unsupportive spouses..

[Detroit]

haha i know man its messed up too because even if u buy a hole new kit here and there just to keep it fun it still cost less lol.

ah i geuss they gotta hate on someone might as well be us!

 

[Shilo]

Sorry about the unsupportive spouse mine was the one who decided we must do this and I am so glad for that now. Maybe she'll appreciate it more when she realizes that obnoxious odor is off of you forever and you'll have pretty smells on you now
LOL

 

[Stormiefury]

I would try putting yourself in her shoes. Maybe she's a little jealous that you found it so easy. I'm guessing she tried the ones you bought and didn't like it (since you are trying to find flavors she does like). It might be hard for her seeing you so happy about the change and her not being able to change. I know my husband quit smoking 6 years ago and has never picked one up since. I tried quitting with everything possible and failed miserably. Sometimes I snapped at him and he would just tell me its ok honey you will find something that works for you. When I found this I got lucky he was supportive because he was worried at first. Now he's looking at stuff and seeing what to buy me next because he's so happy for me. Give her some time and help her to make the change, if she is able to find that most awesome flavor then do something nice for her to show her that you're proud of her and that you're not mad about how she was feeling.

Just my as a female
Stormie

 

[fray]

My wife was like that and I told her to ..... I got the silient treatment for like a week. It was a pleasant week.

 

[Stormiefury]

My wife was like that and I told her to ..... I got the silient treatment for like a week. It was a pleasant week.

I'm just kinda like WOW....

 

[Lisa Belle]

This issue has been plaguing me as well. The person is opposition. He has tried a start kit (not the best quality) very slowly and with reluctance is using it, but not that often and if your spouse or partner is skeptical of any new activity, then that's the issue. Would it matter what new thing you are doing? Is this person the yang of your yin?? LOL this is a cross gender issue and a control issue as was mentioned earlier. It's put up or shut up with some people or move on. It can undermine your determination because it has mine and I need to come to ECF and keep my priorities in order. Help me too!!!

 

[robblundberg]

anyone have trouble with your spouse being un-supportive? my feiance(spell check) seemed happy for me at first...
then she started offering me real cigs even though i told her several times i didnt want any. then i bought my ego-t and she started to get a slight additude about it "why do you need that one whats wrong with the one you got at the gas station!?" ok so she got over that... now shes been tellin me the last few days "you should have extra money with this smoking thing so go buy this,go buy that" and she gets mad when i say "it takes time to save money, i have to gather all my spare parts and such"

my question is... WHY CANT THEY BE HAPPY WERE NOT SMOKING??!?!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


sorry about this.. i just needed to vent because i feel like im gonna blow up on her right now, thank god she went to bed already or i probably would have...

anyone eles have somthing similer happen? any luck trying to explane or get her/him off your back about it?

she just makes it so frustrating for me and i dont even think she relizes what shes doing.

thanks for any comments.

I'll be honest here, i sell ecigs for a living (yes at a mall) and that's a huge reason certain people don't buy is because their "significant other" thinks it won't work, even if they love it.

That being said, my fiance and family have been super supportive about since i started with a few little "bleeps" along the way i suppose. But in your case it honestly just sounds like she's being a *itch. Sorry man, i hate to be mean like that but honestly she should just be happy for you. Does she understand that vaping IS much healthier for you thank actual smoking? Maybe she just really doesn't understand, if she does and she's still acting like that, i dunno what to tell you bro. She SHOULD be happy for her partner that he's no longer taking in something that's known to kill more people than alcohol and every illegal drug combined.

I would be ...... if i were you bottom line.

 

[Mudflap]

Life is too short to marry a woman who will bust your balls for doing something positive for yourself.

 

[donnah]

If she's like this and you're not even married.... It won't bet any better. Something to think about before you marry her.If she's like this about vaping, she's going to be like this about other Things too.

 

[Glam]

My husband who quit tobacco cigs cold turkey 15 years ago was not supportive at first (skeptical). Now after seeing me totally tobacco free for over a year, he is supportive except for his pms (paying for my stash) time of the month.

Give her some time to understand that this new hobby does work...it is not just an expensive passing fad. She might just be worried that the money is being wasted and eventually all your vaping supplies will end up in the classifieds or in a landfill.

 

[Dieseler]

Hi Detroit,
we both started with an ego after about the 5 month i bought a megalodon and first time i vaped it she said "what the heck is that thing" .
Well i told her and she just sighed.

Then i bought a acorn tank and she said basically the same thing.
Was out and about and mail lady came and brought 3 acorn tanks for me hey they were on a 1 day sale with ce2 installed for 5,50 each and shipped first class for 2.40 could not pass it up.

I come home go on the forum then realized after a little while i had a package and i new what it was.
I looked over at my stubborn cranky old wife (been married long time) and said
"why didn't you tell em i had a package"
her snide reply
"oh i forgot"

Said to myself "no problem"
she places order monthly and i will remember that.
Ah woman what ya gonna do ?

 

[BluSwatch]

Wow .... Ok, here's my

Women, me being one, just want to know that any change doesn't mean a change between you and her. Tell her you still love her, go outside and vape with her when she smokes, tell her you care about her health also, and you would like to do this TOGETHER. If she scoffs or doubts, reassure her, tell her you want to understand her, and have her understand you .... man, how hard is it to show someone you are there thru thick and thin?
I like SWEET juice and have tons of dessert-type samples ... if you want some for your fiance, I would be happy to send some, and I can even add a drop or 2 of sweetener. It can get pricey buying samples just to find you don't like 3/4 of them.
Let me know, and I sure hope this works out ....
Oh - PS - I would keep the $$ talk to a minimum, we all like to feel we are worth more than any money ....

 

[Jerry B]

My heart truly goes out to everyone whos partner does not support them. that support is one of the most important elements in changing your habit (any habit really). ECF is a super great place for that support and one of the main reasons i am here.

I am blessed my wife Melissa fully supports me. She is so happy i am off those nasty cancer sticks she does not complain. I thought she might as we are close to Christmas, kidderoos to buy for and me being out of work for the last few weeks. Even with money being tighter than normal she has remained supportive through it all.

Not trying to rub anyones noses in it i am just very lucky to have that support at home with my wife and son.

For those that dont have that support, i want you to know you can still do this. Be strong stay the course, visit here often. The people in this family will lend you a kind word and a wealth of knowledge. There are a number of other forums out there but i never bothered exploring them, once i found the ECF i stuck because of these wonderful people.

Much love to you and will be keeping you in our prayers.

 

[jtpjc]

When I was seven years old or something, a girlfriend wanted me to answer to a chain letter. I refused, for obvious reasons. She wouldn't see me after that. I've remained single ever since. By the way, she's still angry with me.

 

[Detroit]

My wife was like that and I told her to ..... I got the silient treatment for like a week. It was a pleasant week.

lmfao!!! ive made this mistake.. lol

ok we'll we had a little talk this morning because i couldent let it go.. and she said she just gets mad because it seems like i spend money on things i want then dont ever use them... i explaned to her this is totally diffrent then a dvd or a ipod and showed her some of the health aspects and shes now supporting me, she did flat out say she dosnt wanna try any flavors at all. so i geuss thats out of the question.. maybe when she gets older and starts hackin lungs like my mom she will change her mind lol

wow some of yall got experiance with women? if yall talkin about leavin over this you have no idea what your in for when u get in a relationship.. women are the anti-christ lol jk idk maybe im just to layed back to hold a grudge for long.

 

[Detroit]

or "supporting me for now" i should have said, she'll get mad at me sooner or later and start it up again im sure lol

Wow .... Ok, here's my

Women, me being one, just want to know that any change doesn't mean a change between you and her. Tell her you still love her, go outside and vape with her when she smokes, tell her you care about her health also, and you would like to do this TOGETHER. If she scoffs or doubts, reassure her, tell her you want to understand her, and have her understand you .... man, how hard is it to show someone you are there thru thick and thin?
I like SWEET juice and have tons of dessert-type samples ... if you want some for your fiance, I would be happy to send some, and I can even add a drop or 2 of sweetener. It can get pricey buying samples just to find you don't like 3/4 of them.
Let me know, and I sure hope this works out ....
Oh - PS - I would keep the $$ talk to a minimum, we all like to feel we are worth more than any money ....

Thank you very much for the offer i appriciate that, it is very kind but she gave me the "no way in hell" today so i geuss she's stickin to her analogs. also i very much agree with you, all of our health is much more important then any amount of green paper.

 

[Detroit]

Wow .... Ok, here's my

Women, me being one, just want to know that any change doesn't mean a change between you and her. Tell her you still love her, go outside and vape with her when she smokes, tell her you care about her health also, and you would like to do this TOGETHER. If she scoffs or doubts, reassure her, tell her you want to understand her, and have her understand you .... man, how hard is it to show someone you are there thru thick and thin?
I like SWEET juice and have tons of dessert-type samples ... if you want some for your fiance, I would be happy to send some, and I can even add a drop or 2 of sweetener. It can get pricey buying samples just to find you don't like 3/4 of them.
Let me know, and I sure hope this works out ....
Oh - PS - I would keep the $$ talk to a minimum, we all like to feel we are worth more than any money ....

Thank you very much for the offer i appriciate that, it is very kind but she gave me the "no way in hell" today so i geuss she's stickin to her analogs. also i very much agree with you, all of our health is much more important then any amount of green paper.

 

[Iffy]

Sorry, can't add much regarding the vaping/domestic issue that hasn't been said.

But, if ya left click on any of the 'tracking' banners, ya can configure your own. Save the 'file', go to Settings/Edit signature and paste it.

Good luck... with everything!

 

[frosting]

Not sure if this has been covered or not, according to the last page she sounds dead set against doing it herself but has she at least taken a couple puffs here and there off of your own PV? The old saying don't knock it till ya try it. Good to hear she's off your back.... for now!

 

[Taniger1]

mmmm she has SAID no way in hades (basically) I suggest getting her one and leaving it laying around. Take a nice heafty drag off of it in front her and say "mmmmm DESERT!!!", put the pv down and walk away to another room or go to the store or something like that. Sometimes, subtle is better than in your face.

I started the vapeing in my home. My other half just swiped my HOG /sigh and went from smoking 2 ppd to like 5 and I suspect he's going to use it to quit completely!!! So ya know, sometimes it's finding the right pv for our other halfs.