The latest on tutoring, the ongoing saga.
I assigned the 2 girls a writing project to tell me what they thought about the ballet. I asked some questions to give them ideas, like, "What was your favorite character? What was your favorite costume?" That kind of stuff. I noticed that the new girl is about where I started with the first girl, and she pretty much stuck to answering the questions I asked.
Both girls said they liked the ballet. The first girl said she had more fun because she went with her friend. The new girl said it was a lot like seeing a movie. Hmm ... really? I guess I know what she means, though. You are in a theater watching something.
Last time I went to the restaurant to pick up the kids, their mom asked me which DMV was best to go to to take a driver's test. She tried before and failed the test. She wanted to know which DMV gave the easiest test. I don't know, since I never took a driver's test since I leaned to drive as a teenager in Pennsylvania. I did have to take a written test when I got a California driver's license. I already had a New York one, so all I had to do was study the booklet. Here, I know that if you have to go to DMV for some reason, the lines are shorter in Watkins Glen than in Ithaca, and I always go to WG. I did tell her that.
I did mention that she'd do fine. Maybe go early Saturday morning, or something, when traffic is less heavy. She is nervous, and I suggested maybe she had the same problem as her son: test anxiety. Then I said to just decide passing or failing the driver's test doesn't really matter, after all they aren't going to cut off your head if you fail! Her daughter was there, listening to this, and she laughed at that.
The boy is doing better lately. I asked him why, and after some discussion, he said it's because he feels happy Christmas is coming. I wonder now if he's depressed and why. I know he feels hopelessly outclassed by his little sister. I don't stress this, but he knows she gets better report cards. I praise him whenever I can, but not falsely. If he does sloppy work, and I know he didn't try hard to do better, I express my disapproval. I don't tell him abusive things like he's stupid or anything like that, I just say I know he can do better, and I turn to a page in his notebook where his writing was neater to show him. We're doing a lot of reading comprehension and writing, since they are his weakest points. Maybe I should give him easier stuff? But I know he can do the work I give him if he only tries. He's just blowing me off.
I'll tutor tomorrow, and then on Monday, they'll get their gifts from me and we'll sing Christmas carols, which they'll have to read to follow along with the words. I still have to wrap them. Today, I focused on the Christmas cards, which have to be mailed, as more urgent. I was disappointed that the post office had only 2 kinds of Christmas stamps: Peanuts and religious. I like the religious ones, but I don't want to use them and maybe offend anyone who isn't religious, so I got the stupid-looking cartoon stamps. Sigh! Can't win them all.
Two days recently, I toured wineries on Seneca Lake and Cayuga Lake, the 2 lakes I live between, to taste wines and decide what to get the Philadelphia adults. The whole family comes up here many summers and spends a lot of time going to wineries and buying the wines they like. They can't order more from the wineries, since Pennsylvania has really strict laws about having wine shipped in from out of state. It's because they have state stores, which are where you have to buy any alcoholic beverage. They don't want you buying anywhere else. So, if your local PA liquor store doesn't carry that wine, you can't get it. And most of the wines from here aren't in their local stores. One wine I found that was really good was Hosmer's dry Reisling.
Hosmer Winery - 2013 Dry Riesling - Riesling - The Wine Shop
Back to tutoring. The new girl has to learn to use her imagination. I find this with all the kids I'm tutoring. Do Chinese people discourage imagination? Anyway, I had assigned a writing project where she read about a school class that wanted to visit the aquarium, so they raised money to go. Then I asked her to write when she had done something like that, and if she never had, to write about what she might want to get money for, and how she might do it. She never had, so she said she couldn't write about it. I said she should use her imagination, think of something, and she tried, but it was a poor showing. So last lesson, I spent some time having her close her eyes (which she found difficult, they kept snapping open, and I had to remind her to keep them closed) and picture her mom's car. Is it dirty or clean and shiny? What's in the backseat? What's in the front passenger seat? What, if anything, is hanging from the rearview mirror? She pictured this and described it to me. She even added that there was nothing hanging from the mirror but there was a funny wobble-headed animal on the dashboard. I figure this is a start. I told her when she reads something, a picture of it should form in her mind. I do know that she studies the illustrations in the books she reads to me. She takes long time to look at all the details and comment on them to me. So I think she just needs practice making pictures in her head.
At some point previously, I had asked the original boy and girl if they ever looked up at clouds in the sky and saw shapes in them, and they never had. I think I need to plan an outing where we all lie on our backs in the grass and look for shapes in the clouds! Not till warmer weather, though.