Spouse not understanding vaping

[illiniguy1970]

I have had similar problems with mywife. She bought me a Mistic ecig kit at Wal-Mart thinking it would be the way to finally get me to quit smoking. Unfortunately for her, I have a friend who is very big into vaping so i texted him to see if there was a better set up than what I had. Today is the third week since she bought me the original kit and I quit smoking the very first day. Now she just thinks I have traded one addiction for another. She doesn't nag me as much about it now but she still wishes I would quit vaping too. Probably doesn't help that she quit smoking cold turkey 18 years ago. The biggest problem was the money I spenttoupgrade to an ego kit and some juices, she said it would have been cheaper to just keep smoking. She is starting to come around, no remarks at all when I want to vape although I still have to go outside just like when I smoked, when it gets colder I WILL be vaping in the house. I figured I would amuse her for now and just give her some time to get used to the idea and research what vaping is about.

I probably wouldn't suggest calling your wife out about her addictions or the money she spends on shopping or what not. Just give her time, she will eventually startto see the benefits and come around.

 

[Liquinator]

Just admit you are an addict. "So what you gonna do about it?"

 

[JKVaper]

Another note.....there is a difference between an addiction and a dependency.
dependance is what most of us smokers are.....
addiction is to what lengths we will go to satisfy the dependency

 

[rosesense]

I think the most negativity comes from ex smokers who quit cold turkey. Either they think you should since they did it that way or they want you to suffer like they did. My oldest son gave me a hard time at first. He quit cold turkey many years ago. He eventually came around and now recommends vaping to others who want to quit.

 

[hrlw817]

Anyone else have issues with their spouse not understanding that using a PV isn't smoking? Mine gives me grief over using mine a bunch all day. She compares itto a drug addict. Really getting tired if the snide remarks, and grief of the initial expenditure for supplies.
I've given thought to smoking again to get her off my back. ER well kinda. It would make her appreciate that I no longer smell like an ash tray and have begun to breathe easier.

Actually, for me, when I quit smoking, 2 weeks after, it was actually my wife's idea for me to look into e-cigs. I have been vaping for a year, and she started vaping about 7 months ago, and she smoked cigs longer than I did.

 

[Yota]

Man am I gald my wife is the other way. She wanted me to get into the e-cigs an is damn happy to let me start this new world. She has never smoked but she is looking at the non nicotine juice as she thinks some of the juice sounds yummy lol. Wish you the best. Get as much info to her as you can. The more she knows about vaping the better it's going to be for the both of you.

 

[SissySpike]

Take her out to a nice steak dinner since you have some extra cash now. You could throw some extra affection her way and point out you have extra energy due to not smoking.

 

[zuzette]

Now she just thinks I have traded one addiction for another. She doesn't nag me as much about it now but she still wishes I would quit vaping too. Probably doesn't help that she quit smoking cold turkey 18 years ago. The biggest problem was the money I spenttoupgrade to an ego kit and some juices, she said it would have been cheaper to just keep smoking.

thats really at the root of the whole problem right there - you HAVE traded one addiction for another.

The addiction, however, is irrelevant.
but in the minds of non-smokers and former smokers who broke the addiction to cigarettes the addiction is the "bad" part of the deal. They equate addiction with the horrors of ill health - and right they should if we were still getting our fix by cigarettes and all the tar and chemicals that go along with the satisfying of the addiction.

while nicotine isnt risk free its still not the horrible monster our government has spent years "educating" us to believe. That monster comes from combusting plant material and inhaling the smog associated with it.

it might be helpful to some reluctant spouses to gain some perspective on the whole deal. You are not alcoholics or addicted to the hundreds of other truly dangerous substances available to you. you come home to your spouses at night, you hold down jobs and probably approach life with open honesty. the cost of your addiction does not cause you to steal from family and friends. or rob others at gun point.
So you give them that speech and you finish with "honey, i realize you cannot be supportive of my addiction. I accept that. but I am a good person and I will continue to be a good person whether you acknowledge it or not. we will have to agree to disagree about vaping. but in the interest of marital harmony we must put this matter to rest and never discuss it again. "

 

[lewisjordan538]

I hear the same kind of stuff from my wife too. She is glad I don't smell like a nasty cig but that's about it.

 

[Racehorse]

Am I a bad person because I would not put up with someone, much less keep them around, if they didn't support my attempt to protect my health, not to mention the health of those around me...

I don't think it's that simple.

Heck, relationships aren't that simple.

I think the OP was merely asking how someone else handled "this particular situation. " I'm pretty sure he wasn't asking us to judge his marital relationship.

 

[Racehorse]

Tell her to shut up and get back in the kitchen so she can make you a sammich!

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[TechJ]

If anything I was venting a little frustration. I love my wife, she just has a different view on things is all. yeah she gives me grief over things. She is glad I no longer smell like an ash tray. I think a lot of it is the fact I've latched onto gaping pretty hard once I found out how much easier it is not to smoke with the crutch of a vaporizer. I've consumed information every evening since I picked up my first blu disposable. I seem to have been a little lacking in the attention department. Seems all she needed was an attitude adjustment........
Being able to breathe again has its advantages......

 

[edensin]

I was really lucky with my ex smoker spouse. He was one of those that quit cold turkey years ago, while I tried and failed over and over.
Anyway he came home one day and told me about these e-cigs. I started searching the web for info and ended up here. Ordered my first kit from Cignot and away I went.
I slipped a couple of times and he was soooo grateful when I got back on these. I don't stink and I can now walk a couple of miles a day without gasping for air. (2pad) Never mind I can sit and watch a whole tv program with him without going outside every 15 min for a smoke.
It's also nice he's a techy kinda guy, so when I have issues, I just hand everything to him to figure out.
Just keep at it. She will come to appreciate the good aspects, and the cost is actually less over the long haul, once you get that Provari, and a good stash of batteries and juices you'll be golden.

 

[kiwivap]

I've consumed information every evening since I picked up my first blu disposable. I seem to have been a little lacking in the attention department.

New hobbies have a way of being time consuming. Maybe just tell her it's a hobby and you wanted to learn stuff to start with.

 

[ShogaNinja]

Er... Well technically you are an addict to nicotine.

You want to solve this in 5 seconds flat? Tell her you don't understand purses and pretty shoes, but you still love her anyway.
DONE! Now you'll have more time to watch the ball game and vape it up on the couch for SURE!

 

[danimal40]

Oh yeah. It has been talked about before. My wife also wanted to outsmart me. I think that is really the root of it. After a week or two, my favorite wife informed me that she had done some research and told me e-smoke wasn't all that bad. While irritating, it will work itself out. Just gotta get through the classic wife skeptical mode and move on.

Also, one time I tried to quit smoking and the wife got very aggitated. I think she may have been addicted to second hand smoke. I don't know if that is possible but that test was rigged. Or I was just unlucky, dunno. Also, I don't claim that I have defeated smoking. I have just moved on to another habit. That stops some arguements also. Luck

Oh, and it probably seems a bit weird at first.

"your favorite WIFE".......do you have more then 1.......do you live in Utah instead of Iowa?...lol

 

[recidivus]

Take her out to a nice steak dinner since you have some extra cash now. You could throw some extra affection her way and point out you have extra energy due to not smoking.

Oh no, take her to a nice steak house and buy YOURSELF a steak, let her eat bread sticks.

I jest, of course. She will change her tune, it will just take some time. Not everyone is as open to vaping as others.

@Danimal: I'm glad I wasn't the only one who caught that.

 

[msblkb]

Now this is a SMART idea!!!

Er... Well technically you are an addict to nicotine.

You want to solve this in 5 seconds flat? Tell her you don't understand purses and pretty shoes, but you still love her anyway.
DONE! Now you'll have more time to watch the ball game and vape it up on the couch for SURE!

 

[_Damion_]

My GF didn't really understand it at first, but like many people, she just didn't have a good understanding of it. Rather than simply explaining it off the top of my head, I showed her a few articles and youtube clips that did a great job of explaining it to me when I first got started. She isn't about to start using them herself or anything, but she fully supports my use of them now (in opposition of smoking) and even will rate my juices for me based off of their smell. I'm like a walking air-freshener, haha.

 

[RoseB]

Oh yes the spousal ragging. Mine sits there with a chew in his mouth saying things like "isn't that going to give you pneumonia"? I just threaten to go cold turkey. That scares him into keeping quiet. At 31 and a nicotine addict since 13.....well cold turkey scares the poo out of everyone in my family. Cigarettes are $7.50 a pack here and vaping is much cheaper. Good luck and I hope everyone here gets the support they need at home.