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Evie Luv

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Jerry, you don't need to be protected. It is a man's role to protect. Unless you have been prone to fall for women who don't deserve the attentions of a good man.

This is true except a truly good man would never fight with a woman. That is just good old fashioned gentleman manners. And why he has me. ;)
 

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I was married, but it was so bad that even the Catholic Church agreed with me (fifteen years ago) that it was a mockery of a marriage. And after that, I was afraid to try again.

Bummer! :( A bad engagement cured me of ever getting married. Just like babysitting when I was a teenager tossed out any ideas of having kids.
 

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Don't give up, ladies, somewhere out there is the perfect guy for you.
I doubt it at this stage of my life, but thanks for the thought. :2cool:

The other night I was sitting with a hospice patient. I thought he might want to watch tv. I turned it on, but he was more interested in looking at me. I commented to the nurse about that, and she thought it was funny. :oops:
 
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I doubt it at this stage of my life, but thanks for the thought. :2cool:
OMG, age is irrelevant. My dad became a widower, when he was 64. He had girlfriends after my mother passed away and he even had the opportunity to marry at least one of them. He chose not to get married, not because of age, but because he loved and still does love, my late mother.
 

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I've been married 25 years and if anything happened to my hubby. I don't think I would marry again. I've had just too many years of doing as others wanted. I'd be ready to be my own boss and to live my life how I wanted it lived. It would take someone pretty special for me to ever marry again. Someone that valued my opinions and took my wants and desires into account when "we" made decisions.

To me the worst feeling in the world is when you spend hours cooking a great meal, then you get to sit and eat with the family, then while everyone leaves without a word of thanks to go enjoy time together or a movie, your left in the kitchen cleaning off the table and washing dishes while you listen to others laughing and enjoying their evening. You just feel used and alone. :cry:
 

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I've been married 25 years and if anything happened to my hubby. I don't think I would marry again. I've had just too many years of doing as others wanted. I'd be ready to be my own boss and to live my life how I wanted it lived. It would take someone pretty special for me to ever marry again. Someone that valued my opinions and took my wants and desires into account when "we" made decisions.

To me the worst feeling in the world is when you spend hours cooking a great meal, then you get to sit and eat with the family, then while everyone leaves without a word of thanks to go enjoy time together or a movie, your left in the kitchen cleaning off the table and washing dishes while you listen to others laughing and enjoying their evening. You just feel used and alone. :cry:

I hope your aren't talking about your life. That would just be too sad. :(
 

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I've been married 25 years and if anything happened to my hubby. I don't think I would marry again. I've had just too many years of doing as others wanted. I'd be ready to be my own boss and to live my life how I wanted it lived. It would take someone pretty special for me to ever marry again. Someone that valued my opinions and took my wants and desires into account when "we" made decisions.

To me the worst feeling in the world is when you spend hours cooking a great meal, then you get to sit and eat with the family, then while everyone leaves without a word of thanks to go enjoy time together or a movie, your left in the kitchen cleaning off the table and washing dishes while you listen to others laughing and enjoying their evening. You just feel used and alone. :cry:

Sure sorry to hear that Evie. That's not the way it's supposed to work.
 
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On my mothers' parents had an ideal marriage. After my grandmother died, my grandfather remarried to a woman who looked like her. That was the only resemblance. He was very unhappy.

My mother spent thirty years single after my father died. Many times she mentioned that she regretted never doing anything about my father's chronic depression. I went through some very troubled years with her constantly telling me to just get it together. After Dad died, I finally got on antidepressants, and things got a lot better. In our case, the problem on my father's side of the family is more cultural than genetic. If someone had known about the cultural issues, counseling would have done wonders. I am now down to venlafaxine 37.5 and nortriptylin 25 mg after years of working on my own to understand the cultural issues. I know, TMI. Jerry, Sandy, and Lizzie know about it.

So, Evie, I understand your struggle.
 

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I've been married 25 years and if anything happened to my hubby. I don't think I would marry again. I've had just too many years of doing as others wanted. I'd be ready to be my own boss and to live my life how I wanted it lived. It would take someone pretty special for me to ever marry again. Someone that valued my opinions and took my wants and desires into account when "we" made decisions.

To me the worst feeling in the world is when you spend hours cooking a great meal, then you get to sit and eat with the family, then while everyone leaves without a word of thanks to go enjoy time together or a movie, your left in the kitchen cleaning off the table and washing dishes while you listen to others laughing and enjoying their evening. You just feel used and alone. :cry:

Does your family know you feel this way? Maybe they'd be willing to help clean up after dinner if they did. Getting them to help and make things more fair might relieve your stress. I realize that 25 years of doing things a certain way will make it hard for them to change, but change is possible. I think you should talk to them all about it.
 
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