and moaning, I am sorry. I love that girl and shared 5 years of my life with her (4 of actually going out). That is 1/5 (ish) of my life. It is not something I can get over very easily. I still love her.
I am also a sensitive guy, I am not very macho at all. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can not help it, it is the way that I am. Sorry if bothers some on here.
nuck trying to make someone laugh isn't bad taste....wasn't the only one to say something so to point out what i had to say is picking a fight. you wernt the only person saying man up...and the estrogen thing so dont take things so personal. i was trying to show support to someone other than you and the last few posts have been alll about you...imo thats bad taste.
i apologize for taking anything away from the original topic....
I shared my story for two reasons:
1. I can relate to him
2. I am an open book. I don't hide anything about myself.
As for pissing and moaning, I am sorry. I love that girl and shared 5 years of my life with her (4 of actually going out). That is 1/5 (ish) of my life. It is not something I can get over very easily. I still love her.
I am also a sensitive guy, I am not very macho at all. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can not help it, it is the way that I am. Sorry if bothers some on here.
mooby dont worry about the people saying the rude stuff..you have every right to sympathise with your friend to help him as well as yourself to get it out there. dont be sorry for sharing how you feel.
exactly what is wrong with the term "man up" other than YOUR decision on what i mean by it?.. and exactly WHEN was i hostile? i dont recall saying anything hostile... maybe you should lighten up a bit.. then you wouldnt infer your own hostilities into others statements
Mary
i could always lead by example.. but quite honestly.. i have no intention of asking for anyone to pity me for my personal problems that im still CURRENTLY dealing with.. let us suffice it to simply state that i have been divorced for all of two months now and havent shed a tear... not because i didnt care.. not because im being "manly" but because it doesnt change anything.. and i cant afford to be bothered with silly things i cannot control at the expense of my children.. oh yeah.. did i mention that part?.. here's some good news for both nico and mooby.. feel relieved that your emotional distress is not hindered by being responisble in making sure it doesn't affect young minds.
not a single thing i have said in this thread has been mean spirited or unhelpful... if you dont like my terminology.. well.. live with it.. if you dont like the advice of moving on and dealing with it.. you got life messed up..
the longer they sit and wallow in thier sorrows.. the worse it gets.. the harder it is to pick themselves up.. so yeah.. MAN UP.. get it out quickly.. and move on as quickly as you possibly can.. the sooner you do.. the better off you'll be...
Nico and mooby I truly feel for you guys,
Mooby my friend in my book you did "man up " it takes a strong man to openly show emotions and pour your heart out the way you did.. coming from a "machismo" background I can tell you that after all is said and done some people would rather hide than show what they truly feel. They think thir bravado makes them more of a man, tell you what it doesnt. Kuddos to you my friend for being you and standing up for you..
Nico
I feel for you as well and wish you the best just remember not to focus on the positive and focus on the negatives ie her chating ways, that will make it easier to forget and move on.
as far as the smoking analogs dont worry it is just a misstep and glad you remembered the forum, that tells me where your priorities lie. you will be back from the dark side of the force..
Mooby my friend in my book you did "man up " it takes a strong man to openly show emotions and pour your heart out the way you did.. coming from a "machismo" background I can tell you that after all is said and done some people would rather hide than show what they truly feel. They think thir bravado makes them more of a man, tell you what it doesnt. Kuddos to you my friend for being you and standing up for you..
Nico
I feel for you as well and wish you the best just remember not to focus on the positive and focus on the negatives ie her chating ways, that will make it easier to forget and move on.
as far as the smoking analogs dont worry it is just a misstep and glad you remembered the forum, that tells me where your priorities lie. you will be back from the dark side of the force..
Sorry to interject, but I fell upon this topic purely by accident and couldn't help but read the entire thing. Both of you have terrible stories and all I can say is that the pain will pass. Slowly, but it will. I knew someone who had gone through the same thing, and I ended up marrying him 
That's not to say that the experience didn't effect him, it most certainly did. We went through a few months when I thought he was crazy because he questioned everything I did...including going to the bathroom. I almost broke up with him, but realized that he needed support - not another bad experience with women. Next thing you know, his trust for me grew and with that, a mutual love and understanding.
That being said, I do agree that they must move on or it'll affect the rest their lives. But for Pete's sake, give the guy longer than a DAY! Just because you handled such an experience the way you did doesn't mean others can. And I agree with the post that said to sit on the couch for three weeks. Do what you need to do to be happy. Remember, the most important person is you - anyone who damages that important person is not worth the brain cells and the emotional stock.
That's not to say that the experience didn't effect him, it most certainly did. We went through a few months when I thought he was crazy because he questioned everything I did...including going to the bathroom. I almost broke up with him, but realized that he needed support - not another bad experience with women. Next thing you know, his trust for me grew and with that, a mutual love and understanding.
That being said, I do agree that they must move on or it'll affect the rest their lives. But for Pete's sake, give the guy longer than a DAY! Just because you handled such an experience the way you did doesn't mean others can. And I agree with the post that said to sit on the couch for three weeks. Do what you need to do to be happy. Remember, the most important person is you - anyone who damages that important person is not worth the brain cells and the emotional stock.
I too had a very bad experience in my past, and the one thing I was hut the most by was the stripped away, absolute 100% trust I'd given in being ultra open and honest. There was a lot of abuse in my Ex's past, and apparently too much damage done to enable her to "see" good from bad, in reality, and I know this sounds weird, she was addicted to abuse and only felt worthy if abused, which I did not ever do. I too also vented on a discussion board, and was amazed at the positive help I got from E-Friends I'd never met, one basically saved me with long phone calls and logical advice. I am all past it now, but it took a long, long time, and I will never be as trusting with a woman again. There's something to being a little mysterious and with holding, just in case you get .... upon. In the end though, it was fairly easy for other friends see the nonsense of the relationship all along, but love is blind. I, and maybe you, will be less open and trusting next time, just for self preservation. I hate to promote playing games, because when I was deep in love, I didn't think I had to, and life was so estaticlly great, until......Scotter Bob
Mary i could always lead by example.. but quite honestly.. i have no intention of asking for anyone to pity me for my personal problems that im still CURRENTLY dealing with.. let us suffice it to simply state that i have been divorced for all of two months now and havent shed a tear... not because i didnt care.. not because im being "manly" but because it doesnt change anything.. and i cant afford to be bothered with silly things i cannot control at the expense of my children.. oh yeah.. did i mention that part?.. here's some good news for both nico and mooby.. feel relieved that your emotional distress is not hindered by being responisble in making sure it doesn't affect young minds. [/quote said:
Tauk! I agreed with you! But give it a day or two! I did not have a problem with Man Up! I too have been dealing with sad things this month and I did talk it out..not for sympathy but as a way to cope.
The prospect of dealing with kids in your situation is rough..been there done that. But they grew up knowing they were loved and fought for.
The prospect of dealing with kids in your situation is rough..been there done that. But they grew up knowing they were loved and fought for.
why yes... when i said move on quickly i meant NOW.. move on NOW.. that was what i said..
i also told them to just forget how they feel.. it isnt important... feelings are useless...
i've accussed them of being scum simply because they felt any kind of hurt because thier significant other only gave them the sorrow they justly deserved...
what is with you people? why are you trying to convince them to sit around and sulk?? and MY GOD... did someone actually suggest focusing on the negatives?? are you nuts? the one dude says he just physically assaulted another human being and you wish to ENCOURAGE anger? that has to be the MOST ......ed statement ever!
i never said i didnt hurt from MY issues... machismo is FAR from my thing btw.. i also never said he should get over it NOW.. but they should be working on it NOW.. the longer they stew in it.. the worse it gets.. and mooby's wasnt JUST TODAY.. his is a perfect example of needing to move on... he's already let it simmer and crush him long enough.. he is in desperate NEED to move on...
i dont understand why you people claim to want to help.. and be there for them.. but you would prefer to argue with me or nuck for simply throwing it out there that they are best off getting it out of thier system as quickly as possible.. nice friends you are being
i also told them to just forget how they feel.. it isnt important... feelings are useless...
i've accussed them of being scum simply because they felt any kind of hurt because thier significant other only gave them the sorrow they justly deserved...
what is with you people? why are you trying to convince them to sit around and sulk?? and MY GOD... did someone actually suggest focusing on the negatives?? are you nuts? the one dude says he just physically assaulted another human being and you wish to ENCOURAGE anger? that has to be the MOST ......ed statement ever!
i never said i didnt hurt from MY issues... machismo is FAR from my thing btw.. i also never said he should get over it NOW.. but they should be working on it NOW.. the longer they stew in it.. the worse it gets.. and mooby's wasnt JUST TODAY.. his is a perfect example of needing to move on... he's already let it simmer and crush him long enough.. he is in desperate NEED to move on...
i dont understand why you people claim to want to help.. and be there for them.. but you would prefer to argue with me or nuck for simply throwing it out there that they are best off getting it out of thier system as quickly as possible.. nice friends you are being
Sad nuff said I said to focus on the nagatives they had with their ex not on the negatives in their lifes. why all the anger? can we all just get along?
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