Heavenly tobacco, good straight out of the mail or do I need to steep?
Straight out of the mail is fine. It gets a little better after a few days, but there's not much difference (IMO).
Heavenly tobacco, good straight out of the mail or do I need to steep?
Straight out of the mail is fine. It gets a little better after a few days, but there's not much difference (IMO).
Do you at least wait till you get back in the house?
I was going to chime in with some wisdom along these lines too. So no hammering from me.I know I am gonna get hammered for this. So be it!
Are you sure you really want to do this? You could just be nervous, but it could be something you need to fully consider. Especially since you take this commitment so seriously.
This is a very serious crossroads you are at, and if you are absolutely certain, than go for it. But think long and hard before you do it, Picc! You don't want to end up in a bad deal, is your mind trying to tell you something? Only you can say for sure....
Well in the interests of full disclosure, my stunning 10+ year run with the lioness may have run its course.
We are different people now and I think we are gonna work out a way to go our separate ways while keeping our kids together as much as possible. Not official yet, but it kinda seems that way to us both. Sad in a way but exciting, too. It will be nice to do this right and do right by the boys.
It's really not hard to understand with me working like I do and being the rather taxing personality that I have. Of course there are other things as well, and that's not hard to figure out. I am maybe just not a good serious boyfriend guy right now and maybe I never will be. This was probably my best chance at one, and I can honestly say I don't have any regrets either way and am glad I had this experience. She is the longest (by far) relationship I have had.
So my marital advice is coming from that perspective...which is a bit compromised.
I was going to chime in with some wisdom along these lines too. So no hammering from me.
If it's nerves because you're excited and hope it goes well, then just suck it up and deal with it.
IF you are nervous because there are a few things that seem off... please think long and hard about it. I'm not a big fan of divorce either, it hurts, it's scary etc... But I'll share my experiences.
First marriage I did not give it any thought at all, he asked, I said yes, I knew it wouldn't last. 100% without a doubt I was certain this was not forever. And it wasn't, it was a short few years of separating, trying again, cheating, lying, separating repeat.. finally divorcing each-other (no kids, no house, I was 20).
Current marriage.. Definitely said yes because I was in it for the long haul and believed we'd be happy forever. But... there were things that just weren't right. My well being was not anywhere on his priority list and honestly his fell off mine when I realized this several years into it. Then we had kids and bought homes and i was too busy to care about it anymore. We have nice times together, but I'm still not on that priority list. AT ALL. Kids are older, not so consuming of my attention and NOW.. just about 15 yrs into it, the same feelings I had when we got engaged are still there. The not so certain feelings. Sure, we can stay married and be relatively happy. But do I want relatively happy when I'm 86 and using a walker and he's still not holding the door for me?
really listen to yourself Craig and be very clear on what's making you nervous.
Good luck!
I'm not a fan of good enough. You are fortunate that she is thinking on the same lines. Mine is not accepting at all and it's making things very hard. Routine and mundane are certainly part of long term relationships but if you are working to help the other grow and be happy it should add dimensions and break up routine right? I find we are each just doing our own thing with each of us tagging along as necessary more out of duty than desire.
I'm not sure what his name is but here's the first baby photo
This ones for you General
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Straight out of the mail is fine. It gets a little better after a few days, but there's not much difference (IMO).
Best to you and yours Lion.
EDIT: And April