Unsupportive Spouse

[raspberryblu]

Unbelievably, my husband who smokes, said that my vaping stinks..... He is pretty much against vaping and said it looks "stupid". He complained that I was doing it too much and I have to agree with that but that was in the beginning and I started with a pretty low nicotine.

Fast forward to today and he flat out told me it stinks! WTH? He is still smoking and let me just tell you how unpleasant that smells for me now. I told him he's going to have to suck it up and deal or inhaling ANY substance is going outside.

Anyone else experience something like this?

 

[iacchus]

Some smokers are emotionally involved in their smoking. My ex-wife is like this. She has an irrational hate for vaping. It is like some folks feel that vaping threatens smoking like a creepy clown with a bloody knife at the circus threatening innocent children (or something like that)

 

[JaxMike]

My wife is semi-allergic to vape, and the smell bothers her if I overdo it around her, but it hasn't been a big problem. I'm able to vape as much as I need to without exposing her to too much and we've just worked it out. (she's supportive in principle... just can't be around it too much)

So sorry to hear what you're going through. It's so cool to be able to replace smoking and then to have a roadblock like that thrown up. I don't have any advice, just wish you good luck working it out.

 

[raspberryblu]

Some smokers are emotionally involved in their smoking. My ex-wife is like this. She has an irrational hate for vaping. It is like some folks feel that vaping threatens smoking like a creepy clown with a bloody knife at the circus threatening innocent children (or something like that)

Ok this made me laugh... But I think you're on to something there. I almost feel like he feels guilty for not quitting himself so he is attacking vaping......

 

[raspberryblu]

Thanks JaxMike. I notice you're also in northeast fla.......

 

[retrox]

Have you considered finding a new husband?

I kid, I kid!

That must be very disheartening for you. Don't get discouraged. You're doing this for yourself, and if everyone has to end up outside for it to happen, then so be it.

Er... Why exactly is he against vaping?

 

[Susan W.]

raspberryblue - you're on the right track. Don't let anyone get you down. I don't think anyone that smokes can complain about the smell. Especially if he's smoking inside the house. Might want to change to some flavors that don't smell as much. I vape menthols or peppermints at work and keep my vapor production low. No one can tell I'm vaping.

 

[WhiteHighlights]

Wow. I wonder if it's because he thinks its "stupid" that he says it stinks. What are you vaping? Can you try something you know he'd like? For example, I have a flan juice that has my husband asking me to make it for him. ha ha. He's a non-smoker, not much into my vaping hobby, but is happy I'm not smoking.

BTW - it takes longer for the nicotine to get into your system when you vape than when you smoke a cigarette. This, along with getting the right nicotine level, is why you vape 'more' than you would smoke. I couldn't find my link to the study, maybe someone else can find it and post it for you. It may help you explain to him why you vape so much.

Good luck. Keep strong. This is for you.

 

[CalamityJess]

Ok this made me laugh... But I think you're on to something there. I almost feel like he feels guilty for not quitting himself so he is attacking vaping......

I think you're on to something here. My husband doesn't vocally support me, but I know he's on board as long as I'm not nagging him to quit and start vaping. I did make sure he has a couple setups, and a flavor he enjoys. And I have caught myself starting to push. I'm not saying that's what you're doing though! But I would guess he's first of all worried that you'll start bugging him to quit for one thing. Second, having someone to smoke with is an addiction in and of itself. I know even though mine won't admit it, it was rough for him that first week to adjust to me not smoking that cig before bed with him.

He's probably as attached to you sharing the habit as he is to the habit itself. And third, yeah jealousy that you've quit and he hasn't and may want to. Don't get discouraged, hang in there, and talk to him about it calmly...maybe not AS it is happening, but in a calmer moment.

 

[Niyona]

Some smokers are emotionally involved in their smoking. My ex-wife is like this. She has an irrational hate for vaping. It is like some folks feel that vaping threatens smoking like a creepy clown with a bloody knife at the circus threatening innocent children (or something like that)

*giggles* I think you've hit on something there.

 

[AmandaD]

Switch up your flavor - there are some (Belgian Cocoa comes to mind) that, while delicious, can give off a very funky smell.

That said, I doubt the complaint really has anything to do with the supposed odor. And studies (most notably the Drexel study) have shown there's NOTHING in the vape itself which is harmful to anyone (PG is used in hospital air conditioning systems).

As for 'looking stupid' .....*sigh*

Stay strong

 

[JaxMike]

Thanks JaxMike. I notice you're also in northeast fla.......

Yeah, Jacksonville. Actually, there is a juice I really like that I get from a local vape shop (Blackhat). It's a tobacco flavor, which I love, and many of my smoking friends have commented on how good it smells to them. Maybe your husband would find it more palatable.

It's called American Tobacco from Blackhat; you could go there in person if you're local, or they are online too: Mobster US e-liquid | Blackhat E-Cigarettes

Of course, like most of the forum, you probably want no part of tobacco flavored juice. I love it.

 

[KODIAK (TM)]

I told him he's going to have to suck it up and deal or inhaling ANY substance is going outside.

Tell him he's a dumbass. (I hear this so much I'm starting to sign checks and legal documents that way).

Anyone else experience something like this?

Mrs. Kodiak likes my Coffee flavored "fumes" as she calls it. She allows me to vape anywhere in the house. In return she gets to buy whatever she wants with the money I'm saving. (She did that anyway when I smoked so it was a good deal for me).

 

[RES4CUE]

I can understand that he may be voicing his opinion on the matter, but in all honesty he should be praising you. You've taken the step to better yourself. My wife is completely supportive with it and has even told me that she will do anything possible to help me quit smoking. im on week 2 so far and shes even helping buy everything. I wish you the best of luck and sorry to hear it.

 

[spartanstew]

Have you considered finding a new husband?

I would need to see her picture before I could agree with this advice.

 

[Racehorse]

Perhaps you should both "agree" to only smoke and vape outdoors.

That would even the playing field, and allow both of you to meet your own individual needs as well as the needs of one another.

Otherwise, sitting here performing psychoanalysis on him, or on your marriage, or on any of the things that tend to pop up in topics like this (and are not pretty) really won't solve anything.

He wants to smoke.
You want to vape.

Sit down and work out a way for that to happen.

 

[retrox]

It's really a shame that there are so many couples that can't do this together. Vaping was a great bonding experience for my girlfriend and I. I started vaping on February 9th, and on February 14, she got her first eGo kit. She asked me, "What's this?" I said, "Because I want us both to live a long and healthy life together." You would've thought I'd just given her a diamond tiara to see the look on her face.

I told her she didn't have to keep vaping if she decided she didn't like it, but I had no intentions of going back to cigarettes. We're both still vaping today, and we're both noticeably healthier for it! Perhaps you could try an approach like this with your husband?

 

[TylerJ]

what flavor are you vaping? some coffee vapes smell like @&#*@#@)! lots of the darker juices have strong vape maybe try a fruit juice and see what he thinks

 

[RES4CUE]

It's really a shame that there are so many couples that can't do this together. Vaping was a great bonding experience for my girlfriend and I. I started vaping on February 9th, and on February 14, she got her first eGo kit. She asked me, "What's this?" I said, "Because I want us both to live a long and healthy life together." You would've thought I'd just given her a diamond tiara to see the look on her face.

I told her she didn't have to keep vaping if she decided she didn't like it, but I had no intentions of going back to cigarettes. We're both still vaping today, and we're both noticeably healthier for it! Perhaps you could try an approach like this with your husband?

Awesome!

 

[jensy]

Ok this made me laugh... But I think you're on to something there. I almost feel like he feels guilty for not quitting himself so he is attacking vaping......

This exactly . Ignore him and revel in your strength.