Yes I still Smoke Cigarettes and I am addicted to the smoking habit - support and chat thread.

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alisa1970

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Hello folks,

Wow...I started a bit of a squabble over in the "other forums"...started a thread there. It started to get a little nasty, then came back to friendly. If anyone wants to comment either there or here, feel free.


http://www.e-cigarette-forum.com/fo...sion/487794-vaping-vs-smoking-experiment.html

I'm scared to venture out to the other forums without my protective gear and my skin as thick as I can get it! There are people on this board who range from clueless to unfriendly to downright hateful and nasty. I'd rather pour out my soul here among friends and take the advice given by true friends.

To get to your point, I totally respect your decision to keep your financial life separate, and to not buy his cigarettes for him, whether or not you have enough money to do it. And it was awfully nice of you to share your WTA with him! Regular Joe's don't get it, that's like buying someone diamonds!

Good luck to both of you.
 

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Hello folks,

Wow...I started a bit of a squabble over in the "other forums"...started a thread there. It started to get a little nasty, then came back to friendly. If anyone wants to comment either there or here, feel free.


http://www.e-cigarette-forum.com/fo...sion/487794-vaping-vs-smoking-experiment.html


I think you did a nice thing giving him some vape gear and juice since he was too broke to smoke.

I learned early on in smoking what a wicked addiction I had, and so I have budgeted for it when necessary -- I ate cheaper meals, didn't eat out or go out for entertainment, I make my coffee at home, passed up buying a wanted gadget or clothing item, etc. Each of us makes our choice as to what is important to us. If one's issue is not financial hardship but a lack of budgeting -- then one learns really quick how to budget when they don't like the consequences of being broke. He is a grown man, and it's his responsibility to make his budget work, or live with the consequences. It's NOT your responsibility to rework your budget, or go without, because he doesn't like living on his income.
He should be feeling lucky that you have budgeted well enough so that you had some extra gear and juice you could let him use. If it gets him off of cigs --that is fantastic. If, on the other hand, all it does it hold him over until he can afford to smoke again -- well, he should be darn grateful that in the meantime he didn't have to live with the full consequence (the gawd-awful nic withdraw) that he could have been feeling.
 

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I'm scared to venture out to the other forums without my protective gear and my skin as thick as I can get it! There are people on this board who range from clueless to unfriendly to downright hateful and nasty. I'd rather pour out my soul here among friends and take the advice given by true friends.

To get to your point, I totally respect your decision to keep your financial life separate, and to not buy his cigarettes for him, whether or not you have enough money to do it.
And it was awfully nice of you to share your WTA with him! Regular Joe's don't get it, that's like buying someone diamonds!

Good luck to both of you.

Our Great-Grandmothers would probably all be rolling in their graves to hear us women voice this sentiment ... But I so totally agree! I'll never mix finances again!!! Thanks to my idiot decision to do so in the past I will now most likely have to work until the day I drop dead. And as bad as that sounds to me, I know it could be worse. And, I have also found -- I like being back in a position where no one can tell me how to spend my own dang money! :laugh:
 

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Our Great-Grandmothers would probably all be rolling in their graves to hear us women voice this sentiment ...

I'm not so sure about that. Our great-grandmothers, after all, fought for us women to have the right to vote. Our grandmothers and mothers taught us women to be strong and independent. And we are hopefully teaching our daughters and granddaughters those same values.

I come from a family of strong women. My grandmother was raised by a single mother (which is an incredible feat considering that this was done in the early 1900's). She in turn pretty well single-handedly raised my uncle, aunt and mother (my grandfather was a drunk). My mother worked full-time while she was raising me and my younger sibs, and taught us the value of hard work and being self-sufficient. I only hoped I successfully passed on those lessons to my son, who will pass it on to his children.
 

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I'm not so sure about that. Our great-grandmothers, after all, fought for us women to have the right to vote. Our grandmothers and mothers taught us women to be strong and independent. And we are hopefully teaching our daughters and granddaughters those same values.

I come from a family of strong women. My grandmother was raised by a single mother (which is an incredible feat considering that this was done in the early 1900's). She in turn pretty well single-handedly raised my uncle, aunt and mother (my grandfather was a drunk). My mother worked full-time while she was raising me and my younger sibs, and taught us the value of hard work and being self-sufficient. I only hoped I successfully passed on those lessons to my son, who will pass it on to his children.

I was actually inspired by a grandmother I never knew, who was a flapper in the Roaring '20's, and was self sufficient and unmarried well into her 30's. She was a professional nurse, and when she realized time was running out on having children she married my grandfather and had my mom and aunt. It was a good marriage, but my mom thinks if she hadn't wanted children so badly, she probably would never have married.

My dad always taught me not to be reliant on a man, showed me how to do basic electrical work and stuff on the car.
 

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Quick post as I run out the door to work. Jason is still in the hospital and they still aren't sure whats wrong with him. They are going to do another biopsy to see if they can figure it out. It's been a week since he first went to the ER. Today was the first day I didn't go visit him. So glad his parents are local now and can be there for him.
 

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Quick post as I run out the door to work. Jason is still in the hospital and they still aren't sure whats wrong with him. They are going to do another biopsy to see if they can figure it out. It's been a week since he first went to the ER. Today was the first day I didn't go visit him. So glad his parents are local now and can be there for him.

Prayers unceasing. I hope you"re being kind to yourself these days.

Have one in the tub and two asleep; the bad news is they are in my bed. Hmph. Then homework and finally blessed sleep for me. I have been fighting it all day but I'm done in. . .

Have a great night everyone!
 

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Rant..

Why is it that when you go to your doc appt 15 min early, you wait in the waiting room 5 min after your scheduled time. And after the vitals are done and the nurse leaves to let the doc know you're ready, he doesn't show up for 15 min. Finally when he comes in, he makes an (insincere) apology, asks his "how are you feeling?, blah, blah, etc" and it only takes 5min? So, total time waiting...35-40 for a 5-7 min visit :glare: and he said that if I need my 'scrips renewed, I can go online and request them. Almost afraid that'll take a week for it to be done. Plus side, I won't have to deal with him unless something changes for the worse or have to do my well-exam.

/rant
 

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What???? I hope it wasn't my thread that did that....:(

Well they say you aren't "legit" until you get some warnings under your belt. Just something that might make you feel better.

Aww...I'm not legit! Actually I censor myself a LOT on ECF. My everyday language tends to course, offensive, and somewhat sarcastic.

Plus I don't leave PIF often. That helps. Y'all don't report me :p

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