Rude kids

[Mary Kay]

I wasn't going to post this since it sounds like I am whining..but here goes anyway.

Today I went to the store by myself. Mike usually goes with me just to get out of the house. Anyway I was walking around picking up this and that waiting for my script to be filled when I realized I didn't have my watch. I saw a young man near me with a watch on and said "pardon me, what time is it?" This kid who looked fairly clean cut turned to me and away from his buddy and said "can't you read Bi*ch?" There was a clock behind me on the wall of the meat section.

My first knee jerk reaction was to slap the smug little ..turd. Then I realized it would be pointless to go to jail for the likes of him. So I told him "You are a rude child who should be ashamed of himself". About then the meat dept. manager came out from behind the counter and told the kid to get out of the store..the manager started apologizing to me.

I was well and truly shocked. Not because I was cussed at by a kid..I am not that thin skinned, but that it happened in my small town. I have never run into a rude kid here! Not in 18 years. One night at the video store I worked at, I was alone when a group of punk looking kids came in. I was hoping there would be no trouble when one caught my eye after I said Hi. He comes over to me smiling and said "Hi! You are new, nice to meet you!" He went on to introduce himself and his friends.

There was a time in my life I would have gotten into his face and backed him down..I tend to have a very short fuse when it comes to things like that. Don't get me wrong..I don't have much of a self preservation streak..I trained to be a cop! But as I age it seems to be useless to get all up in people's faces. It only serves to feed their self importance. Too bad we don't know this stuff when we are young.

Oh well I guess it's just as well we are moving back to Tampa. The small town feel is rapidly becoming a thing of the past. We are basicly a bedroom community to Orlando now.

It's a sad feeling.

 

[notsoogood]

There are so many young people with no respect or manners toward other people these days MK. I remember when I started college in 2002 I was standing outside smoking a cig and a young nice looking girl walked past me and spit on the ground like a man would do. I was shocked! What I don't understand are the people that I know were taught manners and respect but did not pass that on to their kids. WTH??? It's a sad place we live in. I know there are nice well mannered young people out there but unfortunately these kind of people overshadow the nice ones.

Oh.........hi MK..........long time no font!!

 

[Mary Kay]

Man Notso..you have come a long way since you started..you were such a nice girl back then..avatar wise!

 

[notsoogood]

LMAO!!! I had my bike up but j0ker made this for me so what are ya gonna do??? He's my buddy so I thought I would sport this one for awhile. You likey???

Come visit us in the snail thread sometime MK!

 

[glowgirl]

Once when I was pregnant with my son and school bus full of kids went by and a few were waving at me out the window. I thought it was sweet so I waved back and smiled and you know what they did??? They yelled 'go back to school Jenny Craig drop out!" Little jerks.

Anyhow, kids who have no manners and are rude like that clearly lack parental involvement. I feel sorry for them, those types of behavior usually doom a kid to a life of limited opportunity. Poor jerks...

 

[stover.p]

Kids and young adults without manners is one of my biggest pet peeves! Manners are one of the easiest things to teach and many parents don't do it. 3 simples phrases, please, thank you and excuse me.............how hard is that? My kids were taught this and other kids at school made fun of them! Really? I don't have perfect kids, who does, but mine have manners!

The ones that really chap my #$% are the ones that DARE you to run over them when crossing the parking lot. I just want to floor the car and smack em' but not worth it. Kids running around in a store........not cool. Mine were taught to sit in the basket or hold my hand. If they refused they got a smack on the behind and stuck in the cart. A lot of parents today are lazy or don't understand the importance of manners.

OK I'm done now

 

[Stephaniems]

80% dont' wanna deal with their kids at all, plus it's considered abuse to give a smack on the behind for misbehaving. Another thing, kids watch TV alot, and TV shows them as being rude brats, that get cell phones, and cars for nothing. When my children and I are watching a show/movie that shows kids acting up I let mine know not to get any idea's cause in our day to day they will get in trouble. It's just getting worse and worse with how kids act. Guess the whole time out and being friends with your children didnt work out so well.

 

[JustKryssi]

80% dont' wanna deal with their kids at all, plus it's considered abuse to give a smack on the behind for misbehaving. Another thing, kids watch TV alot, and TV shows them as being rude brats, that get cell phones, and cars for nothing. When my children and I are watching a show/movie that shows kids acting up I let mine know not to get any idea's cause in our day to day they will get in trouble. It's just getting worse and worse with how kids act. Guess the whole time out and being friends with your children didnt work out so well.

This +1,000,000. I'm not your friend, I'm your mother. And that's that.

MK, I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

 

[whiskey]

I have to say that if the kids aren't brought up around & shown manners, they will not incorporate them into their daily habits as adults...sad...

 

[curiousJan]

I'm not your friend, I'm your mother. And that's that.

I just told my dear short one the other day ... If I'm doing my job correctly, you are NOT going to like me sometimes. It's not a parent's job to be liked; it's to teach and to guide, to love and support ... which doesn't equate to be like-able in some circumstances.

Jan

 

[JustKryssi]

Well said Jan.

Now that my daughter is 23 with her own child, I realize that we can be "friendly" but she still needs guidance and sometimes, like now, needs to feel safe and have a place to put her shoulder.

I'm glad that I raised her to know that, although I set boundaries for her, that those boundaries are in place to keep her safe, not to inhibit her.

 

[Sylvie]

wow I don't think I could of handled being called that by a little punk at all!! I'm short fused when it comes to young teenagers unfortunately. so I try to stay the heck away from them.. I never lay a hand on them but by the time I'm done with them they think I am a crazy asssk lady and start somewhat apologizing or say whatever as they walk away.. My fiance says one day I'm going to regret yacking back at them but in my mind someone has to speak up to them and it might as well be me.. I've had episodes in the past that made me this way, from them refusing to move out of my way when I'm driving, to them throwing a rock at car when I honk at them to move when they don't do so, to them throwing a coke bottle out of bus window into the sunroof of my car when my kids were in it with me and so forth.. very rude and I don't blame it all on parents at all.. I think many of them do try to teach their kids manners and when they go out of the house to school and so forth they are taught otherwise and since parents aren't as smart as them in their eyes, what parents say don't mean nada to them nowadays.. Thankfully both my kiddos turned out great but, I think they could of turned out different had I not done some of the sacrifices I did to make sure they did not...this I think parents need to do more of and they also need to stop worrying so much about what others (politically correct ones) say they should or should not do when it comes to raising their children..

oops think I got off subject...told ya I have a short fuse when it comes to teens

 

[notsoogood]

80% dont' wanna deal with their kids at all, plus it's considered abuse to give a smack on the behind for misbehaving. Another thing, kids watch TV alot, and TV shows them as being rude brats, that get cell phones, and cars for nothing. When my children and I are watching a show/movie that shows kids acting up I let mine know not to get any idea's cause in our day to day they will get in trouble. It's just getting worse and worse with how kids act. Guess the whole time out and being friends with your children didnt work out so well.

I believe this started around the time I was getting out of high school and it's gone down hill ever since. I don't have kids but I can dang well guarantee that if I had they would have learned the same manners and respect that I was taught when I was growing up. What is wrong with some parents today??? Kids run around the stores w/ no supervision, they have their kids at the stores at really late hours on school nights and they spoil the heck out of them. I don't get it.

 

[sleepy jean]

For that kid to call you a bi*ch was so totaly uncalled for, makes me boil, but I think you handled it well, these kids are hearing and learning this stuff in movie's, song's, at school, from their peers and not to mention at home, and sad to say they think it's funny or their impressing their friends, the man at the counter must have heard him or or he's been a troublemaker in the store before and he did right by telling him to get out. My oldest son was about 14 and he was really mad at me for not letting him go somewhere and he called me a bi*ch, I slapped him so hard across the face it hurt my hand, he was so remorseful and sorry, he said it hurt him that I slapped him but I said you never called me a name like that before and he never ever has again and he's 48 now. I'm so sorry you had to go through that experance MK, I don't know what I would have done but that boy does need a good slap in the face.

 

[thelook]

The last few years I had my bar I noticed that the newbie 21 year olds were pretty cocky and mouthy....seemed like everynight I was teaching mannners class.
I made them treat other people with respect while they were in my bar and most of them ended up coming back over and over, a lot of them ended up calling me Momz.

Sorry this happened to you MK, it's shocking and hurtful and they better be glad I was not there with you or they would be picking their ego up off the ground.

 

[sleepy jean]

Aman, look.

 

[Mary Kay]

I want to make something clear..when I said punk..I did not mean punk rocker types..I meant rough mean looking tough guy wanna be types.
The kid in the store was a clean cut guy. He didn't hurt me..nothing that comes out of a kids mouth hurts, they are parrots, wanna be big shots, hurt scared kids who think acting out is a good thing.

Yeah, I can be a razzor toungued harpy when I want to be. I can and have taken care of myself, but it just wasn't worth it. I knew he was just showing off, probably high. More then anything it was sad. What I am glad about is that Mike or one of my kids or grands wasn't around. There would have been trouble, that would have been awful.

My kids are polite, my grands are polite..I demand it! Parents and grandparents who don't demand and EARN respect are foolish. I was never
one to give time outs or talk the kid to death. When I said "stop" I meant it..it didn't matter if it was to stop yelling, fighting or running into traffic, when Mom said stop they did. They earned a swat on the .... when they acted up. It didn't happen offen.

I used to tell my kids when they were teens that we could be friends later in life, right now they had enough friends and needed a mom. We are friends now. I enjoy being around them. That was my rule, grow up to be people I want to know.

I am a firm believer in owning your own problems. Blaming the parents or friends is just a way to say I am so weak minded I can't take any responsibilty.
A bad kid can come from good parents, bad parents or absentee parents. The kids know right from wrong unless they are mentally ill. The Menedez boys were just bad seeds from a good family. But many murderers kids are normal. I am sure the boy who was rude would be in trouble with his parents. Hopefully they wouldn't just "talk" to him.

Thanks for the good converstion on a subject that needs discussion.

 

[Mary Kay]

A note from one of our male friends: His point being that he wasn't what he seemed to be. he was taught to be polite.


firefox335
Senior Member




I couldn't post a reply in the forum, but it made me think of what a blast I had in my 20s. I was a singer/bass player for a punk band called PDW (Piss Drunk ....ers.) And let's just say I dressed the part. Bondage cuffs, bondage collar, red plaid bondage pants, t-shirts with holes in them, a leather jacket with tons of metal spiked studs in them, and a 10 inch black mowhawk. I used to have a lot of fun while dressed like that because I would go out of my way to be polite. It cracked me up because while I looked like I did, I would hold the door open for little old ladies at stores. I got some wild reactions because of my manners.

 

[Saintscruiser]

After a few times of being very uncomfortable around 'punk' kids, and with my suspicious nature these days, I got a conceal carry license. If I was talked to by one punk, I would have handled it like you did, MK. But if a group of punk kids come to try and intimidate me, that's a horse of a different color. I would never do anything to physically harm anyone, unless my life or the life of my husband were in danger. My husband drilled it into my head on gun safety and how to shoot. Sometimes I feel like Barney Fife.

There was this one night we were in CiCi's Pizza and these 3 punks came in wearing sunglasses, bling, and ball caps sideways. They were trying to make everyone uncomfortable and I was. When my husband came out of the rest room, he said he'd handle it. Well, they were standing close to the exit door. Husband had a stink bomb vile, and I mean they are just like a major egg poot. On our way out of the door he slid the bomb up against the wall which broke the thin glass container. We got in our Explorer, and those 3 kids started pointing to each other. Then the 2 of the 3 moved away from the 3rd kid. It was hilarious! It totally defused the situation, and we laughed all the way home.

 

[stover.p]

Remember the day when punk just meant a punk and not a style?