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The REO Lounge - Part III
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My mom sucks. Sometimes. I dunno if she's just too OLD or in a bad mood or what. I told her I made a friend on ecf from Argentina. Actually, I said I met a woman on the internet from the same quit-smoking support group. Because my mom doesn't understand ecigs or forums. Or the internet, for that matter.
I thought she would be happy. She was not. She askd me how do I communicate with this woman. I said, through the telephone and email (PM) then she scolds me for "wasting money" even though it runs me like 2 cents a minute to call internationally.
Then my mom called me stupid. All because I asked her to bring along a lancaster newspaper or other small keep-sake to take with her on her trip (she's going to arg to visit my grandma for a few weeks) so when she arrives in arg she can put it in the mail for my friend. Her exact words were, "Why would you offer to do something so stupid?" I guess she thought I was asking her to smuggle in something expensive or illegal, or inconvience her trip??
Seriously, I love my mom to death but I can't put myself inside her head sometimes, especially now that she is OLD.. When she's upset, no amount of discussion or logic works.
Another thing my loving mother said to me, "This is what you're wasting your time with??"
It's probably all to do with karma. I was a jerk in my teens. I probably burned away all the goodwill from my mom during my puberty phase.
Oh yeah, over 8 months smokefree and I have never got a pat on the back or one freaking supportive word from my mom after I switched from smoking to vaping. All she sees is instead of me wasting money on smoking, i'm wasting it on vaping.
I'm trying to be the perfect son to her now that she is a widow but whatever I say or do, she finds something wrong with. What the hell can I do except quietly say "I'm sorry" and nod my head.
Whatever.
I thought she would be happy. She was not. She askd me how do I communicate with this woman. I said, through the telephone and email (PM) then she scolds me for "wasting money" even though it runs me like 2 cents a minute to call internationally.
Then my mom called me stupid. All because I asked her to bring along a lancaster newspaper or other small keep-sake to take with her on her trip (she's going to arg to visit my grandma for a few weeks) so when she arrives in arg she can put it in the mail for my friend. Her exact words were, "Why would you offer to do something so stupid?" I guess she thought I was asking her to smuggle in something expensive or illegal, or inconvience her trip??
Seriously, I love my mom to death but I can't put myself inside her head sometimes, especially now that she is OLD.. When she's upset, no amount of discussion or logic works.
Another thing my loving mother said to me, "This is what you're wasting your time with??"
It's probably all to do with karma. I was a jerk in my teens. I probably burned away all the goodwill from my mom during my puberty phase.
Oh yeah, over 8 months smokefree and I have never got a pat on the back or one freaking supportive word from my mom after I switched from smoking to vaping. All she sees is instead of me wasting money on smoking, i'm wasting it on vaping.
I'm trying to be the perfect son to her now that she is a widow but whatever I say or do, she finds something wrong with. What the hell can I do except quietly say "I'm sorry" and nod my head.
Whatever.
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RHP, sorry your mom's being so unreasonable. My folks feel the same way about vaping, and it's very frustrating. However, they WERE happy when Aunt Rose finally switched over (all hale, the REO Grand!), so I know that they do recognize the difference. But, until it's more mainstream, they're gonna worry. Just an idea - maybe your mom thinks you're kinda cheating on your girl (even though that's nonsense). That worry could explain some of her comments. I hope that all the folks who ARE so proud of your accomplishment here on the forum help ease the sting of that lacking support quite a bit. You graced the thread with this band yesterday, but here's a great one from them that's quite apropos -
But I'm pro-venting; I hope she comes around, and I wish you patience.
But I'm pro-venting; I hope she comes around, and I wish you patience.
Thanks for the song, Becky. I'm listening to it as I write this to you. And sorry folks, for turning this lounge into my 4am personal soapbox. I figured I'd get a pass since all the sane reonauts are asleep at this hour (with exception to our overseas brothers).
No, something else is bugging her. I don't think this has to do with it being a woman. But she won't let me in her world, so your guess is as good as mine. I don't know what her problem is, this time. That's why I'm chalking it up to history & karma.
I always find out about her problems AFTER the fact. Excuse is that she didn't want to worry me at the time. I say excuse because this woman has never apologized for anything. She remembers every single screw-up move I've made in life and uses it like a wildcard when she hurts me or was wrong about something.
Man, these are the triggers that make me vape like a steamtrain into a nic coma.
ETA: I find it sad that I need to call my grandmother who lives a world away, in order to get advice on how to communicate with my own mother who lives in the same freaking state!
RHP
No, something else is bugging her. I don't think this has to do with it being a woman. But she won't let me in her world, so your guess is as good as mine. I don't know what her problem is, this time. That's why I'm chalking it up to history & karma.
I always find out about her problems AFTER the fact. Excuse is that she didn't want to worry me at the time. I say excuse because this woman has never apologized for anything. She remembers every single screw-up move I've made in life and uses it like a wildcard when she hurts me or was wrong about something.
Man, these are the triggers that make me vape like a steamtrain into a nic coma.
ETA: I find it sad that I need to call my grandmother who lives a world away, in order to get advice on how to communicate with my own mother who lives in the same freaking state!
RHP
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I wish I had some awesome words of wisdom to share with you. How about a hug (((RHP))). Do you ever try and tell her how you feel? She may not even realize how she comes off. I adore my dad but he can be so negative 24/7 and it gets old fast. My pt being, he does not even realize how negative he is being. When I have had enough I kindly pt it out and he is more aware and takes it down a notch or two. Keep being a good son. Your karma will come when you have your own kids someday, lol
Hugs Pat! Life can be tough but I am sure she loves you and know that we all do here!
Good Morning Reo-duders! Have a safe and prosperous day!
I'm glad that guy's thread got deleted. I was just thinking about the noobs who might have taken his advice only to be led down a wrong path. How many of us have heeded advice from an self proclaimed "expert" at some point in his/her life. 20/20 hindsight?
Off to work. Later loved ones!!
I'm glad that guy's thread got deleted. I was just thinking about the noobs who might have taken his advice only to be led down a wrong path. How many of us have heeded advice from an self proclaimed "expert" at some point in his/her life. 20/20 hindsight?
Off to work. Later loved ones!!
Morning REOnauts! Happy Tuesday!
Today's fact! In order for a salad to be called a salad, it must contain at least three ingredients.
Today's fact! In order for a salad to be called a salad, it must contain at least three ingredients.
hi EVERYONE!
first i need to thank lisa for letting all of you know that carol had passed...i miss my sister terribly, but she is at peace now...it makes me smile that this forum let all of you get to know a piece of her...i read her many posts that made her laugh..., and often asked about "THE CUTE GUY"(yes pietro)...carols sense of humour stayed with her until the last day...hours before she passed i asked her if she wanted something to drink and she said: "YES GIVE ME A VODKA AND TONIC".....carol was not really a drinker...one drink and she was totally buzzed....as she was a lil woman just 5 feet tall and 110lbs...
thank you....thank ALL of you for opening your hearts and including carol into this forum and for all your prayers and support.
this is the last pic of carol and the only one that she allowed me to take...it was on easter sunday and i put rabbit ears on her..
first i need to thank lisa for letting all of you know that carol had passed...i miss my sister terribly, but she is at peace now...it makes me smile that this forum let all of you get to know a piece of her...i read her many posts that made her laugh..., and often asked about "THE CUTE GUY"(yes pietro)...carols sense of humour stayed with her until the last day...hours before she passed i asked her if she wanted something to drink and she said: "YES GIVE ME A VODKA AND TONIC".....carol was not really a drinker...one drink and she was totally buzzed....as she was a lil woman just 5 feet tall and 110lbs...
thank you....thank ALL of you for opening your hearts and including carol into this forum and for all your prayers and support.
this is the last pic of carol and the only one that she allowed me to take...it was on easter sunday and i put rabbit ears on her..
Mornin REOville! I woke up early this morning, so went to Mcdonalds for a biscuit and coffee. When I got back home, my garage door opener started to open the door, but it stopped about 12" up. Thank goodness I had all the house keys on the ring. After I got in, I tried it from inside the garage and I can hear the motor running but is isn't moving the door. I used the pull string to disengage the opener from the motor and got the car in and the door closed again, but how do you engage the opener to the motor again? I hate to call my ex for help, he's dealing with his brother's sickness and it seems like that is the only time I call him so if anyone could tell me how it would be appreciated.
Thank Goodness it isn't Monday!
Thank Goodness it isn't Monday!
Nice to see you on the forum Cappy. She was lovely, know that little by little, it will get better.
Thank you Ray for letting us be a little part of Carol's life and if there's anything I can do don't hesitate to ask
Good morning Reoville
Sent while Hyper Vapin a Trippy tipped REO
My garage door had a pull string also. It had chain link that would turn and open the door. When you pull the string it actually unlatches from the chain. You have to then manually connect it back. So, a ladder was needed to be able to reach the latch and connect it to the chain. Just be sure the motor is not running, and the chain is still.
So glad to see your post this morning Ray!
Missing a loved one is our way of knowing we are human. Love never dies it will remain with you and one day soon you will feel the warmth and comfort it brings.
Make some time for yourself. Heal, and gain back your strength.
We are all here for you. When you need to talk, need a friend, and want to share.
((((huggs)))))
((((Ray)))) You have been in my thoughts and I am happy to see you posting again. As usual my heart is full of things to say, but my fingers and mind won't find the right words.
Good moring, REOville!
cappy, it's so good to see you! The entire time I've been part of REOville, you've done such a beautiful job of capturing Carol's spirit and great humor for us. It just brought to mind Chaplin's famous quote. She, and your special relationship with her, will live on in so many hearts and memories. I thank you, one more time, for sharing this with us. I know that I speak for everyone when I say that we are all eager to support you through this time in whatever way we possible can. It's a wonderful surprise to see you this morning!
cappy, it's so good to see you! The entire time I've been part of REOville, you've done such a beautiful job of capturing Carol's spirit and great humor for us. It just brought to mind Chaplin's famous quote. She, and your special relationship with her, will live on in so many hearts and memories. I thank you, one more time, for sharing this with us. I know that I speak for everyone when I say that we are all eager to support you through this time in whatever way we possible can. It's a wonderful surprise to see you this morning!
Morning all, I am 35 pages behind after spending the days pretty much offline yesterday and sunday with the family. Just poppin in to say hello. Also wondering if anyone knows who owns the cocobolo woodvils that were made? I am hoping to maybe trade my woodvil 18490 for one.
Good to see you back around Ray, heavy heart and all.
Good to see you back around Ray, heavy heart and all.
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