Waho, you're correct and the Equinox is off the table, as much as I liked the vehicle.  I might be able to get a third party hitch with a 2" receiver but the salesman said it comes with a class 1 and you can get an adapter.  However, from what I read, that reduces the tongue weight limit by half.  Not happening.
In addition, I could see me pushing the 3,500lb payload very easily.  I really haven't moved much wood the last couple years between the trees I've had around here and the pallet ends I buy, but if I get to the point I need to, I want top feel safe.  The Escape always was fine with whatever I put on it.  I'm just concerned about a 100k and the wear and tear I've already put on it.
I just found a Cherokee locally with the towing package on it already with 30.5k on it and one owner.  It's black, not my ideal color on a gravel road in the woods, but it might be the right deal.  It's the Limited edition so it has all the bells and whistles. There's also a red Latitude which is $3k less with 13k more miles on it so we'll see.