Non vapers don't understand!
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Congrats to you on making the switch! Family dissaproval can the most difficult to deal with, lot's of us have had to try to help family understand, my dad after acknowledging all the positive things about vaping said, well, why don't you quit that now? My brother who agrees that my health improvement from walking away from a 2.5 pack a day habit, heard someone ask me about vaping, and his reply, don't get him started on that...I've learned to just be cool with my vaping around folks that don't or never smokers. It's just easier than trying to explain or defend it. My situation is different than most as my family is for away so any time spent with them is precious.
My mom was the same way. It angered me to no end. Maybe it's age (She's 70) or just stubbornness. So during her last visit to my house, I snuck out after we argued and clipped the brake lines on her Harley. She fired up the engine (mom still kick starts, she only weighs about 90 pounds so its funny to watching her hop on with both feet) roared off after telling me I was killing myself with my vaping. Later at the hospital after the accident when she woke up in the body cast, I said "See, I told you motorcycles were dangerous, but that probably won't stop you from riding again. Vaping is the same way for me. I hope you learned your lesson."
Living in a busy city i recognize this. A year ago i got into an argument. It was the Amsterdam sail event, thousands of boats, a real treat to the eye.. And i vaped a bit, trying not to bother my clouds too much for the bystanders. (At the same time i'm struggling in my head and wondering why i'm trying so hard not to bother other people, because i smell cigarette smoke everywhere. aah well, I must be a nice guy..
) But it's a windy country where i'm living. I inhaled, i blew and this gush of wind took my cloud away, straight into a guy's face about 3 to 4 meters away from me.. he dodged it very nicely and i laughed a bit (it was funny, so sue me ) but i did apologize in the friendly giggly matter, i really didn't intend to do that.. but that guy and his wife was screaming and shouting, they just pushed my buttons. So i said to them: "You (bleeeep) you are sitting here in the fumes of all the diesel from the boats... and you complain about this?? Wake up man.." Those were the only people i disrespected on purpose and literately blew them away with my clouds.
Kind of a jerk move from my side, but i didn't like them. If they just responded differently, i would have moved myself out of the way.
Respect must come from at least 2 sides.
It can be Very Frustrating. But don't be too hard on your Mom.
She, like Most of the General Public, has been Bombarded with Half Truths, Misinformation, and in some cases Outright Lies about e-Cigarettes and e-Liquids.
I'm sure She just wants what She thinks is Best for You. And it is based on the Terrible Information that She has been given by the Media, CDC, FDA, etc.
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There's a lot of folks out there that don't understand
They think
Smoking and VAPING are the same thing
You will never understand if you never smoke before...
VAPE ON[emoji36]
They think
Smoking and VAPING are the same thing
You will never understand if you never smoke before...
VAPE ON[emoji36]
Congrats on quitting smoking 
So sorry to hear about your Mom's reaction
You are the one that has to look at yourself in the mirror every day and I hope when you do you see someone you are very proud of for what you've accomplished by switching to vaping
My husband still hates my vaping after almost 6 years
BUT, he learned long ago to keep his thoughts to himself !
So sorry to hear about your Mom's reaction You are the one that has to look at yourself in the mirror every day and I hope when you do you see someone you are very proud of for what you've accomplished by switching to vaping
My husband still hates my vaping after almost 6 years
BUT, he learned long ago to keep his thoughts to himself ! 
First off, keep up the good work, it gets easier! Secondly, it's your moms, she loves you and only wants you to be safe, right??!!
My mom did something very similar, now she keeps asking if I have stopped vaping yet, and that she still hasn't told my father!
I'm 52! Pretty sure my pop won't "ground" me or take the car keys! Love my mom like crazy and I'm sure she feels the same, just funny how our parents react to things!
My mom did something very similar, now she keeps asking if I have stopped vaping yet, and that she still hasn't told my father!
I'm 52! Pretty sure my pop won't "ground" me or take the car keys! Love my mom like crazy and I'm sure she feels the same, just funny how our parents react to things!
dont worry about it... dont look for acceptance from those who dont understand... they never will understand and have no idea what you have accomplished... be proud for yourself and keep working forward to achieve your goal.... and remember, its okay to slip a little backwards ( having the occasional ciggie) its a matter of reducing to a point of quitting that matters... dont judge your accomplishments from others successes but judge your successes from your own accomplishments...
Nobody has ever walked up to me while I was vaping and said hey, congratulations! You quit smoking! Once in a while I see another vaper. Usually we exchange wordless smug grins and pass by. The people I care about are the ones who are still smoking. Sounds like you're going to make it. That's the important thing. If parents aren't cranky and difficult you would never have left home, right?
It may sound callous for me to write and ask. Why do you need strangers approving your choices? Are you an adult? Can you think for yourself? If so, why do you think or feel others have any right of authority over defining you, your life, your choices?
What authority does any one human, or any group of humans have over any other human or group of humans, genuinely? The only authority any have is what is consented by others. If you don't consent to it, it holds no bearing on you. Frankly, I'm weary of having to rationalize, defend freedom of choice to others, for others. It used to be fairly well understood. Not sure what altered that. Whatever it was needs trounced and letting us returning to it being understood.
I'm so sorry, I know exactly how you feel. People STILL refer to it as SMOKING and I wanna just punch em! Actually I want to light a cigarette, blow it in their face and say, "now THAT is smoking!" Irritates me to no end. It was hard to walk away from cigarettes and it's not like cigarettes. Without vaping I'd be on death's row!
I took a trip recently to the Virgin Islands and I had to go where the smokers were standing to vape! I'm like, "are you freaking kidding me??" It's considered smoking in the Virgin Islands. If I hadn't just hit my 600 day mark I may have lit up a real cig!
Well Earthtograce, I am very proud of you! Everyday you have victory over lighting a cigarette is a VICTORY. You know you feel better, smell better and walk with more of a spring in your step than you had because you also have more energy. When I hit my first 7 days, a whole week, I was so excited. Had a lot of support from family, but friends however, say I'm trading one bad habit for another. So I said, "may wanna check what the future holds for all that botox in your face little missy!"
We're all proud of you here, I know how hard it is and I'm over here giving you a standing ovation. Stay strong and focused on these massive accomplishments you've made. YOU ARE A SMOKE FREE CIGARETTE FREE VICTOR! Remember that.
Hi MorelyMagicMist,
I could care less what strangers think now, but in the beginning, I needed all the support and rah rahs I could get. My family and friends encouragement was a huge help and I needed it. Then I had a family member that encouraged me to keep on keeping on, reminding me of all the benefits of not smoking cigarettes. I'm not sure what I would have done had it not been for her. I needed to hear as many positives as I could in the beginning, I needed endless support and encouragement from my family, those who loved me the most.
It's been over 600 days and I'm good on my own now, can be around smokers and not want to eat the cigarette they are smoking. But it took a while to get here. The journey is different for everyone.
My mom gives me grief everytime I see her. Except she throws religion into it... Drives me absolutely insane. "Our bodies are temples... You aren't meant to inhale smoke... Alcohol is the devil...." Blah de blah freaking blah... 
I hear you & congrats on getting away from cigarettes. I agree it is a different path for all of us.
Find respect is kin to love. The more you give it away, the more you get in return.
My mom gives me grief everytime I see her. Except she throws religion into it... Drives me absolutely insane. "Our bodies are temples... You aren't meant to inhale smoke... Alcohol is the devil...." Blah de blah freaking blah...
Tell her you're running off to join a convent of atheists headed by some charismatic Morely. Explain he says "yakkity yack, don't talk back!" & "Yep! It's me again Margret! Are ye neeeekid? I gots the weed whacker, live chicken & Cool Whip!"
Sorry, I had to. Got to laugh or go sane and sane is well, just too bland.
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