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Good morning everyone! 
As my Journey continues, please allow me to share a photo of my Grandmother on my Biological Fathers side of my long lost Family .. her name was Katharina ..
Since my discovery of my Blood Family, which had been kept fully hidden from me for the entire lives of my Mother and Step-Father, it's developed into something of almost an obsession or a quest .. digging out various bits and slowly piecing things together .. it's a slow and tedious process, some might consider it even unhealthy, since, the truth is, what does it really matter at this point .. ??
I actually obtained my Catholic Baptism certificate from the Diocese ..
I'm fortunate to have my Biological Fathers Sister / my Aunt, still living, and in fairly good health at her advanced age .. and still quite lucid .. sometimes, I'm on the phone with her once a week, sometimes just twice a month .. she always, always, expresses how much she is happy that I was found .. the first Grandchild of her Mother and Father .. a child that was whisked away by my Mother, never to have had the benefit of knowing my Lineage .. Aunt Anita tells me of my days living with her Mother and Father, my Grandparents, and how they kept remembering me for all the years they had left .. and wondered what ever became of me, never forgetting me .. it's quite touching and creates a longing within me to have had the opportunity to know these folks .. c'est la vie ..
Anita always ends our discussions by telling me she Loves Me .. it was hard for me to understand at first, how a woman could say that to me having not seen me in a Lifetime .. but, I guess I am the closest thing she has left to my Biological Father, who she was quite close to ..
In April or May, when the weather is good, yet still a bit mild, I'm planning to go to Myrtle Beach and stay with her for a while .. although, I think I will book a Hotel for at least the first night and just gradually work my way into staying at her Townhouse .. I don't think she'll particularly like that idea, but I've about decided it's best ..
The "Story" has become so incredibly amazing, that sometimes I think I should write it out fully and submit it to Ancestry .. or, the "Lifetime Network" ..
I actually obtained my Catholic Baptism certificate from the Diocese ..
I'm fortunate to have my Biological Fathers Sister / my Aunt, still living, and in fairly good health at her advanced age .. and still quite lucid .. sometimes, I'm on the phone with her once a week, sometimes just twice a month .. she always, always, expresses how much she is happy that I was found .. the first Grandchild of her Mother and Father .. a child that was whisked away by my Mother, never to have had the benefit of knowing my Lineage .. Aunt Anita tells me of my days living with her Mother and Father, my Grandparents, and how they kept remembering me for all the years they had left .. and wondered what ever became of me, never forgetting me .. it's quite touching and creates a longing within me to have had the opportunity to know these folks .. c'est la vie ..
Anita always ends our discussions by telling me she Loves Me .. it was hard for me to understand at first, how a woman could say that to me having not seen me in a Lifetime .. but, I guess I am the closest thing she has left to my Biological Father, who she was quite close to ..
In April or May, when the weather is good, yet still a bit mild, I'm planning to go to Myrtle Beach and stay with her for a while .. although, I think I will book a Hotel for at least the first night and just gradually work my way into staying at her Townhouse .. I don't think she'll particularly like that idea, but I've about decided it's best ..
The "Story" has become so incredibly amazing, that sometimes I think I should write it out fully and submit it to Ancestry .. or, the "Lifetime Network" ..
Willie, amazing what some parents do to their kids. Even more amazing is how most of those kids end up ok. Your story reminds me of mine. My father abused me physically and verbally (not sexually) for as long as I can remember and my mother did nothing about it. I don't remember either of them ever hugging me or saying they loved me. I finally left home when I was 17 and never looked back. I felt worthless until I met my hubby and when he said he loved me and wanted to marry me I realized I couldn't be all bad if a man as wonderful as he could love me!
BTW, Beatiful lady your grandmother!
BTW, Beatiful lady your grandmother!
Makes sense to me, as well. While she's family, you're both still, sort of anyway, strangers. Best to start that out slow.
And, uh, does she vape?
I've told her I Vape .. she has scolded me about it, I say nothing .. at her age, she's earned the right to have her own opinion, be it clouded by what she has seen on the Media ..
'Morning everyone...
"Before a child talks, they sing. Before they write, they draw. As soon as they stand, they dance. Art is fundamental to human expression." - Phylicia Rashad
For me, finding a way to continue to be creative is my escape from any past or present issues, and essential to my existence...
"Before a child talks, they sing. Before they write, they draw. As soon as they stand, they dance. Art is fundamental to human expression." - Phylicia Rashad
For me, finding a way to continue to be creative is my escape from any past or present issues, and essential to my existence...
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Good morning Bea. Don't think we actually had rain last night, but it's foggy this morning. I walked across the deck to put the bird suet in the feeder and didn't realize what looked like moisture was actually frozen. I did some rather creative moves on my way down and landed on my knee. Surprisingly no damage done.
My goodness Willie, your grandmother was a beautiful woman. I think half the women in our grandparents time was named Katherine or some variation of it. Is this a photo you got from your Aunt Anita or one you found in your ancestry search?
It's wonderful that you found a living family member and to hear from her that you were not forgotten all those years. Unfortunately grandparents are often not considered when their children break up their marriage. And to find out that all those years they held love for you! Good for you that you're going to visit your Aunt Anita, who knows what tidbits of info you might learn! Why not write out your story and send it to Ancestry? Maybe Henry Louis Gates will pick up on it and feature you on Finding Your Roots!
My goodness Willie, your grandmother was a beautiful woman. I think half the women in our grandparents time was named Katherine or some variation of it. Is this a photo you got from your Aunt Anita or one you found in your ancestry search?
It's wonderful that you found a living family member and to hear from her that you were not forgotten all those years. Unfortunately grandparents are often not considered when their children break up their marriage. And to find out that all those years they held love for you! Good for you that you're going to visit your Aunt Anita, who knows what tidbits of info you might learn! Why not write out your story and send it to Ancestry? Maybe Henry Louis Gates will pick up on it and feature you on Finding Your Roots!
Good morning!
It's funny or ironic how life gives us avenues to explore that lead us down paths that we never dreamed possible. I'm very interested to see where your path leads.
I very simply love this!!'Morning everyone...
"Before a child talks, they sing. Before they write, they draw. As soon as they stand, they dance. Art is fundamental to human expression." - Phylicia Rashad
For me, finding a way to continue to be creative is my escape from any past or present issues, and essential to my existence...
Sheesh! I have to come to the lounge to find out my wife fell this morning. She didn't mention it to me when I came down for morning coffee.
Another soggy day. (It is, actually. But even if it's not, we're supposed to say that ) Still too warm, but the snow level is supposed to come back down tomorrow, hopefully before all the snow is gone.
We have apparently set rainfall records for January, but of course last night's weather cast was technically before the end of the month. But the currently high snow line means most of it isn't stored for the summer.
Conversely, Feb is often one of our coldest months, so there's hope.
) Still too warm, but the snow level is supposed to come back down tomorrow, hopefully before all the snow is gone.We have apparently set rainfall records for January, but of course last night's weather cast was technically before the end of the month. But the currently high snow line means most of it isn't stored for the summer.
Conversely, Feb is often one of our coldest months, so there's hope.
Good morning everyone!
I'm pretty sure I lost my job. I was running late and tried to call her but she didn't answer so I took my time even though she said we'd be busy today. She often oversleeps so I assumed she was sleeping even though she said we'd be busy today.
Just as we're about to leave she calls me saying it's too late, she lost a client and said she'd already left. Then she hung up on me. Why do I always end up working for the loonies? I've never been fired in my life and now I'm yelled at for being late? I don't need this. If I'm not fired I think it's time to quit. I didn't deserve her yelling at me.
At least I can go back to sleep.
I'm pretty sure I lost my job. I was running late and tried to call her but she didn't answer so I took my time even though she said we'd be busy today. She often oversleeps so I assumed she was sleeping even though she said we'd be busy today.
Just as we're about to leave she calls me saying it's too late, she lost a client and said she'd already left. Then she hung up on me. Why do I always end up working for the loonies? I've never been fired in my life and now I'm yelled at for being late? I don't need this. If I'm not fired I think it's time to quit. I didn't deserve her yelling at me.
At least I can go back to sleep.
Hola ..
The "photo" is actually a Plate (probably not dishwasher safe) .. one was made for each of Katharina's children at some point after her death as a keepsake for each grown child .. Katharina and Peter (my Grandfather), had 5 children .. Isolde, Anita, Wilhelm (my Biological Father), Jurgen and Monika ..
My Biological Father, according to Family Lore, told my Mother at the beginning of their relationship, that he would not be marrying her, no matter what .. he actually got his First Wife pregnant a month after I was conceived .. and, my Half Brother was born a Month after me .. I suspect, although it can never be confirmed now, that my Mother intentionally got pregnant with me in an attempt to force my Biological Father into doing the right thing .. which, obviously, he did not do ..
This tidbit connected quite a few dots in the History .. and helped explain much of my Mothers general attitude toward me .. she, likely, saw him every time she looked at me ..
As a Baby, Katharina and Peter took me in for the first 3 years of my life .. my Biological Father took his new Wife and Son and moved quite a distance away ..
It's a long and convoluted tale .. and one that, IMO, never had a Happy Ending ..
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But the tale's not done, Willy.
Your projected road trip may bring you a bit closer. And maybe fill in more of the why of your Mother's actions. While not changing the past, of course, sometimes understanding helps us to deal with it.
Your projected road trip may bring you a bit closer. And maybe fill in more of the why of your Mother's actions. While not changing the past, of course, sometimes understanding helps us to deal with it.
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