So, what do you say in response to the person, who you go up to and ask to please be respectful and not cloud out your 8mo, and that person says, 'respect must be earned'?
We are using 'respect' to mean different things. Admiration, another definition of respect, is something that is 'earned." Holding someone in 'esteem' is a judgement largely based on one's own self-esteem. For instance, I don't admire Obama - in the least - but I do respect him in the sense he has earned it by accomplishing what others didn't - getting elected twice. Go figure.
But when you are asking the clouder to show respect, you are requesting a courtesy, that courtly behavior be given freely - without a payday or strings attached. It's a request no different than that being asked for by the 'illiterate' in Ferguson or Baltimore, or women or gays in some godforsaken sharia (or skinhead) country. It's a request that others be viewed as 100% equal, even the 8mo, even that homeless 80yo lady you might hold the subway door for. Not be ignored or dismissed or treated condescendingly or grudgingly so just because others might be looking. That respect is courtesy and courtesy is respect - that all are created equal with no payday required, that is the glue that holds us together. This is the respect I'm talking about. If you think about it, "Respect must be earned" has started more than one war and cost more than a few million lives.
But it's a silly argument for a silly thread full of bored people anyway. And now I'm bored of being bored so let's go have some fun