Tough croud!
What is financial abuse?
Not knowing what it is, I'm sure is hindering my ability to dish it out efficiently and correctly.
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Tapatyped
It's hard to quantify exactly, but just a for-instance... my ex husband, a computer programmer, was making +$40k a yr in 1984. A decent living, at 1984 standards. Yet every single thing I thought of purchasing, no matter how inexpensive, he felt he had the right to veto strictly because *I* was the one who wanted it. If I asked for 50 cents, he became the Spanish Inquisition.
It was exactly the same living arrangement as I have now, husband working, wife at home... my current husband feels that our money is OUR money... my first husband felt that HIS money was HIS money. Abusive? A little. Selfish? Most definitely. Which perhaps explains why although my ex also went on to remarry... that marriage didn't last either -- his 3rd. Whereas my 2nd marriage has now endured for nearly 28 yrs.
And just a little note about emotional abuse... when my ex and I split, he made the comment: "you may GET another man, but you'll never KEEP him." Guess we see how that ended up, Mr. 3 Strikes.
I'm loving that last laugh...
Andria
PS: this also clearly explains why I've enjoyed a blue-collar-employed husband for 28 yrs... he doesn't make a lot of money, but he is generous and giving... which is a hell of a lot more valuable in a mate than whatever amount of money he makes.
