Spouse not understanding vaping

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Haha mine don't understand when she ask why if I am vaping do I still smoke now and again. I really can't answer, the only answer I have is it's only 1 or 2 every now and again


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Lol heard lots of good things about provaris the hardest decision will be which color.
My wife loves me and yes she nagged me about smoking. And smoking a certain other herbal substance prior to that ( been clean over 2 years now with no regrets). If anything I'm running out of bad habits. Caffeine and nicotine are all I have left.
She just sees me pulling off my vaporizer like a fiend at times. Lowering my nicotine dosage hasent helped much in that regard. However my bouts with heartburn are non existent now. ( prolonged heartburn and me = GERD )
 

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TechJ, the main thing is, we are here to support you; as you can tell by these posts, you are not alone. You are on the road trying to improve your health the same as your wife is hers. Believe me when I say that even if you spend more on vaping initially than smoking or even continue to it will not be no where near the amount that you could end up spending for medical down the road. Ideally not smoking or vaping would be the best for us all. We do know at this point in time that vaping is better for us than smoking.
 

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Yes I know, and appreciate all the support from new friends here. We're all going / have gone through similar experiences. If nothing I'm here venting a little to those who can feel my frusteration. I do greatly appreciate all the feedback from the community. Likely I'd be smoking still if I had not found this place. All the great information and people are a major factor in my success this time around.
My wife will just have to get used to my PV hanging from my neck.
 

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I don't think that makes you a bad person. In my case, the wife just thought I was going to end up spending more money on vaping than smoking. I did this for my health, my family and my budget. I also think that since I tried "vaping" with an NJoy setup a few years back and failed that she had a right to be concerned about the money spent. This time, however, I did my research and found this place. Cigs are no longer a part of my life, nor will they ever be again.
 

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I don't think that makes you a bad person. In my case, the wife just thought I was going to end up spending more money on vaping than smoking. I did this for my health, my family and my budget. I also think that since I tried "vaping" with an NJoy setup a few years back and failed that she had a right to be concerned about the money spent. This time, however, I did my research and found this place. Cigs are no longer a part of my life, nor will they ever be again.

I think sometimes you just have to work your issues out. Hubby and I try to fight nice:) We got married so we must like each other so we try to keep it that way.

Hubby is really trying hard to support my decision and I appreciate that but he probably is a bit like "Really, you have spent $300?" Yes, but let me point out that this has been the nicest quitting experience of my life and that I have already saved about $120 and I have enough supplies to last me at least a month and probably a lot longer than that. I have enough batteries and the car battery charger and the PCC kit and the bigger batteries and the cartos, clearos and CE3's and should make it through an entire primitive camping trip with this many supplies to make sure I don't want a cig for an entire 2 weeks. He will be driving thousands of miles with me and not a single ash flying out of the ashtray. And, I will be saving a ton of money in the long run.
 

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Anyone else have issues with their spouse not understanding that using a PV isn't smoking? Mine gives me grief over using mine a bunch all day. She compares itto a drug addict. Really getting tired if the snide remarks, and grief of the initial expenditure for supplies.
I've given thought to smoking again to get her off my back. ER well kinda. It would make her appreciate that I no longer smell like an ash tray and have begun to breathe easier.

Um TechJ, how can I explain this to you? When you smoke Cigarettes you are a drug addict. You are using a Substance, Nicotine that modifies your mood and behavior. Drugs are substances that alter mood and behavior.

Only difference is Tobacco products are Accepted by Western Society and are perfectly ok amongst some social circles.

Don't forget that stopping Tobacco is tougher than stopping some (OTHER STUFF)! So in essence quitting Nicotine is just as rough as an addict stopping their drug of choice.

Again, don't forget, for anyone who drinks Alcohol is also a drug. Let's see if the websites word blocker nanny blocks Alcohol out!
 
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I do realize nicotine is a drug. So is caffeine if we wanna go there. And yes I know I am an addict. Could be worse......I could be smoking again.

Woah reality check! But really many people are addicted to many different things. Many which are overlooked by society as a whole. My use of the term addict in my first post was in a derogatory way in association with street drugs.
 
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Tuesday is my 2 year vaping anniversary and hubby still doesnt approve nor understand my vaping :glare: He doesnt say a whole lot anymore but occasionally I will hear that he thinks that I should have one APV and one flavor and thats all I should need. I guess I should consider that an improvement seeing as for a long time he often expressed that I should just give it all up. He was one of those unusual people that easily gave up smoking fourteen years ago when he simply decided one day he didnt wish to smoke anymore and thought I should do the same thing.

Its possible that I might just decide to give it all up some day, BUT IF that ever happens it will be on MY terms and not his AND that possiblity is only a possibility BECAUSE of vaping. :)
 

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Tuesday is my 2 year vaping anniversary and hubby still doesnt approve nor understand my vaping :glare: He doesnt say a whole lot anymore but occasionally I will hear that he thinks that I should have one APV and one flavor and thats all I should need. I guess I should consider that an improvement seeing as for a long time he often expressed that I should just give it all up. He was one of those unusual people that easily gave up smoking fourteen years ago when he simply decided one day he didnt wish to smoke anymore and thought I should do the same thing.

Its possible that I might just decide to give it all up some day, BUT IF that ever happens it will be on MY terms and not his AND that possiblity is only a possibility BECAUSE of vaping. :)

Good for you, and congrats on your vaping anniversary. :)
 

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I am in my second, and whatever the outcome, last marriage. I am happy and fortunate my wife is so supporting of my vaping. She loves that I do not smoke analogs anymore, no stink, not always having to step outside for a smoke, the health benefits, etc.etc. I can totaly see your situation though as there would be no doubt in my mind how my ex wife would have responded to it, which is why (and for many other reasons) I refer to her as EX wife.....lol.
 

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Meh, just let it slide. She'll either see it as being a healthier alternative to smoking cigarettes or she won't. In the end it's YOUR choice, and your lungs. She wants it outside? Cool, go outside. She wants to make side comments, whatever! You've made a healthier choice for yourself, and only you can make it.

My wife didn't really "get it" at first either, but she's seen the improvements in my health (along with my constant exclamations of how easy it is to breath and walk up stairs), my mood, my diet, etc etc. Now she supports my decision 100%; but that was her decision to make. I don't pressure her much about her light-ish smoking, and she doesn't make those jokes any more.

So yea, whatever, do it for you, not for anyone else.
 

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Worst case I will be getting a personal bank account to put my no smoking savings into and making my vaping purchases under the radar.

As a happily married person, I will say that I think it is a good idea for each partner to have some fun money that they are completely unaccountable for. That is, if it is at all affordable in your budget which it sounds like it is.

Neither my husband and I are particularly spendy people. We discuss large purchases but, other than that, we don't tend to question each other about what we spend. Maybe that would be different if we were running up against budgetary constraints or one of us had a spending problem. We're in the fortunate position of being able to meet our expenses and save for the future. So if I want a new toy or new clothes, I just go buy them. Same for him. We treat each other like reasonable adults and give each other the benefit of the doubt.

We're pretty unstructured and it works for us, but many couples benefit from agreeing upon a monthly fun money allowance and keeping it separate, as you say. Not only does it help keep the household budget on track, it is fair to both parties. It keeps you from making value judgments on each other's priorities. I wouldn't go head to head comparing whose are more worthwhile.

I knew one couple where the husband was always criticizing the wife for her spending on clothes and bags. She ended up hiding her spending. Then he would go out and buy major things like a motorcycle and a boat with the justification that she was always spending on junk he didn't care about so why shouldn't he? They just ended up in debt and fighting all the time.
 

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I started about 3 weeks ago and for the most part my wife was poking fun at me for my vaping. A couple of days ago all of a sudden asked me about it for the first time and was really interested in it to hide her smoking from her family on vacation. An hour ago she told me vaping is so much better and love it. Talk about a quick turnaround.
 

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As a happily married person, I will say that I think it is a good idea for each partner to have some fun money that they are completely unaccountable for. That is, if it is at all affordable in your budget which it sounds like it is.

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I knew one couple where the husband was always criticizing the wife for her spending on clothes and bags. She ended up hiding her spending. Then he would go out and buy major things like a motorcycle and a boat with the justification that she was always spending on junk he didn't care about so why shouldn't he? They just ended up in debt and fighting all the time.

This is the kind of marriage that works for me, this all takes good productive communication and understanding, and will result in a good marriage and happy life
......... well put Figgy
 
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