And this is why I will never have a roommate again. One of my former vegan roommates got mad at me for cooking eggs in my pan that he used because he wouldn't buy his own. I'd rather live in my car than a shared living arrangement.
What would you do?
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I'd like to know if he's smoking in the apartment as well. I don't know if you could be held liable, most likely you could, if he is smoking in the apt. I agree with the posts about not letting anyone bully you. You have a long life ahead full of people like this roommate so get ready! Good luck to ya!!
Now, I REALLY want to talk with him as I too rarely drink water.
Seriously, don't play up the health angle on vaping and just have him realize it is way to get around landlord's (stupid) rule. If he switches over, great. If not, no big deal, but at least he'll be able to enjoy inhaling nicotine indoors, like you do.
I'd tell him to write his congressman, then I'd crack open a beer, top off my RSST, shut my door and watch a movie.
That is funny!
I would have hit him upside the head with the pan
Cute tuxedo in your avatar. Mine is a terror.
Vaping is not smoking. Would your room mate object if you wore a nicotine patch? Or chewed the gum? Should he then be allowed to smoke if you did that? I'm sorry but it sounds like sour grapes to me. I'm not trying to be flippant, and I do have sympathy for you.
He only has the rights that the landlord says he has. If he can't accept that, then yes, he's a child. Smoke leaves a sticky yellow, and then brown, and then black, residue on EVERYTHING, nevermind the horrible stench that lingers for YEARS, and speaking as a now-non-smoker, I understand the landlord's attitude perfectly. Cleaning that mess off EVERYTHING is a huge chore, and getting rid of the smell? Not happening.
The roommate needs to either grow up and accept that the landlord makes the rules, accept that vaping and smoking are NOT the same, they're VERY different, or he needs to find someplace else to live. Mainly I think he just needs to grow up. And quitting smoking wouldn't be a bad idea either.
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what would I do? I'd tell him to act like an adult. Those are the rules. Set by the OWNER of the home - he can like it or not. Vaping is not the same as smoking - if he can't accept that, (or is too dumb to understand it), too bad so sad - he is free to live elsewhere. He doesn't own the house so he has no 'rights' in the matter.
I don't get why you feel you have to "get him to be OK with" it - or with anything else for that matter. You are not responsible for his feelings. He can "be ok with it" or not - that's not the point; ok or not he just has to ABIDE by it, regardless of his 'feelings'.
I don't see what there is to "sit down and talk about" either. It is what it is. The house rules are what they are - he either follows them or he can't live there. Period. what's to talk about??
And if he refuses to pull his weight in dealing with his dog, or whatever other chores are his, or any other thing necessary to be a fair housemate - what would I do? I'd tell him to take a flicking hike. Even if i had to find another roommate on Craigslist to make up for that portion of the rent. Ain't nobody got time to be some immature idiot's mother.
and yeh - what runitskat said too. One of my former roommates got mad at me for "not refilling the water bottle", and "how ruuuddde! and lazy" I was for only leaving an inch of water in the bottom!" - Errrr, so she never noticed that SHE was the only one who ever used that water bottle?? 
Bleeerrggghhh!!! LOL
I don't get why you feel you have to "get him to be OK with" it - or with anything else for that matter. You are not responsible for his feelings. He can "be ok with it" or not - that's not the point; ok or not he just has to ABIDE by it, regardless of his 'feelings'.
I don't see what there is to "sit down and talk about" either. It is what it is. The house rules are what they are - he either follows them or he can't live there. Period. what's to talk about??
And if he refuses to pull his weight in dealing with his dog, or whatever other chores are his, or any other thing necessary to be a fair housemate - what would I do? I'd tell him to take a flicking hike. Even if i had to find another roommate on Craigslist to make up for that portion of the rent. Ain't nobody got time to be some immature idiot's mother.
and yeh - what runitskat said too.
One of my former roommates got mad at me for "not refilling the water bottle", and "how ruuuddde! and lazy" I was for only leaving an inch of water in the bottom!" - Errrr, so she never noticed that SHE was the only one who ever used that water bottle?? Bleeerrggghhh!!! LOL
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I generally only vape where I used to smoke but, in your case, I'd probably stealth vape in my room.
HA! there is no way I would restrict my freedom due to roommate's "issues".
If landlord says vaping in the house is OK, I'm vaping where I please. Smoker-roommate's butthurt is not my problem.
If landlord says vaping in the house is OK, I'm vaping where I please. Smoker-roommate's butthurt is not my problem.
I would quietly vape in my own room, then get rid of the roommate ASAP.
My mother's condo complex is smoke-free, and I vape there, but only in her condo. And she does not care if I do.
My mother's condo complex is smoke-free, and I vape there, but only in her condo. And she does not care if I do.
Didn't read all the replies. with that being said how long have you known your roommate? How long is left on your lease?
Thanks!!! That is MeepBoop.He is a manx and spoiled rotton. He totally rules our house. That was when he was just a baby, he weighs about 20 lbs now!
Tell your room mate to get over it or start vaping like you. If he can't handle it, then get a new room mate.
This is why I never had a room mate, especially if I had to depend on them for their cut of the rent. Even when I owned the house, I still refused to take on a room mate...too much baggage and bs to deal with.
It sounds as if you're being backed into a spot because he's throwing a childish temper tantrum...he was probably raised to believe that everyone is equal, and all team members get trophies just for attending. Tell him to suck it up, butter cup, and if he has anymore issues to take it up with the landlord. BTW...make sure vaping is allowed in the contract. It will cover your .... if there's anymore issues.
We have a tuxedo too; "Tuxie", but I usually call her "Fatli Catli" -- my husband seems to have the idea that feeding her "hooman food" shows his love.
She's just shy of 20 lbs her fat self. Hubby says "she's not fat! she's full grown!" to which I reply, if she grows anymore, she's going to resemble a black pumpkin! But everytime we're both in the kitchen? Here comes Tuxie, convinced it's time for food again. Andria
I am a landlord, and there is not any smoking allowed in any of my properties.
It's a no-brainer, as smoke causes damage that costs a lot of money to deal with.
But living in California, I can't even believe there is something to discuss here.
I grew up knowing that smoking in your house was a horrible thing to do.
Again, it's a freaking no-brainer.
But yeah, your roommate is a ..........
And if this doesn't make him start vaping, then he is an even bigger ..........
But do NOT tell him to take it to the landlord.
That is a great way to get vaping included in the lease agreement.
As a landlord myself, it is always nice to avoid hassles.
But as a vaper, I would never tolerate this ......... and his issues.
Again, maybe you should just hire me, and I'll get it taken care of.
I agree about the smoking indoors; I started taking it outdoors to spare my son's lungs, but even after he grew up and left home, I still kept it outdoors -- of MY OWN home -- because I began to like NOT living in something that reeked like an ashtray, and not having clothes that smelled that way all the time. Once that stench settles in, you could paint, change the carpet, etc, and the smell would still linger. I think you'd probably have to rip out all the sheetrock to get rid of it, and even that isn't a guarantee.
Andria
Hell, that's an invite to chuck thick clouds all over the place...LMAO
A year, but in that year he was allowed to smoke in the house. We got a new landlord, no smoking in the house, & so this started. And we just signed a new one. So another full year. He's being cool about it now. Said i might buy a cheapy mod just to place inside when the weather is crappy, & he can do what he wants. Vape it, or leave it. Not takin the bs anymore. He can accept it, or he can get out. I'm done dealing with the childish attitude, & him thinking everything in life has to be fair to him. I am 22 years old, going on 23 the 29th of this month. I don't have time to raise a 24 year old child. I hate being backed into a corner, & being told this is how things are going to work. No, i got permission, there's no rules against it in the lease, it says i can vape. So no. Thank you all for the advice, & backbone! Haven't had one of those in a long time. I'm someone who doesn't like confrontation. I hate it. But i'm sick of being walked on like a floor mat.
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