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[taukimada]

hmmn makes me wonder why you are divorced.....
didnt want to got here or be involved in this fiasco but gotta do it. dont worry "thats all I have to say about that" (Forrest Gump)

nice one... atack me personally for trying to encourage them to move on.. you sure are a big help... she divorced me for the same reason she divorced her previous two husbands.. because she cant seem to learn the ability to keep her legs closed.. kudos to you for figuring out that that was somehow a character flaw of mine

Sad nuff said I said to focus on the nagatives they had with their ex not on the negatives in their lifes. why all the anger? can we all just get along?

there is NOTHING good that can come of focusing on negatives...

the better advice is forget them altogether if ALL you can focuson is negative.. then later on.. try to remember that you werent an idiot.. as you DIDhave some fun/good times.. and that was why you stuck around as long as you did

 

[nephilim]

Taukimada
Just looked at some of your previous posts, Guess what you love to fight in the forums, wonder what you are like in person, maybe thats what made her open her legs so widely IDk seek help my friend! dont let anger get the best of you. it will bring you down in the end... I posted advice that has worked for me personally.Who are you to judge what works and what doesnt. this will be my last post on this thread and wish Moby and Nico the best. as for Dr. ruth aka Taukimada good luck and hope you find a good shrink

Cya

 

[Nuck]

Taukimada
Just looked at some of your previous posts, Guess what you love to fight in the forums, wonder what you are like in person, maybe thats what made her open her legs so widely IDk seek help my friend! dont let anger get the best of you. it will bring you down in the end... I posted advice that has worked for me personally.Who are you to judge what works and what doesnt. this will be my last post on this thread and wish Moby and Nico the best. as for Dr. ruth aka Taukimada good luck and hope you find a good shrink

Cya

Well done. A fine passive aggressive post followed by a quick exit. You sir, are the epitome of online courage!

 

[taukimada]

Taukimada
Just looked at some of your previous posts, Guess what you love to fight in the forums, wonder what you are like in person, maybe thats what made her open her legs so widely IDk seek help my friend! dont let anger get the best of you. it will bring you down in the end... I posted advice that has worked for me personally.Who are you to judge what works and what doesnt. this will be my last post on this thread and wish Moby and Nico the best. as for Dr. ruth aka Taukimada good luck and hope you find a good shrink

Cya

actually i like to stand up for people... read closer...

im sorry you have to resort to personal attacks to make yourself feel better... good luck with the hit and run mentality too while yer at it...
are you just too ignorant to have the ability to defend your personal attacks?.. oh.. i get it.. unlike mooby and i am nico.. im somehow not deserving of the sympathy because i found my own way through my pains.. you must be a very sad person in real life

and btw.. in posting advice to focus on the negatives you could possibly be doing REAL harm... again i restate.. NICO committed a criminal ASSAULT.. and your telling both of them to embrace thier anger.. great advice.. if you want somebody dead..

and im going to reitterate a sentiment to you that i made to another earlier... DO NOT allow your anger and hate issues infer upon MY statements... you resorted to personally attacking me.. stating that my ex-wife spread her legs for THREE ex husbands simply because I'M an ... in YOUR opinion... YOU are the one who sounds angry

 

[shivadance]

Well, you know what they say, opinions are like a$$holes - everyone has one. And here's mine.

With one exception, no one here that I can see is advocating violence. If there was an altercation and charges are pressed I'm sure Nico will face consequences. But they are his to face and not mine to judge. Heck, we don't have anything but a post saying he beat someone up, and how many ppl exaggerate about this crap? I hope he didn't do it, but if he did then like I said, there will be consequences.

Everyone faces their demons in their own time and in their own way. What may help you - may or may not help another. What is best for you - may or may not be best for another.

While we all may give advice and opinions, since this is an open forum, we should be respectful that it is just our advice, and our opinions. If Nico wants to wallow and Mooby wants to mope, it's their d@mn frickin' right to do so. No one can tell another person how to feel. But that's just how I feel. And don't try to tell me otherwise.

 

[shivadance]

Nico & Mooby - stay sane and keep vaping. You both have difficult journeys ahead.

“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”
Bob Moawad

 

[tangmonk]

Love is a scary addiction with horrible withdrawls!! The withdrawls do go away in time. I've been "clean" (single) for 14 years because of crap like this!

Hang in there!

 

[TheIllustratedMan]

Tu es Nico...

When you're ready, come on back to the chat and we'll pick on you to your heart's content.
As for the situation at hand, sounds like she needs to talk to someone on a professional level. Honestly, I think that you need to decide how much you care for her and whether you want to help her work out her problems, or if you need to walk away and just hope that she gets the help she needs. Cheating is a complicated subject, it's not always how it appears on the surface.
Anyway, if you want to talk about it further, you know where to find me...

-Nate

 

[I am Nico]

wow...this thread went too far... i mean..who here hasn't gotten into a physical altercation.. that guy was a ****.. clearly he thought he was untouchable.. as far as me committing an criminal assault i sure did....AND? and we all have our different ways of dealing with ****.. i mean you use the term "man up" so loosely... of course im still feeling like **** that i got cheated on after 2 years of being a loyal loving boyfriend...well either way thanks for your input everybody.. i am currently doing allright.. just had some brunch with my parents.. talked over some things and yeah.. well i hope every1 has a great weekend ahead of them...
Thanks,
Danny aka nico

 

[dmohn28]

Just ride it out Nico. It will all get easier with time, and the time involved is different for everyone. Took me 2 years to finally quit being and emotional wreck after my wife of 10 years left me for and ex boyfirend. At the time, I was devastated.

Seven years later, I am remarried and doing better than I ever though possible. My ex on the other hand is still with the guy she left me for. She now has 3 kids by him, and he won't work to support them. The only reason I still talk to the woman is because we have a child together. Other than that, I am rather indifferent to her. I wish her no harm, and I hope that she does well, only because she is my daughters mother, but other than that, I don't care.

Time has a way of putting things in perspective. Just hang in there, you never know what is in store for you in the future. Sometimes you have to get rid of some of the extra baggage to make room for the good stuff.

 

[sherid]

Yes, to Mooby, Jim and Nico, we all know pain but MAN UP... You kicked his sas... did HE cheat on you?

Your agression is misplaced... I'm not saying to kick her sas but god man.. are you 12?

Well, it was a long time, but memories like this stay forever. It is not the guy who cheated; it was the girl. In my distant past, it was my husband who cheated, but my anger was directed at the girl. I hated her. I wished her dead. I would have killed her if I had it in me, but I did not. I wasted years hating the girl and forgiving the man. Cut your losses. Trust in someone new....and there WILL be someone new, just not when you are so freshly hurt. It will show. Cry it out, and start rebuilding. Smile when you don't feel like it. Exercise. Do anything to release the anger that will also benefit you. Smoke all the cigs you like without guilting. Then, there will come a day when you allow it to come when you will feel better. Go for it. I just had this conversation with my daughter who is 20 and a junior in college far from here. Her boyfriend of 2 years wants space. I said she should give it to him and give him LOTS of space. I told her to run to work out her anger and frustration then go out with her girlfriends and see what's there, just like I'm telling you. Looking back at how I handled my own cheating SOB, I now see how much better I would have been had I taken this advice. As for the woman, she died in a train crash. I felt genuinely sorry that she died a horrible death and that I felt guilty for having wished her dead.

 

[rocketvapor]

All other discussion aside, how are you two (Mooby and Nico) getting along today?

 

[Moobyghost]

Call me a wuss, but even after 3 months, everyday is a struggle just to get out of bed.

 

[derick]

you need to put the past behind you and move forward..your reviews are good. you seem smart you will find someone when you least suspect it. good luck and keep the reviews coming, there entertaining

 

[I am Nico]

Me and mooby are hella cool friends! ., haha., funny as hell when we're both talking about obama though., conversation turns into an all out war. lol

 

[treble]

i will only continue to be supportive to the one of you who supports obama....republicans scare me

 

[I am Nico]

meh., both republicans and democrats can lick my ....., independents are the way to go., the draw right in the middle.., republicans are too republican.. and democrats are too democratic., independents are right smack dab in the middle. lol

 

[treble]

i agree wholeheartedly----in a perfect world......i'm technically independent... but i also realize, no matter what, when it comes to voting day, either a democrat or a republican is going to win.......no matter how we feel about ralph nader, or ron paul, or the green party or whatever other independent party has a nominee in the election, the plain fact is that either a democrat or republican is going to win....i highly highly highly (did i mention highly?) doubt that in any of our lifetimes anyone from an independent party has a realistic shot at a major election .... no matter how we and/or our friends personally feel, no matter how strongly, is going to change the fact that the overwhelming majority of the population is going to vote democrat or republican.... so, that being said, as we say here in new orleans---- GEAUXBAMA!!!

 

[shivadance]

Call me a wuss, but even after 3 months, everyday is a struggle just to get out of bed.

Then consider every day you do get out of bed and do something, anything, a victory.

 

[Superstargoddess]

Was just alerted to this thread today, I hope that everyone is doing alright. Keep your head up Nico, I will PM you.