Lizzie asked about what's new with the tutoring. The oldest boy who's my newest pupil is stopping the lessons, but I owed him a birthday gift, and I decided, since he's so into movies, to take him to the movie of his choice. Yesterday, we saw Warcraft. Not a movie I would choose to see or recommend, but it wasn't too bad. I see Warcraft II, III, etc., in our future. It certainly left a lot of open-ended problems for an ongoing series. It was also sort of predictable, but the costumes or whatever were skillfully done.
Now I'll be back to tutoring 4 kids, but that's OK. I just had the oldest boy once a week. It disturbs me that he can't conjugate the verb to be, but I guess he gets by. What is it with schools not teaching grammar anymore? I think maybe they know it's boring and are afraid to turn kids off to English in general. Just a guess. But when you have kids who haven't been raised to speak grammatically from day 1, they need to know grammar. I found when studying French in school that I studied a lot of grammar, too. I could instinctively fill in the correct blanks or choose the correct item from a multiple choice question in English, so knowing the rules wasn't such a pressing need. Though these kids learn English by speaking it at school, it's still their 2nd language, so they need more grammar, IMHO. I think kids whose parents speak ungrammatically probably need it, too.
I had a serious showdown with the original boy, the one who has the attitude problem, and he's been a model student after that. I gave him a very strong, angry lecture about being sloppy and not having the proper attitude. Tears were flowing. But it worked. I hate having to be mean like that! Why do people force a person to be mean? Wouldn't it be nicer to respond to polite requests before ugliness has to set in? But lots of people seem to be like that. They take advantage of kindness and gentleness.
Recently, his little sister and I had a conversation. She was comparing what she had heard about Chinese schools to her school. She heard that Chinese teachers hit kids if they misbehave and if you didn't do your homework, you were excluded from lessons for the rest of the day. I guess it's like being sent to the principal's office. I asked her if she would be more inclined to work hard with punishment hanging over her head or if praise for good work would inspire her more. I've heard rewards for good work are a better tool than punishment for mistakes. She said the punishment method would make her work harder. I wonder if I'm taking the wrong approach focusing on praise.