No more vaping around my son

[geofxc]

Honestly I'm somewhat disappointed in myself for taking so long to come to this decision. I'm no longer going to vape in the same room with my (almost) 3 year old son.

I guess I got caught up in the "its harmless" mentality, but I no longer want to flaunt my habit so openly in front of his impressionable little eyes. I am immensely proud of myself for quitting analogues, a decision made largely for his good. But I still have an addiction, and it is one of my most fervent prayers that it is a habit that I do not pass on to him.

After reading some of the studies posted around this forum, I am do not believe that second-hand vape is a serious concern. I do not think that vaping in the car or living room with him is detrimental to his health. But if he follows my example and and acquires a nicotine habit of his own, that will be a heavy burden on me-even if he is using e-cigs.

So I am trying to enter a new stage of stealth vaping in my own home. My plan is to leave my PV in the bedroom and make little "pit stops" throughout the day. I've upped the nic percent so one or two hits gives me a nice buzz. It's kind of ironic that I went from a cig break schedule to a vape anywhere schedule, back to a vape break schedule. But I guess thats the liberating beauty of e-cigs. You really can tailor your habit to your needs, instead of vice versa.

 

[Kopfstimmen]

That's commendable of you, feofxc. Thumbs up! Look at the bright side - at least you don't have to go outside.

 

[jj2]

Honestly I'm somewhat disappointed in myself for taking so long to come to this decision. I'm no longer going to vape in the same room with my (almost) 3 year old son.

I guess I got caught up in the "its harmless" mentality, but I no longer want to flaunt my habit so openly in front of his impressionable little eyes. I am immensely proud of myself for quitting analogues, a decision made largely for his good. But I still have an addiction, and it is one of my most fervent prayers that it is a habit that I do not pass on to him.

After reading some of the studies posted around this forum, I am do not believe that second-hand vape is a serious concern. I do not think that vaping in the car or living room with him is detrimental to his health. But if he follows my example and and acquires a nicotine habit of his own, that will be a heavy burden on me-even if he is using e-cigs.

So I am trying to enter a new stage of stealth vaping in my own home. My plan is to leave my PV in the bedroom and make little "pit stops" throughout the day. I've upped the nic percent so one or two hits gives me a nice buzz. It's kind of ironic that I went from a cig break schedule to a vape anywhere schedule, back to a vape break schedule. But I guess thats the liberating beauty of e-cigs. You really can tailor your habit to your needs, instead of vice versa.

I have never smoked or vaped around my GD.
I suppose I will when she is older but she only eight.

 

[Renolizzie]

It's clear that you love your kid That's nice.

 

[ShayBabe15]

I honestly totally agree with you. I made the decision to not vape around my baby(she will be eight months come tomorrow)when I first got my PV. I will continue not vaping around her. I take my breaks here and there, I'll go outside or into my bedroom, keep her insight unless she's with daddy or uncle.
I really give you props for that.

Honestly I'm somewhat disappointed in myself for taking so long to come to this decision. I'm no longer going to vape in the same room with my (almost) 3 year old son.

I guess I got caught up in the "its harmless" mentality, but I no longer want to flaunt my habit so openly in front of his impressionable little eyes. I am immensely proud of myself for quitting analogues, a decision made largely for his good. But I still have an addiction, and it is one of my most fervent prayers that it is a habit that I do not pass on to him.

After reading some of the studies posted around this forum, I am do not believe that second-hand vape is a serious concern. I do not think that vaping in the car or living room with him is detrimental to his health. But if he follows my example and and acquires a nicotine habit of his own, that will be a heavy burden on me-even if he is using e-cigs.

So I am trying to enter a new stage of stealth vaping in my own home. My plan is to leave my PV in the bedroom and make little "pit stops" throughout the day. I've upped the nic percent so one or two hits gives me a nice buzz. It's kind of ironic that I went from a cig break schedule to a vape anywhere schedule, back to a vape break schedule. But I guess thats the liberating beauty of e-cigs. You really can tailor your habit to your needs, instead of vice versa.

 

[skoot]

I just started vaping, and was doing so around my 9yo son but I'm going to stop for the same reasons. Good for you.

 

[geofxc]

It just gets me, especially when I see people smoking with their kids in the car. My parents never smoked, I made the decision to buy a pack and try it on my own. But when you raise your children around it, your practically give them no choice in the matter!

Switching to e-cigs was the first step of responsibility, and now trying to restrict the little guys exposure to even vaping is a larger step. Glad to see others agree with my approach.

 

[fm92872]

That's a good decision Geo. I try to keep my 27 month old daughter from seeing me vaping also. Although she catches me on occasion.

 

[ShayBabe15]

When I was younger, my mother smoked..but she would never let me watch or know when she was doing it. I grew up around it though. When I was around twelve I got pushed into it. So, again, I can relate.
Oh, it is a huge step. You're strong enough to take action for the well being of your love, that's very admirable.
Are you slowly getting/weening off nicotine?

It just gets me, especially when I see people smoking with their kids in the car. My parents never smoked, I made the decision to buy a pack and try it on my own. But when you raise your children around it, your practically give them no choice in the matter!

Switching to e-cigs was the first step of responsibility, and now trying to restrict the little guys exposure to even vaping is a larger step. Glad to see others agree with my approach.

 

[geofxc]

I've toyed around with that idea a few times. It seems that when I get below 12mg/ml I start to really crave analogues. Since I haven't been vaping constantly at home I'm vaping at 24mg (which is an INTENSE step up for me lol). How about you? Do you plan on weening off completely?

When I was younger, my mother smoked..but she would never let me watch or know when she was doing it. I grew up around it though. When I was around twelve I got pushed into it. So, again, I can relate.
Oh, it is a huge step. You're strong enough to take action for the well being of your love, that's very admirable.
Are you slowly getting/weening off nicotine?

 

[ShayBabe15]

You know, I really thought about it for awhile and I'm sure the time will come where I do..like I said, I started smoking at age twelve.. I quit When I got pregnant, I stopped but I made the mistake of having one which was my last. It destroyed me. About six months after, and a few months after I had my baby I had a huge nicotine withdrawal. I started vaping, started out with 36mg..finally I am down to 6-12mg. I like the feeling it gives me, has a few benefits to go along with it..but sooner or later I will give it all up. I've been off analogs for over a year. So, I'm making progress, slowly but surely.
Haha if I were to go up to 24mg..it would probably knock me on my a**, now! I totally understand where you're coming from. It's all a process. Is your girlfriend/wife(assuming you may have one?)okay with you vaping?

I've toyed around with that idea a few times. It seems that when I get below 12mg/ml I start to really crave analogues. Since I haven't been vaping constantly at home I'm vaping at 24mg (which is an INTENSE step up for me lol). How about you? Do you plan on weening off completely?

 

[Tiffany Smeggin Peak]

hmmm
i'm on the other side, i vape around my son, but have explained to him what it is.
I think that if you hide it they tend to think that you are doing something illegal...
then again i don't let him know that there are great flavors and spend all of my free time fiddling with my PV...
that might bring unwanted attention to vaping with a young mind that idolizes you.
On the extreme side,
do you drink booze around your kid? Swear? Eat unhealthy?
Yes i know these things are indifferent catagories, but just a though

 

[StormFinch]

It just gets me, especially when I see people smoking with their kids in the car. My parents never smoked, I made the decision to buy a pack and try it on my own. But when you raise your children around it, your practically give them no choice in the matter!

I can't necessarily agree with this and I'll show you why.

All four of my grandparents smoked like chimneys, they came from a time when it was the norm rather than the exception. I remember plenty of trips in cars with rolled up windows and a thick, blue haze inside. Out of their 5 combined children only one son picked up the smoking habit, and he was the black sheep of the family. Put together the 5 grandchildren, of which I am one, and I was the only dedicated smoker. My brother picked up the habit for about 5 years while working as a lead guitarist for a local band but then quit. I didn't start smoking because of my grandparents, in fact after spending years in those smoke filled cars I hated smoke as a child and pre-teen. I picked up the habit because I hung with the "hoods", the black sheep. Out of all my friends who smoked, very few of their parents did. There were a couple, but those particular parents tended to be the hard living variety, the ones that were probably considered black sheep in their own day.

I don't doubt that there are plenty of people that started smoking because their parents did it. I do however believe that there are several different external factors that end up in play, and one of the biggest is the person or persons with the most influence at the single point in time that a child decides whether or not they're going to smoke. I also believe that hiding anything from a child is like putting wrapped Christmas gifts in your closet while they're not looking. Somehow they figure it out, and when they do they're going to start poking at it while your not looking. For example, polls have shown that almost every single child of gun owners who hide their guns from their children know exactly where both the guns and ammo are hidden and exactly what tricks it takes to access them.

I'm certainly not saying that anyone is wrong in the way they are going about it, but I do think the key to smoke proofing a child is to be open about the addiction as soon as that child is old enough to understand. I explained to mine from pretty early on the concept of addiction in an age appropriate way, and continued those conversations into their mid to late teens. They're now in their early twenties/late teens and whether it be from what I said, sheer luck, or the Grace of God, I've got two wonderful young men that have never touched a cigarette, let alone any other possible addiction... well, besides video games that is.

 

[ShayBabe15]

Sorry, I had to .... in..I totally get your point, but with little, little ones..I see no need to expose them. Once they start asking questions, honesty is key. Although, as for the sub-categories..parenting is a different experience. I personally don't drink, nor do I swear around any child. As for eating..almost everything besides a strict diet of fruit, veggies and meat is unhealthy. It's a matter of proportion. As well as I see it with vaping. Vaping is personal, but to each their own. Everyone is different.

hmmm
i'm on the other side, i vape around my son, but have explained to him what it is.
I think that if you hide it they tend to think that you are doing something illegal...
then again i don't let him know that there are great flavors and spend all of my free time fiddling with my PV...
that might bring unwanted attention to vaping with a young mind that idolizes you.
On the extreme side,
do you drink booze around your kid? Swear? Eat unhealthy?
Yes i know these things are indifferent catagories, but just a though

 

[geofxc]

My Fiance and I were both smokers before she became pregnant, and we both tried to quit. She was successful and I was not. It was creating a lot of tension for me to smoke, and it was causing her craving to get worse. Switching to e-cigs didn't seem to bother her at all, and we both feel like its best for our little family.

You started on 36mg? Good lord I could never go that high. The first bottle I ordered with my first started kit was 18, and that packed so much punch that I went straight to 12 and threw that bottle out! (Should have kept it... It could have been mixed and salvaged into something else lol)

You know, I really thought about it for awhile and I'm sure the time will come where I do..like I said, I started smoking at age twelve.. I quit When I got pregnant, I stopped but I made the mistake of having one which was my last. It destroyed me. About six months after, and a few months after I had my baby I had a huge nicotine withdrawal. I started vaping, started out with 36mg..finally I am down to 6-12mg. I like the feeling it gives me, has a few benefits to go along with it..but sooner or later I will give it all up. I've been off analogs for over a year. So, I'm making progress, slowly but surely.
Haha if I were to go up to 24mg..it would probably knock me on my a**, now! I totally understand where you're coming from. It's all a process. Is your girlfriend/wife(assuming you may have one?)okay with you vaping?

 

[ShayBabe15]

That's good! I know of a lot of couples where one doesn't approve.but I'm very glad that it is working out for the best! Haha yeah, I was a heavy smoker, I don't know how my little body ever tolerated it.
Lol, I've done that before. Trial and error!

My Fiance and I were both smokers before she became pregnant, and we both tried to quit. She was successful and I was not. It was creating a lot of tension for me to smoke, and it was causing her craving to get worse. Switching to e-cigs didn't seem to bother her at all, and we both feel like its best for our little family.

You started on 36mg? Good lord I could never go that high. The first bottle I ordered with my first started kit was 18, and that packed so much punch that I went straight to 12 and threw that bottle out! (Should have kept it... It could have been mixed and salvaged into something else lol)

 

[Lessifer]

I'm very new to this, just started last week, and I haven't had an analog since Sunday. I'm still in the habit of going outside, so I vape outside. Part of it is that it's part of my ritual, I go outside and play on my phone for about 10 minutes and vape(like I did with smoking) the other part is that I have a 2yo daughter and while I believe that the vapor is fairly harmless I don't want her emulating me. If I'm still vaping when she's old enough to ask questions I'll talk to her about it, try to explain why I do it, and that it IS an addiction. Right now though, she copies everything I do and I don't want her "vaping" her toys. Just my opinion, to each their own.

 

[ImThatGuy]

Kind of off-topic...

ShayBabe15 is very attractive and I would read and follow whatever she says (sue me...I'm attracted to beautiful things)...

On that note...I don't vape around anyone who's not old enough to smoke or mature enough to be easily influenced by "cool" things.

 

[Faylool]

Generally the less children are exposed to something, if they aren't the rebellious type, they go along in the parents footpath. I believe in rebellion though. Something about it strikes me as a child wanting to make his own choices. My job then is to set it up so he learns to accept responsibility for those choices. This way he won't be in as much of a position to be victimized, know nobody is perfect nor has to be and making mistakes is a part of learning not a path to failure. So, in my world I would do it because vaping is for the greater good and addictions are a fact of life. Remember threat your child will not be perfect, will make mistakes and act out in the style of his temperament. Choosing when to vape would be more about teaching good manners than how to have a crutch. But if your child finds himself needing a crutch vaping would be a good one. The less of a big deal you make the better and trust is huge. Children sense things. If a parent sneaks around this puts a hole in trust. Of course this doesn't mean to have sex in front of him but loving displays of passion and kissing are a good thing because that's how they came to be. Created from love. And vaping is the message there are safe alternatives to destructive urges. Like sports instead of promiscuity or drugs. Etc... My kids are grown. Without going in to details, they are good, good enough, and happy.

 

[geofxc]

Good point Tiffany. I am a light drinker, I buy a couple six packs a month. I don't mind drinking around the little man, because I feel like alcohol can be enjoyed in moderation. I understand that alcohol has its addictive properties, buts its easier to enjoy in moderation than nicotine. Prior to all of the wonderful flavors of vaping, I used nicotine more for relief from cravings than enjoyment.

And I don't even want to think about all the foul words my son has overheard... I suppose no parent is perfect though right?

hmmm
i'm on the other side, i vape around my son, but have explained to him what it is.
I think that if you hide it they tend to think that you are doing something illegal...
then again i don't let him know that there are great flavors and spend all of my free time fiddling with my PV...
that might bring unwanted attention to vaping with a young mind that idolizes you.
On the extreme side,
do you drink booze around your kid? Swear? Eat unhealthy?
Yes i know these things are indifferent catagories, but just a though