"gurly thread"

[Danesnpits]

I had a cat with a "baseball glove" once. He was a riot. And on an aside, I think declawing is inhumane. But I digress...

Totally agree that pets can pick us. When I was about 10 we went to a shelter to pick out a cat. The ugliest cat there (and I mean U.G.L.Y.) reached out of her cage as I was walking by to look at all the cute kittens. She stuck her claws into my coat, and pulled it back into her kennel. So here's this little girl with her ear stuck to the cage, saying "Mom, I think this one wants to come home with us..."

We did take her home, and she ended up being one of the most beautiful, affectionate cats I'd ever owned.

I don't declaw for safety reasons for the cats, they need to be able to defend themselves from my great danes and pit bull, but I have had people who have bought cats from previous litters that do. It doesn't bother me because I crop my dogs ears for cosmetic reasons. None other than I like the look of a cropped pit bull and great dane.

Blondie, that story of the cat clawing you to come home reminds me of the last sphynx kitten I bought for my breeding program. She picked me out of a litter of 5. She walked right up to me, got on my lap, curled up and went to sleep. I said she's the one! Took her home and never regretted it. She is amazing!

 

[HawtAngel]

Anyone thinking of declawing should consider these Welcome to SoftClaws for Cats They are cute cheap and really work well.They are totally saving my furniture now and my cat does not mind them at all.

 

[lelly]

Anyone thinking of declawing should consider these Welcome to SoftClaws for Cats They are cute cheap and really work well.They are totally saving my furniture now and my cat does not mind them at all.

Those are adorable!! I wish they were around back when I had my cat declawed. I got her the day I moved out of my parents house when I was 16. I had always wanted a cat and my parents were not fans. A couple years later I ran into some hard times and had to move home for a few months. The only way my dad would let that cat into his house was to have it declawed. I couldn't bear giving her up so I did it, and it was torture (emotionally for me, physically for the poor cat). It has changed her personality and she was never the same after that. She still sleeps next to me every night but she won't let anyone else near her. That poor cat has since had to have one of her back legs amputated and only has one good eye, but she still sneaks up on our sleeping dogs and unleashes a fury of clawless punches that sends the dogs running!

 

[BlondieLocs]

I don't declaw for safety reasons for the cats, they need to be able to defend themselves from my great danes and pit bull, but I have had people who have bought cats from previous litters that do. It doesn't bother me because I crop my dogs ears for cosmetic reasons. None other than I like the look of a cropped pit bull and great dane.

Blondie, that story of the cat clawing you to come home reminds me of the last sphynx kitten I bought for my breeding program. She picked me out of a litter of 5. She walked right up to me, got on my lap, curled up and went to sleep. I said she's the one! Took her home and never regretted it. She is amazing!

IMHO, declawing is not the same as cropping ears or tails for cosmetic reasons (although I don't do that either).

Declawing is inhumane not just for safety reasons. It is surgery the equivalent of amputating all your fingers at the last knuckle. It is extremely painful, and some cats either don't recover properly or develop health problems later in life as a result. There's a good write-up by a DVM here: EDA-A Rational Look at Declawing

My breeders also made me sign a contract that stated I am not allowed to have my cats declawed. I also won't let a vet who recommends declawing treat my animals.

 

[BlondieLocs]

Anyone thinking of declawing should consider these Welcome to SoftClaws for Cats They are cute cheap and really work well.They are totally saving my furniture now and my cat does not mind them at all.

+1! Although I have never had a problem training a cat NOT to scratch. I (and the furniture) actually have more injuries/scars from my dogs' claws.

 

[HawtAngel]

The same company makes them for Dogs also Soft Claws for Dogs wish I would have had them for my Lab he did so much damage to me and my house with his.

+1! Although I have never had a problem training a cat NOT to scratch. I (and the furniture) actually have more injuries/scars from my dogs' claws.

 

[BlondieLocs]

The same company makes them for Dogs also Soft Claws for Dogs wish I would have had them for my Lab he did so much damage to me and my house with his.

OMG! I didn't know they had developed them for dogs now too.... I am SOOO ordering these!!

I wonder if the boyfriend would get upset if I got hot pink for our male giant Pit Bull.

 

[HawtAngel]

LOL!My male cat has the hot pink ones, he doesn't mind but we do call him the Gay Baby Angel of Daddies Heart cause he loves his Dad

OMG! I didn't know they had developed them for dogs now too.... I am SOOO ordering these!!

I wonder if the boyfriend would get upset if I got hot pink for our male giant Pit Bull.

 

[BlondieLocs]

LOL!My male cat has the hot pink ones, he doesn't mind but we do call him the Gay Baby Angel of Daddies Heart cause he loves his Dad

I think that would be hilarious. Our APBT is 90lbs of pure butch. He NEEDS hot pink!!

And I want the glitter ones for our little girl.

 

[Danesnpits]

The gurly thread is way back there and needs to be on the front page! UGH...so I thought I would post here. I am waiting for a call from the Saskatoon City Police regarding my file for the aggrivated assault. I am hoping today after waiting 2 weeks that they are now arresting him. Does it take this long usually to do somthing about it? I don't understand. I have a medical report, forensic photos of my injuries, a victim impact statement and two written statements.

You know I was thinking about somthing, being that I am now a personal vaper. He had a heart attack a couple of years ago and was not smoking, until he met me and started up again. He had been trying so hard to quit, and I wonder if he got jealous of me not smoking. Or jealous of me period. He kept saying comments about my parents having money and that I always get everything handed down to me. Not true at all! I have been on stress leave from my job as store manager at the petstore for having 130 hours overtime, worked 30 days in a row, and some 14 hour days. This is truly all a mystery. I knew this man for 6 years. I actually met him through the petstore I managed. He was a customer of mine and always flirted with me. Then we got into a relationship 4 years later. He was verballly abusive though, and I had to leave several times because of it. And he has thrown .... narrowly missing me or his kids out of anger. UGH..I just want this over with. The police can't call quick enough! The waiting game is killing me!!

 

[AlbertaClipper]

I really don't know what to say...I do hope that they collar that guy SOON. He totally needs to atone and take some anger management courses. Who knows what sets some people off??? I'm fairly confidant that it isn't due to anything you did.

 

[BlondieLocs]

I am waiting for a call from the Saskatoon City Police regarding my file for the aggrivated assault. I am hoping today after waiting 2 weeks that they are now arresting him. Does it take this long usually to do somthing about it? I don't understand. I have a medical report, forensic photos of my injuries, a victim impact statement and two written statements.

You know I was thinking about somthing, being that I am now a personal vaper. He had a heart attack a couple of years ago and was not smoking, until he met me and started up again. He had been trying so hard to quit, and I wonder if he got jealous of me not smoking. Or jealous of me period. He kept saying comments about my parents having money and that I always get everything handed down to me. Not true at all! I have been on stress leave from my job as store manager at the petstore for having 130 hours overtime, worked 30 days in a row, and some 14 hour days. This is truly all a mystery. I knew this man for 6 years. I actually met him through the petstore I managed. He was a customer of mine and always flirted with me. Then we got into a relationship 4 years later. He was verballly abusive though, and I had to leave several times because of it. And he has thrown .... narrowly missing me or his kids out of anger. UGH..I just want this over with. The police can't call quick enough! The waiting game is killing me!!

Hard to say without knowing the individual details of your case, but I've never seen it take so long for an arrest, unless there is a lack of evidence. I know when my ex hit me, the police wanted to arrest him on the spot. (They were called to the scene, though...)

 

[BlondieLocs]

You know I was thinking about somthing, being that I am now a personal vaper. He had a heart attack a couple of years ago and was not smoking, until he met me and started up again. He had been trying so hard to quit, and I wonder if he got jealous of me not smoking. Or jealous of me period. He kept saying comments about my parents having money and that I always get everything handed down to me. Not true at all! I have been on stress leave from my job as store manager at the petstore for having 130 hours overtime, worked 30 days in a row, and some 14 hour days. This is truly all a mystery. I knew this man for 6 years. I actually met him through the petstore I managed. He was a customer of mine and always flirted with me. Then we got into a relationship 4 years later. He was verballly abusive though, and I had to leave several times because of it. And he has thrown .... narrowly missing me or his kids out of anger. UGH..I just want this over with. The police can't call quick enough! The waiting game is killing me!!

As far as this stuff goes, generally speaking (again, I don't have personal knowledge of the situation, or enough info) people who are verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive are that way because it's how they put themselves "on top". These kinds of people usually hate themselves, in one manner or another, and putting others down is a way of increasing their worth.

 

[dopeh]

TESTOSTERONE INVASION!!!!!





All your thread are belong to us.

 

[AlbertaClipper]

TESTOSTERONE INVASION!!!!!

Is that guy wearing eyeliner???

 

[BlondieLocs]

TESTOSTERONE INVASION!!!!!

 

[kanadiankat]

You know I was thinking about somthing, being that I am now a personal vaper. He had a heart attack a couple of years ago and was not smoking, until he met me and started up again. He had been trying so hard to quit, and I wonder if he got jealous of me not smoking. Or jealous of me period. He kept saying comments about my parents having money and that I always get everything handed down to me. Not true at all! I have been on stress leave from my job as store manager at the petstore for having 130 hours overtime, worked 30 days in a row, and some 14 hour days. This is truly all a mystery. I knew this man for 6 years. I actually met him through the petstore I managed. He was a customer of mine and always flirted with me. Then we got into a relationship 4 years later. He was verballly abusive though, and I had to leave several times because of it. And he has thrown .... narrowly missing me or his kids out of anger. UGH..I just want this over with. The police can't call quick enough! The waiting game is killing me!!

My dear girl - you are sitting exactly where so many women sit and asking that terrible question: "What did I do"???

With abuse - it's not you. You could be perfect, you could be the devil in disguise - doesn't matter. People who abuse others, commit the acts because of what's inside of them, no because of what their victims do or don't do.

If there is a women's shelter near you - give them a call and ask if they have or know of a place that does have a counselor you can meet with. Talking it through with someone can make a world of difference.

As for police charges - you can always call the police directly and ask them. They may not give you any real information - but there's no law against calling.

Good luck. Stay safe - and remember - abuse was not your choice and not your fault.

 

[BlondieLocs]

My dear girl - you are sitting exactly where so many women sit and asking that terrible question: "What did I do"???

With abuse - it's not you. You could be perfect, you could be the devil in disguise - doesn't matter. People who abuse others, commit the acts because of what's inside of them, no because of what their victims do or don't do.

If there is a women's shelter near you - give them a call and ask if they have or know of a place that does have a counselor you can meet with. Talking it through with someone can make a world of difference.

+1!

I have a bit of a background in psychology and used to counsel abuse victims... which made it all the more shocking when the ex hit me. I actually hit him back, though. I would also check into getting a peace bond (restraining order).

Oh, and as far as your Bengal goes... I assume you have the papers saying he belongs to you. You should be able to go directly to his house WITH police escort to get him. Just call the police station and tell them you need an escort to "keep the peace". They will accompany you, and tell him that he needs to give you the cat back. They will not resolve disputes as to what belongs to you, which is why I said you MAY need proof. I've had to do this on a couple occasions, and usually the guy won't even argue because the police are with you.

And if you ever do need someone to talk to, I'm always here. (from either a counselor or victim's POV)

 

[BlondieLocs]

Thank you Blondie! I was actually thinking of you too hun! The kittens are almost 5 weeks old.. wow can you believe it? <snip>

How are you Blondie? And how are the furkids? I hope you are doing well my girl and hope you have been enjoying your analog free life!!! You always have such awesomeness to say on the board and I am still thinking of getting myself an EGO..but gotta hang tight for the moment while I try and get my bengal cat back from the abuser. UGH!!

PICS. I want PICS!!

My furkids have been driving me bananas. The Boston went into heat again last week, so I've had NOOOO sleep. Every 5 minutes the APBT has been going after her - I really wish that he would just understand that it will never happen. (Buddy, you're just too damn tall!) On top of that, they were BOTH marking. I had the damn mop out every half hour.

I called the BF and lost it. His response... "They've never done that before." I don't care if they've never done it before. It's common when dogs are in heat for BOTH males and females to mark. And now that it's happened once, it's likely to happen again. ~sigh~ I told him he either gets off his ... and breeds her properly (she's from a Red bloodline, and the breeder wanted exclusive rights to breed her with their Red stud) or she gets fixed, or I move out and he can stay awake for 2 weeks straight. Haha.

And the APBT... I want him fixed too. I don't understand why men think that neutering their dogs reflects somehow on their own manhood. I told him he was an idiot, and that an intact male has a greater chance of getting testicular cancer than a neutered one... by oh, 100%.

 

[girlsaint]

Watching this thread with interest. Here is my spoiled Lab, he was helping me bake.

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