Good Day Fine REO Folk. Gil, I feel your anguish over the MAJOR downsize. We're moving from 3 acres, mostly heavily wooded, surrounded by State Park/Lake, City and County protected habitats, and Audubon Protected Habitat and Teaching Center. 36K sq ft house, huge deck hanging over woods, big spa and pool, and way up there vaulted ceilings. And at the dead end of a dead end road that comes off of a short road that dead ends at the State Park. We've been here 27 years. House needs major work, though. And we'll take a loss especially as our property taxes have been delayed for years. (It's a Texas thing, maybe other states, where you can delay property taxes till place is sold once you reach a certain age.) But I'm totally exhausted and constantly overwhelmed just keeping it barely livable. (I've spent many thousands of dollars this year just on plumbing, AC, yard and trees, and spa.) The house payment, utilities, insurance, alone come to almost the total of DH's Social Security and small royalties from gas leases. There's almost constant expenditures for things that go wrong and I have to pay a crew to mow. I can't get on ladders anymore and can't do all the repairs, inside and out, like gutters, roof, fences, etc. DH doesn't even know how to turn on any of the various vacuum cleaners, let alone the robots and floor washers, he has never participated in pool and spa upkeep, or yard, or anything else for that matter, and I've been begging him since we first got married to participate, at the very least, in helping me think about house/property matters and issues. He just lives here and pays the bills. I'm the manager, cleaner, handy"man", tree crew, etc. I just can't do it any more let alone pay anyone to do things any more. So our move is one of necessity on many levels. That or move under a bridge or down by the river in a van.
Of course DH has been very resistant about moving for over a year. He seriously has always said, since he hit his 70's that he'd rather go out in the back yard and put a bullet in his head, than move. He absolutely won't move to our friends farm land where I can put up a really fancy Pacific Yurt, and water and electricity are already there. He refuses to even consider moving to the Yucatan Jungle, where our friend lives where we would pay practically nothing to live there.
On a positive note!!!!! DH saw the empty apartment, for the first time, yesterday, and his response was very positive. He said, "This is much larger than I remember the model. I think I'm going to like this."
Glory Hallelujah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The only way he's participating in any part of the move is to pick out the books he wants to keep. I'm doing all the other work including grunt work. And he signed some papers and the lease. He did feed the dogs last night and he refills their inside water bucket. And (Val) he doesn't mind doing the Costco runs but I'm sure he doesn't "love" it like your DH.
BTW.... there's nothing like taking a good dump in the woods.

I can drop trousers just about anywhere out here. DH frequently "waters the woods" off the deck. We've never worn any clothing in the pool or hot tub. I used to do the yard work in bikini bottom only. It is going to be quite a change at new place.
Love and Hugs. Find and give some happy.