Once I switched to silica I put the chamber on there and used the little screwdriver to push the wick down to the grooves. Then I used the bottle to brush that wick full of juice. Still burnt. I did watch a couple of videos and didn't remember anyone priming theirs but I did remember some of them saying it tasted funny at first so I kept trying. Needless to say burnt tastes don't go away. I will restart tonight. I really hope I get it, I only have enough kanthal for one more attempt. Gonna order more but is hate to pay b&m prices in the mean time.
Never messed around with the silica so I can't help you there. I did put up a blog post after a few people were talking on another thread about rewicking. There's a bunch of pics there - you might find some of the info handy.
If you've only got one more chance to get it right, I would:
Take it all apart, throw away the coil/wick.
Clean everything. No need to soak, but get out the Dawn & wash it.
Make your coil, wick it with some cotton. Ask your wife for help.
Prime the crap out of it.
Make a sandwich. Ask your wife for...

nevermind, skip that step. Or not. I love me a good sandwich.
Assemble, fill & vape it.
Be proud & pretend you knew what you were doing the entire time.