The REO Lounge - Part III

[Della Cirque]

Spent most of yesterday reminiscing about the stories I've heard from these three very special men, and two more that I can't find pics of (my ex-husband and step-Grandfather)
From left to right- paternal Grandpa served in WWII and the Korean War, Dad served in Vietnam, Uncle served in places we don't know about


Just love them and wanted to share

 

[davelog]

Thank you for the update, Ray. She sounded like quite a woman. Thank you for letting us all take part in keeping her alive in our thoughts and hearts.

Holler if there's anything we can do for you!

 

[nerak]

Spent most of yesterday reminiscing about the the stories I've heard from these three very special men, and two more that I can't find pics of (my ex-husband and step-Grandfather)
From left to right- paternal Grandpa served in WWII and the Korean War, Dad served in Vietnam, Uncle served in places we don't know about


Just love them and wanted to share

When life is hard and we find ourselves a little down, it is good to be able to have memories to draw upon.

What we share today with family or friends becomes a part of their memories. Sometimes stirring up in them a memory of their past, and their loved ones.

It really is more than "words on a screen", our words reach out and touch, comfort, and sometimes brings out a little smile.

Thanks for sharing Jen!

 

[oldbroad]

((((Ray)))) You have been in my thoughts and I am happy to see you posting again. As usual my heart is full of things to say, but my fingers and mind won't find the right words.

Jen...I'm so glad you said that...it's how i feel so many times because I'm not sure how to express myself without maybe causing more pain
and making the situation worse.
I guess I'll leave it at:

(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) and healing wishes, Ray.

 

[mayday_]

Hey guys! Hope you all had a great weekend!

 

[Parmacrafter]

Good morning everyone!

Thought (Quote) for the day:

I have six locks on my door all in a row. When I go out, I lock every other one. I figure no matter how long somebody stands there picking the locks, they are always locking three. ~Elayne Boosler

 

[jj2]

cappy sooo sorry for your loss.

Carol is now in the care of God.

(((hugs))) for you.

 

[jj2]

And good morning everyone.

 

[vsummer1]

Good morning REOville!

RHP: I am lucky that DH tolerates my online "networking". He has actually accompanied me to meet several people from the e-cig community. And I play Mafia Wars on facebook, he has met a few from there as well. In fact, if not for one of the people I met who is also an RN, my niece would not have had some great advice on how a born and bred California girl could move to Minnesota. He gave her advice on things she would never have thought of. I am sorry to hear that your mother is unable or unwilling to try to understand how small the world has really become. We can make friends based on interests instead of geography now. May I offer one small bit of advice? I would give anything to just talk to my mother again. She died before I was an adult, so I didn't get to know her, she didn't get to see my kids or watch me graduate from college. Overlook the things she can't change about herself, carry on nodding and smiling when she does things that you don't like. You only get one.

CAPPY!!!! So great to see you posting again. And of course, I am very sorry for your loss. Such paltry words, but heartfelt. It's hard to lose family since they are such a part of us, a sister who we have had our entire lives is a tough one. I lost mine a year ago and quite frankly, it sucks. You are blessed that you were able to spend so much quality time with her, and that matters more than anything you can ever do. You are a wonderful human being, man and brother.

 

[Rhapsodies Fire]

Thanks for the song, Becky. I'm listening to it as I write this to you. And sorry folks, for turning this lounge into my 4am personal soapbox. I figured I'd get a pass since all the sane reonauts are asleep at this hour (with exception to our overseas brothers).

No, something else is bugging her. I don't think this has to do with it being a woman. But she won't let me in her world, so your guess is as good as mine. I don't know what her problem is, this time. That's why I'm chalking it up to history & karma.

I always find out about her problems AFTER the fact. Excuse is that she didn't want to worry me at the time. I say excuse because this woman has never apologized for anything. She remembers every single screw-up move I've made in life and uses it like a wildcard when she hurts me or was wrong about something.

Man, these are the triggers that make me vape like a steamtrain into a nic coma.

ETA: I find it sad that I need to call my grandmother who lives a world away, in order to get advice on how to communicate with my own mother who lives in the same freaking state!

RHP

I know this isn't helpful at all...but I ended up taking an 11 year break from my dad for the same reasons. Always critical, mean, hurtful...and once I had my baby, I decided I didn't want that kind of negativity around anymore. He was mad at me and I at him. Honestly, there are things I did miss about him, but I really needed the break so I could grow up and handle his character in a different way....it was too easy for him to get under my skin and for me to lash out and go for blood. I am sorry that I couldn't do it any other way, but in retrospect, I'm glad I made that move. I did grow up to a point where I didn't need his approval or praise. But, when the crazy stuff went down with my mom, I found that I needed him for something else. Family. I felt so lost and alone after my brother bailed on me...so the only person left who understood what I was dealing with to a degree was him. We've been in contact ever since...and I love our weekly chats. Catching up on lost time, I guess. I still don't look for or need his approval....I just need that connection. And he's really changed in that he doesn't find the need to tell me how to live...for the most part. I really enjoy our new dynamic...and wish he was closer. I'm sorry your relationship with her is rough....I know how it feels. Hopefully you two can find a new way to communicate and eventually enjoy a new dynamic of your own. Sending you oodles of patience, and just a little wrath for balance.

 

[Rhapsodies Fire]

Ray....it's so good to see you. And thank you for posting that great photo of Carol.

Good morning, everyone!

Today is a slow start to the week. Think I'm going to shower, work on some bills, then perhaps take a drive down to Burlington for a town all meeting about the silly bridge plans to fix the mess that is I-5. Why they don't take the same approach to replacing the damaged bridge parts like the double decker that came down in the 1989 earthquake in SF is beyond me. 6 months and two builds on the same stretch is just silly and not cost effective...and probably just a little more dangerous.

 

[Rhapsodies Fire]

Jen...I loved your post and it inspired me to share this image of Wayne. I don't have any photos of my dad when he was in the Navy or of my Brother when he was in the Army. Just this one of Wayne. He is such a bad azz.

 

[RedhatPat]

 

[FeistyAlice]

My question for the pro



So oh master what would be the best mod for me to buy. I'm very hard on things moneys A consideration but not to the point of bypassing durability and quality ?

Good Day Fine REO Folk.

Darrel, you know my stock answer........ Silver Anodized any size REO, except VV for harsh environments.

Find and give some Happy.

Feisty Alice

Sent from my SPH-L900 using Tapatalk 2

 

[sashwa]

Good morning everyone!

Hugs and healing thoughts, (((cappy)))! We are here for you.

On May 28th @ 8:08am, 41 years ago, I gave birth to a beautiful little girl. Where has time gone. I'm sure I'm not old enough to have a 41 year old child.

Here is a picture taken 14 years ago just before she said "I do":

 

[RedhatPat]

May I offer one small bit of advice? I would give anything to just talk to my mother again. She died before I was an adult, so I didn't get to know her, she didn't get to see my kids or watch me graduate from college. Overlook the things she can't change about herself, carry on nodding and smiling when she does things that you don't like. You only get one.

I'm sorry for your loss. So basically, find a common ground and build from that, ignore the small stuff. Got it, Val. You sound like another dear friend of mine, echo'ed the same thing to me in private. Oh yeah, and Lisa, what you said is useful. Atleast to me.

 

[RedhatPat]

Looks like she gets her good looks from you, sash. I believe this is the first time I saw ya, only took 8 months. The hotties are always the most shy.

 

[QusieQ]

hi EVERYONE!
first i need to thank lisa for letting all of you know that carol had passed...i miss my sister terribly, but she is at peace now...it makes me smile that this forum let all of you get to know a piece of her...i read her many posts that made her laugh..., and often asked about "THE CUTE GUY"(yes pietro)...carols sense of humour stayed with her until the last day...hours before she passed i asked her if she wanted something to drink and she said: "YES GIVE ME A VODKA AND TONIC".....carol was not really a drinker...one drink and she was totally buzzed....as she was a lil woman just 5 feet tall and 110lbs...
thank you....thank ALL of you for opening your hearts and including carol into this forum and for all your prayers and support.
this is the last pic of carol and the only one that she allowed me to take...it was on easter sunday and i put rabbit ears on her..View attachment 214498

(((ray)))

Mornin REOville! I woke up early this morning, so went to Mcdonalds for a biscuit and coffee. When I got back home, my garage door opener started to open the door, but it stopped about 12" up. Thank goodness I had all the house keys on the ring. After I got in, I tried it from inside the garage and I can hear the motor running but is isn't moving the door. I used the pull string to disengage the opener from the motor and got the car in and the door closed again, but how do you engage the opener to the motor again? I hate to call my ex for help, he's dealing with his brother's sickness and it seems like that is the only time I call him so if anyone could tell me how it would be appreciated.
Thank Goodness it isn't Monday!

I hope you get it fixed, when we release our latch and hit the garage door button it reloads itself. However one time a large spring broke and it was almost impossible to move door up/down by hand, we had to have someone come out and replace spring (dangerous if u don't know what ur doing) ck that spring, it is big you cant miss it. Most doors have two (I think) our two car garge door does.

 

[Delilah718]

Hello REOKinz

It's a beautiful rainy & cool day -- perfect for a sneak doggie girl grooming session!

Wishing all a beautiful day

{{{{{{Cappy}}}}} Thank you for sharing your relationship with your sis with us. My brothers live in other states far and away and many a time your posts warmed and uplifted my heart. Blessings to you

RHP - Your mom's reluctance to participate in your exchange with a forum member may be generational -- lots of older folks are not internet savvy and it's hard for them to understand the bonds we form on forums! Heck, even my hubby is surprised by the numerous incoming and outgoing mail packages with my forum buddies. Hang in there. Hang in there {{{{{{{{RHP}}}}}}}

 

[Delilah718]

Good morning everyone!

Hugs and healing thoughts, (((cappy)))! We are here for you.

On May 28th @ 8:08am, 41 years ago, I gave birth to a beautiful little girl. Where has time gone. I'm sure I'm not old enough to have a 41 year old child.

Here is a picture taken 14 years ago just before she said "I do":

Sashiekinz! You cutie patutie! I like this pic, it shows more of you than the top of your red head!