How about a vaping dating service?
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its not the size of you mod that counts- but the way it makes vapor!!!!!!!! -yea right!!!!!
Geeeez Silent...
Can't she even commit to meet for a cup of coffee? That would seem innocent enough dontcha think?
She don't know what she be missin.
Geeeez Silent...
Can't she even commit to meet for a cup of coffee? That would seem innocent enough dontcha think?
She don't know what she be missin.
No haven't been able to get that either. And she loves coffee. She's also 5 months out of what was a 5 year relationship. So I just figure she needs time. I got patience enough to wait. But i also keep other options open. Never know what might walk through the door.
That's what I'm trying to do. I've a thing for this woman since I first met her 2 years ago, but alas she was taken so I left it alone. Now I'm just waiting for her to decide if she wants to give me a shot or not. And I don't want her to think I'm desperate, which I'm not so I keep my eye's open.
The down side is, I know I want to try with her so everyone else I meet ends up being put on a back burner or compared to her which makes it damn hard to get anywhere....
Live today, brother. You may just meet a keeper. What if you only have six months to live? You just cannot wait for her. I am sure she is awesome, but she is not ready and may not be for a year.
You moving on with your life could be the push she needs to decide to go for it with you. The less interested you seem, the more attractive you will be to her. Sad to say it but it is true. Either way, you should go find a girl who is ready to go now.
Of course, who takes relationship advice from a lion???
I know and am attempting to just failing at it. Easier said than done. Than again if I only had 6 months to live I wouldn't bother trying to get together with anyone. I mean I've been single now 5 years, so kicking it in 6 months wouldn't push me to find anyone. More like stay away from people.
Well I didn't think I'd give advice on this subject on here but... I've never been soft on my approach to women. I think a timid approach is almost always going to fail. In my experience women seek strength and sometimes even over the top or border line rude approaches. My advise is always be prepared to crash and burn, but go in guns blazing.
Instead of asking her out to coffee, tell her you are going to take her out on a date and ask her where she wants to go. Better to find out than string yourself along.
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Hmmm. Anecdotal advice from a woman's perspective, but the gun-blazing bit isn't necessarily considered attractive unless she already has some type of feelings for the guy (even if those feelings are just physical, or even a "gut reaction" if they've only just met). If a woman doesn't have at least a *teeny* little interest, the "guns blazing" can a lot of times come off as just "cocky".
I met a guy out at a bar over 2 years ago. He was half-heartedly trying to start a conversation (neither of us were "talkers" per se) and ask me out. Now, it didn't work LOL, but we did end up having a great conversation that night. And again about a week later. And again the week after that. He ended up becoming a genuine "best friend", as I was to him. And if he had come into that encounter with "guns blazing"? I wouldn't have given him much more than a "No thank you" face and left it at that. Huge turn-off for me. And the kicker? About 8 months into our friendship we started joking around about dating each other. And, well, I've been dating my best friend ever since.
Still trying to get him to vape, tho. Not working so far. *sigh*Be a friend. Be polite. Give her time and space, and try not to let the idea of her consume all the space in your brain at the expense of giving other women a shot. If it's gonna work, it's gonna work.
Just my $0.02.
Hmmm. Anecdotal advice from a woman's perspective, but the gun-blazing bit isn't necessarily considered attractive unless she already has some type of feelings for the guy (even if those feelings are just physical, or even a "gut reaction" if they've only just met). If a woman doesn't have at least a *teeny* little interest, the "guns blazing" can a lot of times come off as just "cocky".
I met a guy out at a bar over 2 years ago. He was half-heartedly trying to start a conversation (neither of us were "talkers" per se) and ask me out. Now, it didn't work LOL, but we did end up having a great conversation that night. And again about a week later. And again the week after that. He ended up becoming a genuine "best friend", as I was to him. And if he had come into that encounter with "guns blazing"? I wouldn't have given him much more than a "No thank you" face and left it at that. Huge turn-off for me. And the kicker? About 8 months into our friendship we started joking around about dating each other. And, well, I've been dating my best friend ever since.
Be a friend. Be polite. Give her time and space, and try not to let the idea of her consume all the space in your brain at the expense of giving other women a shot. If it's gonna work, it's gonna work.
Just my $0.02.
That's what I've been doing. We talk regularly. Only time we've been out together is in a group setting. We work at the same place but different shifts. Sometimes some of us get together and go do things, such as celebrating someones birthday or just a night out. So it wasn't a date just a group of people that work together having a good time.
I can't do the "guns blazing" thing. It just doesn't work for me. Not who I am.
So do I...
Aside from vaping (she has no care for it) we have so much in common it's unreal. Time will tell. This doesn't mean I wouldn't join a vapers only date site. My door is always open till something concrete closes it.
Well I'm married for 8 years now, guess it worked out for me
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Depends on the girl, I know a couple that would dig that approach. For me? That would have me running in the other direction.
I think there is a middle ground between being timid and demanding (my take on "tell her you are going to take her on a date"). I think the best advice is to just be yourself. If your are shy, agreeable, or a take control kinda guy (or one of the many others) if you act a certain way to get a girl to go out with you, what happens after that? Do you keep trying to act that way? I don't want to go on a date, much less a bunch of dates, with a guy that isn't being himself. It's a waste of time.
Yep, the last thing you want to do is trap yourself into playing some character you are not. Play to your own strengths. That way, if you actually have a good date, you had a good date being yourself!
"Hey, I'm gonna go see *insert movie name here*, wanna go?" And then, regardless of her answer, you gotta go. You don't want to have to answer "So, how was the movie" with "I didn't go".
That's a great way to approach someone, and invite them to a movie you really want to see. I have close friends that can have a completely different take on a movie/tv show. A lot of times it is more interesting having the discussion about why you like or dislike it, then watching the movie/show. A difference in hobbies, interests etc is not a bad thing.
Anyways (showing my blonde with that...lol...) agreed, if you give the "I'm going to go see .......... you have to go see it. The I didn't go doesn't work unless there was a really good reason for not going, but them I am the type to ask a week after the I didn't go to find out how it was.
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