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10/9
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10/9
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10/9 #1
Good morning everyone, well my mouth is still bothering me but I have calmed down, I'm just going in Monday, and talking to the owner/head dentist and hoping they will fix this. I mean I really understand having a hard time and the people that were working on me were super young and probably fairly new at doing this, I understand that they only learn by doing the work but with that being said there should Always be a senior dentist on hand to check and make sure nothing like this happens to anyone, because this is not OK, not acceptable at all.
Well I'm not really sure what to do about another situation from yesterday, I called the girls dad and asked if he could manage to make some time to come see them this weekend. He very rarely sees them, maybe 30 min-an hour every few months. I told him I had a dentist appointment so to wait until about noon to come. Well noon came and passed with no call, I tried calling and no answer, the girls act like they don't care but I know they do. I'm their mom so I can tell when something is wrong. Well David and I went to lay down a bit early because he was feeling bad and my mouth was hurting but around 8:30 I got a phone call saying he was on our exit, once again I really wanted to just say ughhh too bad you're way late and you can't come but... I let him come because I could tell Alexis was upset because he didn't show earlier. So I ran into her room told her he was on our exit and she started putting makeup on, I was like why you putting makeup on and she said so I can take pictures with my daddy since I barely see him. I could literally see the excitement in her eyes. Well he got here and I was still hurting so I went to lay back down and about 30 min go by and Alexis comes running in my room crying so I'm trying to figure out what is going on and she's telling me they got in an argument about her phone and he tried to snatch it from her hand and she grabbed it back and then he started fussing with her and took the one thing he's ever bought her, some Jordan tennis shoes and tells her he's never coming back because she's an ungrateful little brat, so I look out the window and he's still sitting in his car in front of the house. So I go out there to hear what he has to say about all this and he's crying with her shoes sitting on the passenger seat and he pretty much tells me the same thing and that she hurt his feelings and she's a mean little brat and so on so I'm just looking at him like are you serious, she is 13 years old, you are acting like a child arguing like this with her and you really hurt her feelings, well I go back inside and Alexis is in her room crying and she's very upset, her room is on the front of the house so she can see his car out the window and he's not leaving so she said she was scared he was going to try and come back in OR knock on her window. Well David was sick and sleeping this whole time but I told her to go sit in my bed next to him while I made her dad leave. So I went out again and told him he has to leave immediately, that he cannot just sit out there. So after he left she stayed in my bed crying a while and about an hour later when she felt more comfortable I went and tucked her into bed. I just can't believe all this. He isn't allowed to leave with the kids because I don't trust him but I really thought it would be OK to go lay down in the other room. I didn't think I needed to sit there and supervise the whole visit. But now I'm kicking myself in the .... for not being there through this whole thing. Alexis isn't awake yet but I know it's going to be a tough day for her. I'm really at a loss about what to do with this situation. I am just clueless. I guess I will figure it out as I go. Any suggestions are welcome lol.
Sorry for bothering y'all with all my issues this morning, I'm just really at a loss and can't believe he is being so immature. I don't know how to handle this one :/
Well now that I've bored y'all with my long post I guess I will get up and fix some breakfast and get my butter beans on for later. Have a great day everyone
Good morning everyone, well my mouth is still bothering me but I have calmed down, I'm just going in Monday, and talking to the owner/head dentist and hoping they will fix this. I mean I really understand having a hard time and the people that were working on me were super young and probably fairly new at doing this, I understand that they only learn by doing the work but with that being said there should Always be a senior dentist on hand to check and make sure nothing like this happens to anyone, because this is not OK, not acceptable at all.
Well I'm not really sure what to do about another situation from yesterday, I called the girls dad and asked if he could manage to make some time to come see them this weekend. He very rarely sees them, maybe 30 min-an hour every few months. I told him I had a dentist appointment so to wait until about noon to come. Well noon came and passed with no call, I tried calling and no answer, the girls act like they don't care but I know they do. I'm their mom so I can tell when something is wrong. Well David and I went to lay down a bit early because he was feeling bad and my mouth was hurting but around 8:30 I got a phone call saying he was on our exit, once again I really wanted to just say ughhh too bad you're way late and you can't come but... I let him come because I could tell Alexis was upset because he didn't show earlier. So I ran into her room told her he was on our exit and she started putting makeup on, I was like why you putting makeup on and she said so I can take pictures with my daddy since I barely see him. I could literally see the excitement in her eyes. Well he got here and I was still hurting so I went to lay back down and about 30 min go by and Alexis comes running in my room crying so I'm trying to figure out what is going on and she's telling me they got in an argument about her phone and he tried to snatch it from her hand and she grabbed it back and then he started fussing with her and took the one thing he's ever bought her, some Jordan tennis shoes and tells her he's never coming back because she's an ungrateful little brat, so I look out the window and he's still sitting in his car in front of the house. So I go out there to hear what he has to say about all this and he's crying with her shoes sitting on the passenger seat and he pretty much tells me the same thing and that she hurt his feelings and she's a mean little brat and so on so I'm just looking at him like are you serious, she is 13 years old, you are acting like a child arguing like this with her and you really hurt her feelings, well I go back inside and Alexis is in her room crying and she's very upset, her room is on the front of the house so she can see his car out the window and he's not leaving so she said she was scared he was going to try and come back in OR knock on her window. Well David was sick and sleeping this whole time but I told her to go sit in my bed next to him while I made her dad leave. So I went out again and told him he has to leave immediately, that he cannot just sit out there. So after he left she stayed in my bed crying a while and about an hour later when she felt more comfortable I went and tucked her into bed. I just can't believe all this. He isn't allowed to leave with the kids because I don't trust him but I really thought it would be OK to go lay down in the other room. I didn't think I needed to sit there and supervise the whole visit. But now I'm kicking myself in the .... for not being there through this whole thing. Alexis isn't awake yet but I know it's going to be a tough day for her. I'm really at a loss about what to do with this situation. I am just clueless. I guess I will figure it out as I go. Any suggestions are welcome lol.
Sorry for bothering y'all with all my issues this morning, I'm just really at a loss and can't believe he is being so immature. I don't know how to handle this one :/
Well now that I've bored y'all with my long post I guess I will get up and fix some breakfast and get my butter beans on for later. Have a great day everyone
10/9 #1
Morning Treefam..........I am up early...........again.......time to catch up.......
Sorry Manikay for the woes you have on your plate.........I am not sure I have any advice for you.........
Morning Treefam..........I am up early...........again.......time to catch up.......
Sorry Manikay for the woes you have on your plate.........I am not sure I have any advice for you.........
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10/9_#2
@philbh Thanks! Good to see you! Wondered where you've been.
@CountBoredom Soup and salad buffet sounds cool. I like soup especially when the weather gets cool.
@Mandikay I'm just so sorry to hear that. :-( I agree he sounds very immature. I don't have any suggestions, just thoughts and prayers for you and your girls.
I'm off to get coffee. I'll check in later. Hope everyone has a good morning.
@philbh Thanks! Good to see you! Wondered where you've been.
@CountBoredom Soup and salad buffet sounds cool. I like soup especially when the weather gets cool.
@Mandikay I'm just so sorry to hear that. :-( I agree he sounds very immature. I don't have any suggestions, just thoughts and prayers for you and your girls.
I'm off to get coffee. I'll check in later. Hope everyone has a good morning.
Right there, you did well, how could you know? I have to breath in deep and relax much, as my daughters have been taken away. Cook a good small breakfast, make it happy. Brush her hair? She wanted to be good looking for Daddy. Her daddy is sleeping beside you, in time she will call your new husband Dad. You have stability, and you went out and did what most would not. You are super strong, and never doubt that. Why have you been promoted, forget the company, in the eyes of many you are strong. Never, ever talk down to your daughter about their father, an agreement I and the ex made about a dead beat dad. She will learn in her time, your husband may be staying out of the way, to allow you, the true mother to deal with it, until he has permission. That takes a lot of time. Enjoy your morning, make it special, let your husband cook on the grill if possible.
Do you like movies, watch them, do you like football, watch it. Eat some, rest, you have a lot on your plate, your children are not dumb. They know of the flooding, they know you are doing your best. You allow him over to touch base with his kids, but he is being selfish. I remember getting a pair of shoes that cost less than ten dollars, it was grand to me. It is not the cost, but the sentiment. She was there with you in bed, she felt you hug her, she felt and smelled you. She feels safe with you. Never doubt that you are doing a great job. Remember to smile, when I went back to the dentist waiting for my dentures, no teeth, I still smiled. I would suck in my cheeks and look at the girls with wide eyes and a grin. They did not care, there was daddy being happy.
Be happy, you are with your children, you are with your husband. You both may be sick and dealing with stuff, but in the end, if your daughter lets you hold her, and wants you to be with her. Is that not good? Yes it is. Never boring, never too much, it is reality. My smile has nothing to do with my character, nor does yours. My ex's ex's, never did anything for our children, and neither is yours. Are they eating? Did they sleep? Is there food in the tummy? And that right there is the biggy, food in their tummy. Food shows you care more than any words, she was going to sleep in your arms and knows you love her. I am sorry for the flood and all that, but look in their eyes, who do they love? They love you Mandi........ they love you.
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10/9 #2
Thanks everyone
And @tiggerrts thank you so much, I needed that! You are so right, some just hearing it helps. I just needed to take a step back and breathe, and you really helped that. Thank you! Also in her midst of being upset last night she said thank goodness I have David.. At least I know he loves me. So I think you are right, she is really starting to see the truth herself. It just breaks my heart for her :'(
I'm about to go cook some bacon and eggs and get the butter beans on for later (butter beans are Alexis's favorite)
Thanks everyone
And @tiggerrts thank you so much, I needed that! You are so right, some just hearing it helps. I just needed to take a step back and breathe, and you really helped that. Thank you! Also in her midst of being upset last night she said thank goodness I have David.. At least I know he loves me. So I think you are right, she is really starting to see the truth herself. It just breaks my heart for her :'(
I'm about to go cook some bacon and eggs and get the butter beans on for later (butter beans are Alexis's favorite)
10/9 #1
Mornin tree fam...
Tiggs said it very well, Mandikay
Kids need stability..routine even ..of course they will chafe (against the bit) ...the authority ..the rules..that is kind of their job at 13 lol ...as much as they fight the rules and the restrictions, they still need them..and to know where the boundaries are...that they are testing ..
Sounds to me like your youngest is the most like your ex in temperament ...they are too much alike ..and they hurt each others feelings easily ....It's just too bad that your ex is still acting like a child who gets his feelers hurt ...than as her father...as an adult...And yes..that DOES mean you will need to closely supervise their visits...just as you would 2 kids who fight too much when they are together ....Unfortunate..but you have your youngest daughter's best interests at heart.
And yes..it is a good thing you are so much more on an even keel than your ex...providing stability and security ...and that David is the same ....
You're doing a good job, Mandi ..in the face of a difficult and trying situation ...This will mean alot to your daughter as she gets older...remember..as my older brother always says about my niece ...their little brain cell connections arent really quite intact until age 25 ...for some, it takes even longer ...so hang in there ...she will need you for much longer than she will admit...
Mornin tree fam...
Tiggs said it very well, Mandikay
Kids need stability..routine even ..of course they will chafe (against the bit) ...the authority ..the rules..that is kind of their job at 13
lol ...as much as they fight the rules and the restrictions, they still need them..and to know where the boundaries are...that they are testing ..Sounds to me like your youngest is the most like your ex in temperament
...they are too much alike ..and they hurt each others feelings easily ....It's just too bad that your ex is still acting like a child who gets his feelers hurt ...than as her father...as an adult...And yes..that DOES mean you will need to closely supervise their visits...just as you would 2 kids who fight too much when they are together ....Unfortunate..but you have your youngest daughter's best interests at heart.And yes..it is a good thing you are so much more on an even keel than your ex...providing stability and security ...and that David is the same ....
You're doing a good job, Mandi ..in the face of a difficult and trying situation ...This will mean alot to your daughter as she gets older...remember..as my older brother always says about my niece ...their little brain cell connections arent really quite intact until age 25 ...for some, it takes even longer ...so hang in there ...she will need you for much longer than she will admit...
10/9 #2
Watching the game with snacks in hand.................trying to take the whole day off & relax....
But I must say I have already worked a ton....I jammed up the paper shredder earlier this week.....so this is what I had to take out of the top side.....ooops..guess I will pay more attention to that so it doesn't happen again......
oh and I just so happen to have the classified page open....and the only job listed is for a smoke shop............(not going to happen!)........
Watching the game with snacks in hand.................trying to take the whole day off & relax....
But I must say I have already worked a ton....I jammed up the paper shredder earlier this week.....so this is what I had to take out of the top side.....ooops..guess I will pay more attention to that so it doesn't happen again......
oh and I just so happen to have the classified page open....and the only job listed is for a smoke shop............(not going to happen!)........
10/9 #3
@KatzWh1skers thank you. You are so right, that is exactly what it is they are alot alike. Alexis has ADHD, depression and severe anxiety and so does her dad. And he is very immature, he has spent alot of his life in prison and I have read several studies about people spending long periods of time in prison and that when they get out they are still at the maturity level as the age they were when they went in. And I have noticed that to be true in his case. I'm not taking up for him but I know he had a very rough life, was raised by drug addicted parents who really messed him up big time. I know that he didn't mean to upset her, when I walked up to his car her was in there crying just as much as she was. from what it seems is that she hurt his feelings first and then he hurt her feelings back, which is wrong from an adult standpoint but I honestly don't think he thinks like an adult. But if anything this has shown me the importance of being in the room during visits so that I can try and prevent this from happening again. As of right now she doesn't want to see him. But I'm hoping she will come around. But obviously I would never pressure her. As much as I don't care for him I feel like it is important for both of them to be in each others lives, and I try my hardest to put myself in their situation to understand what is going on.
Well my poor baby girl woke up with a swollen lip and eye, not sure what is causing it. I'm thinking its allergies so I gave her some antihistamine and she is napping now but I'm about to go check on her.
@KatzWh1skers thank you. You are so right, that is exactly what it is they are alot alike. Alexis has ADHD, depression and severe anxiety and so does her dad. And he is very immature, he has spent alot of his life in prison and I have read several studies about people spending long periods of time in prison and that when they get out they are still at the maturity level as the age they were when they went in. And I have noticed that to be true in his case. I'm not taking up for him but I know he had a very rough life, was raised by drug addicted parents who really messed him up big time. I know that he didn't mean to upset her, when I walked up to his car her was in there crying just as much as she was. from what it seems is that she hurt his feelings first and then he hurt her feelings back, which is wrong from an adult standpoint but I honestly don't think he thinks like an adult. But if anything this has shown me the importance of being in the room during visits so that I can try and prevent this from happening again. As of right now she doesn't want to see him. But I'm hoping she will come around. But obviously I would never pressure her. As much as I don't care for him I feel like it is important for both of them to be in each others lives, and I try my hardest to put myself in their situation to understand what is going on.
Well my poor baby girl woke up with a swollen lip and eye, not sure what is causing it. I'm thinking its allergies so I gave her some antihistamine and she is napping now but I'm about to go check on her.
10/9 #3
I am making another snack tray for the next game.........I guess I just can't get enough to eat today......
I am making another snack tray for the next game.........I guess I just can't get enough to eat today......
10/9_#3
@tiggerrts and @KatzWh1skers said it all. I just don't really understand people like that. I know another person going through kind of a similar thing with her little boy. If I got my hands on the father, it wouldn't end well for either of us.
Positive thoughts and energy sent @Mandikay
I'm off for a ride. I need coffee and scenery, Lol. It's a pretty decent day here so away I go. Probably won't be gone long knowing me though. But just want out for a bit.
Catch ya later and try and enjoy your afternoon.
@tiggerrts and @KatzWh1skers said it all. I just don't really understand people like that. I know another person going through kind of a similar thing with her little boy. If I got my hands on the father, it wouldn't end well for either of us.
Positive thoughts and energy sent @Mandikay
I'm off for a ride. I need coffee and scenery, Lol. It's a pretty decent day here so away I go. Probably won't be gone long knowing me though. But just want out for a bit.
Catch ya later and try and enjoy your afternoon.
Mandikay ....at her age (13 and the teen years ..) she will surely not like you "hanging around" during the visit..but if it were me, I would try to remain within earshot or in the next room...and let them both know it!
Like I said..treat them as you would 2 siblings/children who can't play nice for long.
No I am not a parent, but have been in the position of step-"parent" several times ...you have to stay a step ahead of them always...
Sorry , Tiggs ....
Like I said..treat them as you would 2 siblings/children who can't play nice for long.
No I am not a parent, but have been in the position of step-"parent" several times ...you have to stay a step ahead of them always...
Sorry , Tiggs ....
10/9 #4
Sorry Tiggs..........half time is over and I am still hungry...........now I have to make something to eat..........
Sorry Tiggs..........half time is over and I am still hungry...........now I have to make something to eat..........
10/9 #5
Yes Mac I bet you have some jetlag..........
time for some supper now.........and another game.......yay...
Yes Mac I bet you have some jetlag..........
time for some supper now.........and another game.......yay...
10/9 - 4: Guess I will just get a post in, losing that deflated me, hard to get in the mood after that.
And my team finds a new way to lose! 
Oh well, at least they keep me guessing how they will do it until the very end...
Oh well, at least they keep me guessing how they will do it until the very end...
10/9_#4
@tiggerrts Man, that sucks. :-(
@mac63 Good morning! Hope it's a good day!
Just got a little fresh air here. Making a pot of hot tea now. Maybe relaxing on the couch is in order In a bit.
Catch y'all in a bit.
@tiggerrts Man, that sucks. :-(
@mac63 Good morning! Hope it's a good day!
Just got a little fresh air here. Making a pot of hot tea now. Maybe relaxing on the couch is in order In a bit.
Catch y'all in a bit.
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