I started working at age 9 years old washing cars and pumping gas. Been at it ever since. Worst boss I ever had was a guy named Butch. That dude had no mercy. 80 hour weeks were not uncommon and there were many hot summers when I left the house one morning. Got home the next morning, ate a meal took a shower got dressed and went back to work. Happened more than once. Then my wife got cancer and with no insurance we lost everything. Had to start over at age 55. But ended with a not great retirment but not starving either.
To YOU
NOW - Remember to Blow Out The Candles . . .
ALL OF THEM . . .
Well - Really There Is Only 1 Important "Candle" Left . . .
SO I DID . . .
Just Sayin' . . .
NOW - Remember to Blow Out The Candles . . .
ALL OF THEM . . .
Well - Really There Is Only 1 Important "Candle" Left . . .
SO I DID . . .
Just Sayin' . . .
To YOU
NOW - Remember to Blow Out The Candles . . .
ALL OF THEM . . .
Well - Really There Is Only 1 Important "Candle" Left . . .
SO I DID . . .
Just Sayin' . . .
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Thanks y'all!
I was going to keep my mouth shut, but I just can't any longer.
Let me first say that I'm not "sticking up" for Vaper1960. I don't know what really takes place at his house, what his Mom will or won't let him do for her, nor the type or extent of his mother's dementia and how those things affect their interractions.
However, I'm certain that no one knows what it's truly like...living with, loving, and honestly trying to help, an elderly parent who has dementia or Alzheimer's...until they've been there, done that. IF the parent is still physically mobile and able to do things for themselves...it's common for them to resent it and/or even get very angry...if anyone else does those things for them, or at times even offers to! It's seen by the parent as trying to take away some of what little control they still have left over their lives. Having their finances taken care of for them and driving them everywhere...are 2 of the most difficult for them to deal with. It's also often the person who's closest to them physically and emotionally, who's helping them the most, or trying to...who catches the brunt of their frustrations, anger, accusations, outbursts, etc. Like I said earlier...no one knows until they've been there, done that.
IMO, sometimes people "open up" here about things that maybe they shouldn't...because it's usually a given that it'll result in a variety of responses, whether they're wanted ones or not. Also, sometimes it's just TMI. I can think of a past member right away, about that. But, if there are no close friends, family, or other people...the poster feels comfortable telling about it............ It seems to be sort of a catch-22.
Let me first say that I'm not "sticking up" for Vaper1960. I don't know what really takes place at his house, what his Mom will or won't let him do for her, nor the type or extent of his mother's dementia and how those things affect their interractions.
However, I'm certain that no one knows what it's truly like...living with, loving, and honestly trying to help, an elderly parent who has dementia or Alzheimer's...until they've been there, done that. IF the parent is still physically mobile and able to do things for themselves...it's common for them to resent it and/or even get very angry...if anyone else does those things for them, or at times even offers to! It's seen by the parent as trying to take away some of what little control they still have left over their lives. Having their finances taken care of for them and driving them everywhere...are 2 of the most difficult for them to deal with. It's also often the person who's closest to them physically and emotionally, who's helping them the most, or trying to...who catches the brunt of their frustrations, anger, accusations, outbursts, etc. Like I said earlier...no one knows until they've been there, done that.
IMO, sometimes people "open up" here about things that maybe they shouldn't...because it's usually a given that it'll result in a variety of responses, whether they're wanted ones or not. Also, sometimes it's just TMI. I can think of a past member right away, about that. But, if there are no close friends, family, or other people...the poster feels comfortable telling about it............
It seems to be sort of a catch-22.
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Now I feel guilty because I was going to say more or less exactly the same thing about dementia and stayed quiet....I completely agree....it's one of the most difficult illnesses to deal with especially in the early onset stages.I was going to keep my mouth shut, but I just can't any longer.
Let me first say that I'm not "sticking up" for Vaper1960. I don't know what really takes place at his house, what he can or can't do for his Mom, nor the type or extent of his mother's dementia and how those things affect their interractions.
However, I'm certain that no one knows what it's truly like living with, caring for, and trying to help, an elderly parent who has dementia or Alzheimer's...until they've been there, done that. IF the parent is still physically mobile and able to do things for themselves...it's common for them to resent it and/or even get very angry...if anyone else does those things for them, or at times even offers to! It's seen by the parent as trying to take away some of what little control they still have left over their lives. Having their finances taken care of for them and driving them everywhere...are 2 of the most difficult for them to deal with. It's also often the person who's helping them the most, or trying to...who catches the brunt of their frustrations, anger, accusations, outbursts, etc. Like I said earlier...no one knows until they've been there, done that.
IMO, sometimes people "open up" here about things that maybe they shouldn't...because it's usually a given that it'll result in a variety of responses, whether they're wanted ones or not. But, if there are no close friends, family, or other people the poster feels comfortable telling about it............
I completely agree
P.S. That's all I'm saying!!
Good very late evening or morning when you're up...
I got my large bottle (120mls) of Fran's ice cream base mixed and another 3 30ml new try outs.
Speaking of white chocolate... I've been vaping the white chocolate cheesecake by I think @dennism or was it @JCinFLA since last night in the new very French Z80 and it's really good. I'm tempted to try remixing it using FA NYC but not sure whether that'll mute the WC. I'd have to drop the FA percentage for sure....any thoughts?
Have a good day and if you're still up late go and get some rest
I got my large bottle (120mls) of Fran's ice cream base mixed and another 3 30ml new try outs.
Speaking of white chocolate... I've been vaping the white chocolate cheesecake by I think @dennism or was it @JCinFLA since last night in the new very French Z80 and it's really good. I'm tempted to try remixing it using FA NYC but not sure whether that'll mute the WC. I'd have to drop the FA percentage for sure....any thoughts?
Have a good day and if you're still up late go and get some rest
Some of us have, and when they leave the gas on the stove on multiple times and run red lights while driving it's time to do more. Get her license taken away and hide the keys. Get home care - something!
We went through this with my Dad - took his keys and driver's license away and wound up putting him in a assisted living place when it was obvious he couldn't take care of himself.
Letting it go is what's cruel. She will kill someone in the car or blow up the house and then he'll wish he'd done something more then he is now.
I can go away if you want, hard to believe there's those who justify this.
What? You can go away if I want??
If by "those who justify this"...you meant me...I said from the get-go, that I wasn't "sticking up" for Vaper1960. But, I'm also not a fly on the wall at his Mom's house.
Forget it, I'm out.
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@Territoo , early Happy Birthday!!! (In case our paths don’t cross.) Have a great trip to visit your daughter!
I’m heading back north to see Mom tomorrow morning. Last visit, her range (a lovely avocado green, roughly the same age as me
Drive safe and fingers crossed!
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