Chit Chat in VOLTVILLE Thread #2 :)

[Renolizzie]

Good morning, Voltmaniacs.

Evie, keep your chin up. Remember that it is easy to feel depressed or down when you are fighting a physical problem like you have been. That is a temporary situation and your mood will improve!

Just curious, have you tried just leaving the dishes and going to watch a movie? The dishes will still be there when you are done with the movie

Some days I think I wouldn't get married again but most days it is nice to have someone to share my life with. Still, if something happened to Hubby, I probably wouldn't get married again. However, lets hope nothing does happen to Hubby since I would be lost without him

It took me fifteen years after I was divorced to find my Hubby. He has a good heart. He works hard. He takes care of stuff. Even though some aspects of living with someone else are difficult, I enjoy being part of a team.

Wow, did I sleep late. I better drink this coffee and get moving. I have the system set up but I had to wait for the 1/2 inch tubing to arrive. It finally got here about 8:30 last night so now I can get the rest of the system done.

 

[3mg Meniere]

Does your family know you feel this way? Maybe they'd be willing to help clean up after dinner if they did. Getting them to help and make things more fair might relieve your stress. I realize that 25 years of doing things a certain way will make it hard for them to change, but change is possible. I think you should talk to them all about it.

LOL. Your problem is relatively easy to resolve in that way. I couldn't do that for my problem. Better to get away from the transgressors!!

I am getting my code reader today. Eager to visit my mechanic for a lesson on how to use it and what codes are critical.

 

[Renolizzie]

LOL. Your problem is relatively easy to resolve in that way. I couldn't do that for my problem. Better to get away from the transgressors!!

I am getting my code reader today. Eager to visit my mechanic for a lesson on how to use it and what codes are critical.

That is how I felt about my first husband. A scary guy!

 

[awsum140]

0, to use the code reader, with the ignition "off" plug it into the data port under the dash on the left side, generally near where an emergency brake release might be located. Turn the ignition "on" but don't start the car. Press the "Enter" button on the code reader. It'll take a minute or so to find the right protocol to communicate with your car. Once it's done reading simply scroll through the options and press "Enter" or "Scroll" as appropriate to read the codes. You will need a guide to interpret the codes.

 

[3mg Meniere]

0, to use the code reader, with the ignition "off" plug it into the data port under the dash on the left side, generally near where an emergency brake release might be located.... You will need a guide to interpret the codes.

I will have to play around with it before I go to see him. Thanks for the beginning lesson. He gets irritated with me when I act like an automotive idiot.

 

[Renolizzie]

I will have to play around with it before I go to see him. Thanks for the beginning lesson. He gets irritated with me when I act like an automotive idiot.

The code reader seems like a great tool.

 

[Evie Luv]

Good morning Voltpeeps, thanks for all your posts but that is just the way life is where I live.

 

[3mg Meniere]

Good morning Voltpeeps, thanks for all your posts but that is just the way life is where I live.

Cultural issues can be changed and you don't have to move to change it. Depends on pressures outside the family.

I just read http://www.amazon.com/Shadows-Sun-Healing-Depression-Finding/dp/1616494751 It is worthwhile-- but I didn't have to pay ten$ for it.

 

[rave]

I have a 4 quart one that you use rock salt and ice but I was wondering if the smaller ones that you just freeze the bowl are any good at making ice cream.

Mine is one of the smaller ones that does not use rock salt or ice. You just freeze the bowl in advance. It's an oldie but goodie that I picked up at a garage sale.

Uh oh! We aren't going to look for houses without you.

OH, Heck No!! I've just gotta go with ya.

I have started the "Montgomery Scott" (Scotty on Star Trek) rule for estimating time to complete a project. Guess how long it will take, then seriously analyze how long it will take, add 100% to that then multiply by three. That way if I'm done sooner I feel better!

That sounds about right. When I was a Computer Systems Engineer, when we were asked when a project would be done, the standard answer was always "two weeks".

The three things to consider in any project:
Cost, Quality and Time: Pick any two.
You can NEVER get all three.

Way too true!

Well, I consider today very productive. After looking at multiple instructions for changing the vehicle speed sensor I found that it could be in two places, in the left front wheel knuckle or at the back of the transfer case. Each one was priced differently and the transfer case one seemed rather expensive, so I decided to find out which one I needed.

I crawled underneath and, sure enough, there it was on the back of the transfer case just ahead of the rear drive shaft. Low and behold there was a broken wire about an inch away from the connector. A little wire, a little solder, a little tape and some choice words and I am back in business with a speedometer that works and no more error codes or "Check Engine" light.

Sounds like you're making good progress. I hope against hope that my issues can be solved. The BF has been doing some research and conferring with a mechanic friend. They have some excellent leads on where to start. I have hope for my poor, ailing Jeepers.

We had a member from Greece who was a tease like that. I know he still lurks once in a while, because he sent me a PM a few weeks ago. Maybe he is jealous. Men are such game-players.

And women aren't?

I've been married 25 years and if anything happened to my hubby. I don't think I would marry again. I've had just too many years of doing as others wanted. I'd be ready to be my own boss and to live my life how I wanted it lived. It would take someone pretty special for me to ever marry again. Someone that valued my opinions and took my wants and desires into account when "we" made decisions.

To me the worst feeling in the world is when you spend hours cooking a great meal, then you get to sit and eat with the family, then while everyone leaves without a word of thanks to go enjoy time together or a movie, your left in the kitchen cleaning off the table and washing dishes while you listen to others laughing and enjoying their evening. You just feel used and alone.

Oh Evie. That just sounds waaay too much like my Husband Number Two. I'm sorry, and I do understand just what you're talking about. Thankfully, Husband Number Three wasn't anything like that and we had 25 great years together.

My BF and I have been together well over a year now, and everyone keeps asking when we're going to get married. As you mentioned - I'm enjoying being my own person. For the first time in my life, I'm doing what I want to do and not having to live up to anyone's expectations other than my own. My BF and I have a great thing going on. We are there for each other but we have our personal space as well. He has his own property which he handles in his way and I have mine. I'll never leave this property. Only here can I have the privacy, peace, and quiet that I truly need to flourish. And when I need companionship, I have that as well. We both enjoy the arrangement. Why on earth would we want to wreck that?

 

[3mg Meniere]

And women aren't?

LOL. I just emerged from a PTSD-induced withdrawal from social interaction sparked by a gamey woman.

 

[rave]

Well Folks, I have joined the smartphone era. However, it is still a TracFone and aside from purchasing the phone itself, it will cost me only $7 per month. Every time that I purchase service time, minutes, or data, that amount will be tripled for life. It's an LG Optimus Dynamic II and runs Android. So far, I've been having a ball playing with it. My biggest issue is that I need pointier fingers for that itty bitty keyboard! I'll get used to it though. If the BF can handle one with his big ole hands then I can do it too. So - I'm just gonna sit here for awhile and plug in Contacts. That'll take some time!

 

[rave]

LOL. I just emerged from a PTSD-induced withdrawal from social interaction sparked by a gamey woman.

Oh man, I'm sorry. Gamey women seem to me to be more ... vicious than men. That's a gross generalization, of course. Frankly, I've always gotten along better with men than with women. I tend to communicate in the more straight-forward manner of men (gross generalization, of course) and enjoy activities that are more frequently enjoyed by men. I've always appreciated the way that men can say more with a look and a gesture than what most women require a great deal of words to express. Just sayin'.

 

[3mg Meniere]

Gamey women seem to me to be more ... vicious than men.... I've always appreciated the way that men can say more with a look and a gesture than what most women require a great deal of words to express. Just sayin'.

That is an interesting insight. Evidently she is interested in a man who has a high opinion of me, and may have felt threatened. Higher-pitched voices are more difficult for me. Along with my new HA's, my audiologist gave me a program to help me fine-tune my auditory perception skills, which is another reason for the social withdrawal.

 

[awsum140]

That sounds about right. When I was a Computer Systems Engineer, when we were asked when a project would be done, the standard answer was always "two weeks".

That is the standard "Money Pit" time estimate!


I almost tried a Virgin Mobile smartphone. Then, when I though about it, do I really want to surf the web and type on a screen, that at best, is as big as a 3x5 index card? I'm sticking with a dumb phone until they are no longer offered, then I may do without on general principle.

 

[3mg Meniere]

I am happy with a dumb phone that produces good sound. Also a keyboard for texting.

 

[JerryRM]

I've been married 25 years and if anything happened to my hubby. I don't think I would marry again. I've had just too many years of doing as others wanted. I'd be ready to be my own boss and to live my life how I wanted it lived. It would take someone pretty special for me to ever marry again. Someone that valued my opinions and took my wants and desires into account when "we" made decisions.

To me the worst feeling in the world is when you spend hours cooking a great meal, then you get to sit and eat with the family, then while everyone leaves without a word of thanks to go enjoy time together or a movie, your left in the kitchen cleaning off the table and washing dishes while you listen to others laughing and enjoying their evening. You just feel used and alone.

Good morning Voltpeeps, thanks for all your posts but that is just the way life is where I live.

No (((((Princess))))) that's not the way life is, or should be. You are not a slave, they should help you. You cooked a nice meal and they should do the cleanup...PERIOD, not sit on their backsides and let you do all the work !!!!!

 

[JerryRM]

Sorry for the rant, folks. Good morning, Voltpeeps.

 

[3mg Meniere]

Jerry, now I am beginning to understand what is going on here.

Evie, remember that body and mind are one. I recommend you get that book. Her physical problems connected with the psychological were horrendous! Any culture which places women in a position where they are regarded as servants to men is at fault. She was lucky to get a man who did not buy into that.

 

[JerryRM]

The mind and body do work together, 0MG. The mind can heal but it can also hurt.

 

[SandySu]

No (((((Princess))))) that's not the way life is, or should be. You are not a slave, they should help you. You cooked a nice meal and they should do the cleanup...PERIOD, not sit on their backsides and let you do all the work !!!!!

Or at least they could thank her for the dinner. People often take things for granted. It's good for us all to remember what all loved ones do for us and to let them know. I think sometimes I fail in this with Bill, but I try to remember.