its the lack of pride and workmanship that plagues the US right now..at least in the 15-30 yr olds...I still dont get it.
Actually I agree with both of you. I know a ton of parents who think disciplining their kids is talking sternly.
Or that they don't want their kid to be the loser without the latest phone or tennis shoes. They NEED them. waaaaah.
Goodness forbid taking their cell phones away or their computer privileged or the TV or X-box out of their room. Or (horrors!) grounding them. Hauling them to a food pantry to help people who really do have it hard. or (and yes we did this one) take them to the AmVets to work in back sorting the stuff people donate for the
thrift store. We were having a little bit of an attitude problem. The guys working with us had been
through their job program and had lived some really hard lives. I think son1 & son2 came back changed. I know I did.) Or revoke driving privileges or make them sort socks and put them away!
son1 was just got his computer privvies restored: a computer he bought with money he earned shoveling snow last winter and mowing this spring plus his birthday money for the past 2 years. Yep, it's his. And yep, we took it away. Our internet, our electric. All he had to do was talk to his teacher about a grade. Two fold lesson: 1) he earned a better grade, so get it fixed. 2) he handled it himself
He's applied for 9 jobs since he turned 16 in July. He wore dockers and a shirt with a collar and a belt. He had a pen in his pocket. After the first app, he also had a list of references with addresses and phone numbers. No job yet, but it hasn't been because he didn't take it seriously.
Hey, I know they're only kids for a short time, but parents could at least give them reasonable chores and do the hard work of making sure the kid knows every action has a consequence. Some good,some bad. You chose to bring them into this world. Follow
through for goodness sake or the world will do it for you. The world can be a hard cold place.
*climbs down off soap box*