A sad group, looking for a turn around...

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asharp22

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Okay, I know I'm not a noob here, but I thought maybe I should elaborate on why I came here and am staying.

I first saw the group while I was browsing for social groups. there seemed to be a group for everything!! When I saw this one I thought it was fan's of the movie (which I loved) so i clicked into it to join without knowing anything. Once I was accepted, I saw what it was really about and have stayed here ever since. I love sending things out to people who need to get certain items, or to people who are new to vaping. I love what vaping has done for me, since I picked up my PV I've not picked up a pack of ciggies and that has made all the difference for me. I want others to have that too!

I've always believed in PIF, in college, I had someone help me out. At the time I was married to a man who was abusive. Physically and emotionally. That may not mean a lot to people, but I was hospitalized on several occasions for broken bones. I've had my arm, 3 ribs, and my jaw broken by a person who cared very little for me or my life. Not to mention the countless times I was told that I was worthless, ugly, fat, a sl*t, and a horrible mother.

One time, I went to school with a cast on my arm, two black eyes and handprints around my neck from when he tried to strangle me. A girl who was in my class took one look at me and asked if I was okay. I told her I didn't want to talk about it, and went into hiding in the back room. She knew of one other time (the jaw and rib incident) where I was being beaten and she knew that was how I had been hurt again. Apparently when he beat me, I always said I didn't want to talk about it, must have been a catch phrase for me at that time of my life. I was hiding out in the back of the building in the waxing room (beauty school). She came in, shut the door and told me to pack my things. Me and my son were welcome to come to her house to live. She didn't know me very well, I only talked to her a handful of times before that and she took me into her home. She really had no idea the kind of hell I was living in. Every day there was something, and here was a rainbow of hope, a chance at life, so of course I jumped on it! I moved in with her the next day. She gave me rides to school, fed and housed both my and my son. She never asked for anything in return and even helped me get a restraining order. When I was sure it was safe to go home about two months later, I asked her what I could do to pay her back for this. She litterally saved my life, i owed her everything. He would have killed me, and had said as much while he was choking me. All she said was "pay it forward, what more should there be?"

If being a part of this group continues to pay my debt to her, then I am a lifetime member. I know that we've been struggling to get that "good time feeling back" and I think that we need to focus on why we're here. Just as my friend was, we're here to help other people and save lives by helping people get away from the cigarettes. She helped me to save my life, and has forever made me want to help others that need it. We're all in this together, and Jules has mentioned that we'll have the few bad apples, but we shouldn't be too quick on the backlash of ANY situation. It hurts the overall feeling of the group. I know that it can be offensive if someone seems to take to much, or seemingly is "taking advantage" of the giving hearts we have here. But maybe before we jump into making a judgement, we should remember that we're here to help people. Even people that seem to want a lot but don't give as much back. We were all new here at one time, and maybe we made small offers, or could only take from the tressure box because we had nothing to give at first, but that's why this group it here. No one is made of money, but for those that can give, it's a wonderful feeling. For those that receive, well there is mail man stalking for a reason. When I get a package in the mail I feel as though someone out there responded to my need or want. There are people in this group that are truly made of gold. I am so happy every time I tear into a package for you guys, and the smile on my face is there because of someone who just wanted to help someone else. I'm so happy here. I swear the song "if you're happy and you know it... " plays in my head now so often... so lets try and chipper up as a group, we're all here to do good things!!

*clap clap*
 

mini_art

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Ok just go on and make be bawl like a little girl, darn girl!

I am so glad you had a friend like you did , willing to help you so much!
You are sooooooo right too!

You know, I dont really think there is much wrong with this forum,

People are still laughing til it hurts, helping each other so much , and welcoming new people too..

There will be glitches, that is a given.

Pif is like the small town I came from , everyone knows their neighbor and helps their neighbor all the time
If there is a need the whole town jumps to help.

Every town has its bum too LOL and in my small home town, everyone knows who they are ,

Well even the town bum were I come from gets helped there too, but there is always a bit of complaining about it .

That is human nature and really not much anyone can do about it .

PIF is fine, and will continue to be , just like my home town,

The residents fussing once in a while is normal really, not to worry, it will be ok.
 

Ru42

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Well said and wow, what a story - awesome. And I for one am glad you are here.

Jules said, in another thread, we WILL be taken advantage of - this is a given. It is human nature, sad but true. What we can't do is let them win. Some of the stories will have happen endings and turn arounds and others will not. The key is for the nature of PIF to be undaunted by any of the problems.

As Mini said, I still come here daily and there are plenty of laughs and exceptional PIFs.

And old tale I heard, in short:

A chief talked about 2 dogs waring in his head; one dog of bad and one dog that was good. When asked which dog wins he replied 'the one I feed the most.'

We need to keep feeding the good PIF dog. Let us not focus on the problems. Jules/Joker will handle those as they come up. We need to continue to focus on the family nature, the laughter, and the joy that this group brings all of us.

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loxmythe

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Asharp thanks for sharing that. I'm very sorry you were treated so badly.

I'm looking at PIF like a slot machine. You drop in your coin and pull the lever. Sometimes you win and the payoff is helping someone that really needs it. :)

Sometimes the wheels just spin and you get screwed. :(

But that one payoff is worth all the lost coins so you just keep on trying.:p
Its your choice and it's a gamble and if you don't want to risk the loss then don't play - because once you drop the coin it's not yours anymore it belongs to the house.

But then.....What if the next spin will be the jackpot?!
So I'll keep dropping coins. I'll keep gambling because I really love it when all the wheels fall into place and it's jackpot time.:thumb:
 

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yES YES GROUP HUG!!!On personal expierience I can really say I've been there.It's a horrible situation; more than one can imagine unless you've been thru it.Thank the good Lord for those who aren'nt afraid to step up and extend a helping hand with no thought of repayment but only ask it 'paid forward'.The feeling I get anytime I get to pif here or in daily life makes me richer than any treasure on earth.People I'm getting to know here well I'm just so glad I found PIF! Another group hug everyone?!GKK/Sue
 

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+1 on the group hug!!

Sorry I get angry at sometimes because I dont want any of you great people to get ripped off or crapped on, it just bothers me there are humans that will come here for only their own benefit
ME TOO!!! ITs hard sometimes. I went back to delete my comment but it was already closed. BIg hugs asharp thank you for posting that it could not have been easy. And it really gave me a new outlook
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asharp22

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ME TOO!!! ITs hard sometimes. I went back to delete my comment but it was already closed. BIg hugs asharp thank you for posting that it could not have been easy. And it really gave me a new outlook
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It's something that is getting easier to talk about, but she's the reason I'm here, and I just want us all to remember the spirit of the group and not just that we're here to "tell people we're givers"

+1 on the group hug!!

Sorry I get angry at sometimes because I dont want any of you great people to get ripped off or crapped on, it just bothers me there are humans that will come here for only their own benefit

You're not the only one. I get upset when people hurt my friends to. I'll always stand up for people I believe in, and I really believe in this group. It was when I caught myself getting so upset, and put myself in check that I thought I should write this post.
 
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