Parents dont let me vape, help.

[WattWick]

If it's all about maintaining a habit you can't quit, get some flavorless juice and sneak a vape in your own room or in the bathroom or such. It's not like vaping is something that is hard to do without them knowing it if it's all about getting a much needed nic fix. If it's all about cross-arming through some kind of "I'm an adult now, mom!", you're on your own as far as I'm concerned.

A bit harsh, I know. I just don't see the point of "educating" your folks to the point where it should be OK to do something they don't want to see, in their faces. On the other hand, if they themselves are vapers... what is it they do that makes their vaping OK and yours not? Maybe there's some middle ground available.

 

[Rocketman]

I'm not real sure I would be better off with my kids 'taking care' of me in my golden years.
At least they wouldn't have to travel far, they'll be living upstairs also.

At least you are supporting your habit with your own hard earned cash.

 

[MJTP]

Does your town have a local vape shop? If so, asking your parents to go to one with you will change the world. The professionalism, boutique stylings, and ultra knowledgable, professional workers will help your parents feel at ease if they have any questions.

That being said, usually I'd go on a rant and rave about how your parents actually have a mental disorder (from your description) that's related to schizophrenia (the particular disorder I'm talking about is a mild one that is scientifically documented but rarely applied because most people actually have it in some form or other), but since your parents really are trying to do so much for you that many parents do not, I would say that you should give them a little bit of respect and change your vaping preferences.

Just don't do it while they're around. Go do it outside. Get a mod that in no way looks like a drug device. Find an old lady who vapes and introduce them. Vape in a closet. Do whatever. If your juice stinks to the point your parents can smell it, maybe they have a point; that particular juice may not be healthy for you, and your wicks may be burning. Make sure your juice and wick is well saturated, and it shouldn't leave a smokey smell.

Also, if you do have an addiction to vaping, your parents may also be right that an addiction isn't healthy. I personally only vape as a hobby - I can get addictive tendencies over it, but that's not even because of nicotine - I usually prefer 0 nicotine, and your parents may agree with that choice over nic flavors - I just enjoy puffing on something while watching a movie or to kickstart my day. What kind of respectable grandpa has never smoked a pipe? It's not exactly a frowned upon thing in America.

I also went to my local vape shop and there were all sorts of people in there - lawyers, doctors, grannies, respectable looking women - this perception could really change your parents views.

 

[abstractcousin]

If its the appearance of your ecig that bothers them, maybe get a smaller (cig size) device and ask if they mind you using that device when your at home. They also have some very small-stealth devices available. I have one that looks exactly like a zippo lighter. I had never smoked in my parents home, even when visiting. When I switched to vaping and answered all their questions, I now vape when I go home and its not a problem. I did have a couple juices that my mom mentioned she didn't like the smell of. So, I always make sure and vape a flavor that she likes the smell of (espresso or bakery). Bottom line, its just being considerate to what they prefer in their home. Luckily you live in a warmer climate.

i have a poldiac.. all brass

 

[abstractcousin]

Does your town have a local vape shop? If so, asking your parents to go to one with you will change the world. The professionalism, boutique stylings, and ultra knowledgable, professional workers will help your parents feel at ease if they have any questions.

That being said, usually I'd go on a rant and rave about how your parents actually have a mental disorder (from your description) that's related to schizophrenia (the particular disorder I'm talking about is a mild one that is scientifically documented but rarely applied because most people actually have it in some form or other), but since your parents really are trying to do so much for you that many parents do not, I would say that you should give them a little bit of respect and change your vaping preferences.

Just don't do it while they're around. Go do it outside. Get a mod that in no way looks like a drug device. Find an old lady who vapes and introduce them. Vape in a closet. Do whatever. If your juice stinks to the point your parents can smell it, maybe they have a point; that particular juice may not be healthy for you, and your wicks may be burning. Make sure your juice and wick is well saturated, and it shouldn't leave a smokey smell.

Also, if you do have an addiction to vaping, your parents may also be right that an addiction isn't healthy. I personally only vape as a hobby - I can get addictive tendencies over it, but that's not even because of nicotine - I usually prefer 0 nicotine, and your parents may agree with that choice over nic flavors - I just enjoy puffing on something while watching a movie or to kickstart my day. What kind of respectable grandpa has never smoked a pipe? It's not exactly a frowned upon thing in America.

I also went to my local vape shop and there were all sorts of people in there - lawyers, doctors, grannies, respectable looking women - this perception could really change your parents views.

that is a great idea!!

 

[abstractcousin]

Cousin, you're probably fighting a losing battle. Facts and science can be unimportant. There will forever be those who observe us exhale any substance other than oxygen and decide that it must be a poison. Even intelligent, reasonable people who understand the difference between smoking and vaping seem to have an instinctive, brief, negative reaction when they view the activity. It's almost as though it's in the genes. This is an uphill battle that we vapors will have for a very long time to come.

You've already done a good job educating your folks. I know it's a hassle, but vape outside. The more you "debate" with them, the harder they'll champion their own viewpoint. Go get your degree and make more money than your dad does.

Great advice. thank you all so much.

 

[bluecat]

If my child ever said something like that to me ...that money being spent on college and putting a roof over their head would be re routed into a long therm care policy for myself. The roof over their head would be the sun stars and clouds with the imprint of the doorknob on their backside.

I would tell them they get a 10 second head start and better start running now.

 

[Myrany]

I am in my late 40s. TO this day I have never smoked or vaped in front of my parents after the first time I got caught smoking as a teen. For many years it was not worth the heartache. Now that I am older I see it as simple respect. When I go to visit I get a hotel room rather than staying with mom (we lost dad a couple years ago). When I am with her I respect her wishes.

It is all about choices.

 

[Sane Asylum]

I think some folks here are being a little hard on you. You did say that you understand that it's their house, their rules but you just want them to have a better understanding of vaping. You also stated that they don't like the impression you're giving with what you're using for vaping.

As a parent with kids your age, don't even think about anything that will affect your ability to stay in school (moving out, etc). Yeah, life would be easier if you could freely vape in the house but they don't want you to do that. If you want to them to feel more comfortable about vaping, some posters gave you some excellent links to show them. I don't know what you're using for vaping, but like some posters suggested, you might want to consider getting something that's a little more 'mainstream' looking for when you're at home and 'vaping outside'.

You seem to have a good relationship with your parents. That's more important in the long term than being able to vape in the house. Work with them to make them more comfortable with this. Vaping outside isn't the end of the world.

 

[plastictree]

Whenever my mom comes in my rooms she's like, oooh what flavor is that? smells good

 

[DC2]

Cousin, you're probably fighting a losing battle. Facts and science can be unimportant. There will forever be those who observe us exhale any substance other than oxygen and decide that it must be a poison. Even intelligent, reasonable people who understand the difference between smoking and vaping seem to have an instinctive, brief, negative reaction when they view the activity. It's almost as though it's in the genes. This is an uphill battle that we vapors will have for a very long time to come.

It's not in the genes, it's the result of a decades long plan to brainwash the public...
Rampant Antismoking Signifies Grave Danger

 

[patkin]

Poldiac... bingo! If wanting to vape is the issue, use a black cigalike around them and see how it goes... not so "in your face"... eroll hits better than most cigalikes and I suggest black tanks so they can't see the juice. Its the only thing I use in public actually for exactly the reasons I addressed in my previous post. If the police might pay extra close attention to my setup that might be a clue to base my behavior on.

 

[DC2]

UNTIL you start picking up your end of the tab.
I moved in back into my dad's when economics started hitting. It was big enough for two families, and we ended up sharing the costs. But he always refused the fact of me redecorating my end of the thing. Sore discussions followed. In the end, I think would have been wiser each to have their own.

Interesting...

So what if you move back in with your parents because they need some income...
And better to rent to a family member than a stranger.

Kinda turns the tables a bit...

 

[DC2]

I guess my point is, perhaps your parents just need a little reassurance that they still have a little influence over your actions and well-being, and that you're not going to go running willy-nilly out into the crazy screwed up world without looking both ways before you cross the street.

I remember the time my father slapped me for something and I didn't cry.
I just looked at him.

That was the end of many things.
And inside, I felt a little bit bad for him.

 

[DC2]

Parents not wanting their child, however old, for whatever reason, to not vape, sounds like a good thing. Work out a plan to continue, working toward quitting altogether. It will be money in the bank. Unless you have some off the wall health condition where nicotine may actually help you why vape if you don't have to?

I don't have to vape, I choose to vape.

And I vape because I like the actions and the sensations.
And I use nicotine.

And I use nicotine because it improves memory, concentration, and attention.
And because it may help stave off Alzheimers and Parkinsons.

Lots of people use caffeine.
I think nicotine is far better than caffeine.

 

[DC2]

Ha ha, same here, but I'm pretty sure HauntedMyst was just being funny.

HauntedMyst is hilarious.
Always has been, always will be.

 

[CaliforniaGirl]

Interesting...

So what if you move back in with your parents because they need some income...
And better to rent to a family member than a stranger.

Kinda turns the tables a bit...

Yes and no, they might just as easily have a "no vaping" policy for a stranger renting to them as for their child. And if my child were threatening me (WHAZ that you say???) in that way, I'd sure shoot rent to a stranger v. my ungrateful child.

 

[CaliforniaGirl]

I remember the time my father slapped me for something and I didn't cry.
I just looked at him.

That was the end of many things.
And inside, I felt a little bit bad for him.

Ugh, I remember my mom hitting me and me just standing there...and finally she yelled "Cry!" so I made some noises...I realized she just wanted me to cry so she could give herself permission that the "lesson was learned" and she could stop...it's not always fun learning things about our parents. But just a part of growing up, I guess.

 

[CGlassford]

Okay, so i just talked about it with them. they said that they dont realy care that much themselves because they are convinced of its safetey, but that they are just worried about what others think about it. they said: "if someone sees you with it, they will think you are a addict and that you are smoking something else out of that thing"... ugh. i dont know

But aren't you more likely to be seen outside the house? If this is their real reason, it doesn't make much sense to me.

What ever. I agree with the "It's their House so it's their rules" view on this even if I don't agree with their rule or reason. That's just the way it is.

Even when I was living with my Mother (after a divorce) and I was paying all the bills, it was still HER house. She brought me into this world when she didn't have to. I was her seventh (yes that's 7) kid and I nearly killed her. I would never disrespect her home by belittleing any rule she chooses to put down.

 

[SilentEcho13]

My folks don't want me vaping either. Mom calls it smoking, dad calls it a "pathway to cigarettes".

When mom's around, I don't vape or I stealth it. When dad's around, I threaten to take his Dunhill cigarettes hostage and he leaves me alone.

To this day, I've taken his cigarettes hostage four times.

Can't get him to start vaping either.