Vaping irritating to husband

[Maurice Pudlo]

There is the problem.....he has a Mini Cooper, he needs a Porsche, his symptoms will go away!

Ruining a Porsche engine would be sad, far more manly though. I have at least some hope that it was a Cooper S, or better yet an old mini (the real tiny ones).

I can forgive owning an original mini. It takes balls to drive one of those things.

Maurice

 

[AndriaD]

You reminded me of a story...
Hubby and I rented a car. Hubby does smoke. Of course not in a rental. I was vaping sour apple and he said "that smells like smoke" (meaning a cigarette)
Really??
He is well aware of vaping and does so sometimes himself. He fully knows better but he is sooo paranoid about the deposit whenever we rent a car that his common sense about vaping went out the window.
I just told him that he was being stupid as I laughed and continued vaping. I think that the lingering smell from his smoke breaks during the road trip would be more of an issue than my vaping!
(Not to mention that the owner of the place we rent from smokes like a chimney so he is not going to smell anything anyways!!)

Heh! That reminds me that the only person who's really given me any grief about vaping-instead-of-smoking is my ex -- he's all "you're still addicted to nicotine" -- so he's moved those durn goalposts, it used to just be "I hate that stench!" But it just serves to remind me of why *I* got one of those husband upgrades! The 2nd model has his quirks, but overall he's a much better model than the first one -- we just celebrated our 27th anniversary, so I guess both of us must be doing *something* right -- my ex and I didn't even make it to our FIRST anniversary before separating and filing for divorce!

Andria

 

[Amraann]

LOL Andria.. I so would be telling that very Ex hubby where to go and how to get there!

I would not be talking to him at all. Congrats on the 27 years with upgrade hubby! (Going on 26 years here

 

[serenity21899]

My husband never smoked. Overall he has no issues with me vaping. He may occasionally not like the smell of a certain juice, but that's it. Since I started, all of his sinus and allergy issues have gone away. And he has since started vaping, too, zero nic.

I think it's more his issue, and not yours.

 

[jensy]

Next time you vape in front of him in the house ask him it bothers him. If he says yes then tell him you will call him in from outside when your done.

 

[Panorama911]

Ruining a Porsche engine would be sad, far more manly though. I have at least some hope that it was a Cooper S, or better yet an old mini (the real tiny ones).

I can forgive owning an original mini. It takes balls to drive one of those things.

Maurice

I like how you think

 

[AndriaD]

LOL Andria.. I so would be telling that very Ex hubby where to go and how to get there!

I would not be talking to him at all. Congrats on the 27 years with upgrade hubby! (Going on 26 years here

Well since he gave me that still-addicted nonsense on the phone, I sent him an email detailing exactly why I was peeved with him; he responded in his usual pedantic fashion, and there has been ZERO contact since. I had previously been glad to still be friends with my ex, but I can't say I miss anything about him. He gave me so much crap about my smoking, back when, I wanted to share the good news with him that I had finally, and quite improbably! quit the stupid things -- so then he moves the goalposts. It just illustrated all over again why he's my ex!

Andria

 

[Ridilen]

I like a good game of psychological warfare......and women are great at the game!......just sayin

Already have done the psychological test. Spent 10 minutes in the bathroom grunting and groaning. The next thing I hear is "Oh my God that stinks. Flush, spray, turn on the fan, something". At that point I knew she was an empty whiner. I put on a good audio show. All I was dong was cutting my nails. I am a little bit heavy and it's hard to get to my toes sometimes.

 

[issy]

Already have done the psychological test. Spent 10 minutes in the bathroom grunting and groaning. The next thing I hear is "Oh my God that stinks. Flush, spray, turn on the fan, something". At that point I knew she was an empty whiner. I put on a good audio show. All I was dong was cutting my nails. I am a little bit heavy and it's hard to get to my toes sometimes.

Hilarious. I don't understand why people have to be so petty about little things anyway...CHOOSING to act this way is completely beyond me. Hot air criticism is incredibly abusive and manipulative. Why make life harder on those you say that you love? Tell your SO to go watch a sunset or think about kittens. Or check herself into a psych ward because everything bothering her is inside her head. I took my dog and RAN from my ex husband when i'd finally had enough. The upgrade was well worth it. I would be insane by now chasing the moving goalposts.

 

[Panorama911]

Hilarious. I don't understand why people have to be so petty about little things anyway...CHOOSING to act this way is completely beyond me. Hot air criticism is incredibly abusive and manipulative. Why make life harder on those you say that you love? Tell your SO to go watch a sunset or think about kittens. Or check herself into a psych ward because everything bothering her is inside her head. I took my dog and RAN from my ex husband when i'd finally had enough. The upgrade was well worth it. I would be insane by now chasing the moving goalposts.

Usually this type of behavior is a far deeper issue. For many there are unseen underlying emotional issues that are carried out in various ways, nagging is one, I could go into a bakers dozen of others but I won't. I will however give an example....

A lady has issues with her SO, no longer loves him, wishes he would leave but she does not have the strength to leave herself for reasons of self guilt so she attempts to shuffle the blame off to him, accusing him of things that in reality he never has done, Constant nagging, bringing up heated issues to get a fight going, all in the hope that he gets so tired of the mental and verbal assaults, he will leave her. She wanted the relationship to cease so she makes him make the first move. Eventually he does leave and she gets her wish on "his dime"!

This is just a more extreme example, but the fact is, it was not that she was a nagging wife or nitpick, just used that as a tool to gain a desired result.

OK now you that have nagging better halves, this does not mean they are doing the same thing......some do just like to complain!

 

[issy]

Usually this type of behavior is a far deeper issue. For many there are unseen underlying emotional issues that are carried out in various ways, nagging is one, I could go into a bakers dozen of others but I won't. I will however give an example....

A lady has issues with her SO, no longer loves him, wishes he would leave but she does not have the strength to leave herself for reasons of self guilt so she attempts to shuffle the blame off to him, accusing him of things that in reality he never has done, Constant nagging, bringing up heated issues to get a fight going, all in the hope that he gets so tired of the mental and verbal assaults, he will leave her. She wanted the relationship to cease so she makes him make the first move. Eventually he does leave and she gets her wish on "his dime"!

This is just a more extreme example, but the fact is, it was not that she was a nagging wife or nitpick, just used that as a tool to gain a desired result.

OK now you that have nagging better halves, this does not mean they are doing the same thing......some do just like to complain!

Been here...seen it...yes. Nailed it. I like the point in your last line...and I would choose to be with NEITHER of the persons you described!

 

[Panorama911]

Been here...seen it...yes. Nailed it. I like the point in your last line...and I would choose to be with NEITHER of the persons you described!

Hehehe.....you need a hubby, I am available

 

[Firecrow]

Usually this type of behavior is a far deeper issue. For many there are unseen underlying emotional issues that are carried out in various ways, nagging is one, I could go into a bakers dozen of others but I won't

Panorama911 has as a point here. Many of you may disagree with what I have say here.

The reason he doesn't like it really doesn't matter. I know its hard to deal with but, I will say, we share living spaces with our spouses and children. Also, whether we like it or not, smoking or vaping, there is an output into the area around us. Whether its benign or not, those around us do have a right not to be exposed to what we do. I vape at home with the approval of my family, but if for a moment any of them expressed a distress about it, I would move it outside or into the garage or my den. Its as much their home as it is mine. And I love them all and want them to feel comfortable, safe and secure here.

My vaping comes second, my family comes first. I'm okay with that. YMMV.

 

[issy]

Panorama911 has as a point here. Many of you may disagree with what I have say here.

The reason he doesn't like it really doesn't matter. I know its hard to deal with but, I will say, we share living spaces with our spouses and children. Also, whether we like it or not, smoking or vaping, there is an output into the area around us. Whether its benign or not, those around us do have a right not to be exposed to what we do. I vape at home with the approval of my family, but if for a moment any of them expressed a distress about it, I would move it outside or into the garage or my den. Its as much their home as it is mine. And I love them all and want them to feel comfortable, safe and secure here.

My vaping comes second, my family comes first. I'm okay with that. YMMV.

I don't think it's about agreeing or disagreeing, because we all have to do what we need to to make the world go 'round. So I agree...lol. The way that the OP is describing their SO's reaction, however, is disturbing and hinting at bigger problems, which not everyone has to endure. The thread has turned a lot deeper than just vaping or not vaping around family. Psychological manipulation is not something to just shut up about and hide outside when someone is targeting every action you take. Kinda threadjacked but still relevant to the OP. Or maybe I'm just venting about my past....

Personally, when I'm around my SO (sorry panorama!! ) I hold my vape in so there's very little on the exhale. We live full-time in our RV - small space. It just makes sense. In the car - I get it. But he's not moving any goalposts around. So the world goes 'round.

 

[Panorama911]

Personally, when I'm around my SO (sorry panorama!! ) I hold my vape in so there's very little on the exhale. We live full-time in our RV - small space. It just makes sense. In the car - I get it. But he's not moving any goalposts around. So the world goes 'round.

...............

 

[ej1024]

He's allergic to VAPING...
Sent from my
LUMIA 1520

 

[Amraann]

I do not think that OP's hubby is being manipulative or stretches into the realm that some have suggested. We do not have nearly enough information to come to that conclusion.

I think that he is simply a bit of a drama queen and that somewhere in the back of his mind his brain retaned something negative he heard about vaping.
Not to mention there is the slight chance that he really is sensative to something in the vape. Some people here have reported such reactions.
Although unlikely it is possible.
He did not mind smoking in his apartment however far back when but then again he was probably more worried about being charming to the girl he was trying to get. Now that he is older and married maybe he is more vocal about things that bother him. Or being older heis more focussed on evey little noyance of his health?

 

[AndriaD]

I do not think that OP's hubby is being manipulative or stretches into the realm that some have suggested. We do not have nearly enough information to come to that conclusion.

I think that he is simply a bit of a drama queen and that somewhere in the back of his mind his brain retaned something negative he heard about vaping.
Not to mention there is the slight chance that he really is sensative to something in the vape. Some people here have reported such reactions.
Although unlikely it is possible.
He did not mind smoking in his apartment however far back when but then again he was probably more worried about being charming to the girl he was trying to get. Now that he is older and married maybe he is more vocal about things that bother him. Or being older heis more focussed on evey little noyance of his health?

Men are weird that way... the things they thought were "cute" (or so they said) when they're TRYING to get the girl become the things they find most annoying, after they've already got her. But I guess a lot of women are like this too; most women seem to regard men as "home improvement projects."

Andria

 

[coldgin96]

My Aunt complains when I vape around her, she's a retired school teacher... I just don't go around her anymore. My feeling is, when I was smoking, I had to put up with not doing it in public or having to go outside at families/friends and having to wait until we stopped if in a car with said family/friends and having to endure hearing, "Hurry up!" So, you know what? If you don't like me vaping around you, I'm going to do you a favor and stay away from you.

 

[Rickajho]

Change your husband.