30 days spent in a room with nothing but a pillow, blanket, and a stack of books makes an impact.
That would be considered child abuse in today's age and better make sure it is not during SCHOOL TIME.
Also what if the kid's a smoker? Should they be denied the right to harm reduction measures because they completed an initial illegal act?
Should methadone patients be detoxed of methadone while in jail because the government doesn't want to pay for it?
These are all reasonable, valid measures in my opinion but @Letita, unless you are willing to take unpaid FMLA to incarcerate your child (which I doubt you would be) then you'll have to handcuff him to the radiator and leave him alone and that FOR SURE IS CHILD ABUSE and child endangerment. Imagine if the house burns down?
Look, these are simplistic EASY solutions to a problem that has been plaguing parents for decades and only worsening as life speeds up. We aren't in the middle ages any more you can't punish your kid for being an ... by apprenticing him to the local blacksmith, I'm sorry, you just can't.
To a certain extent teens will act out ALWAYS it is a function of their BRAIN development. The harsh draconian measures make things worse.. Prevention education are all fine but have their limits.
Whenever I hear something like that, I say to myself "That person has never parented a teen and has forgotten BEING A TEEN.
Big tobacco could just take over vaping but they are failing and yes that is a problem.
BLAMING the teens only has a certain amount of merit in my eyes. They can't help it and many parents will not know, not want to deal and under and overreact.
The fact is, saying it's the teens fault does not solve ANY problem and my parents did the equivalent "Locking me in rehab for 30 days at 17" and I did the regular and expected act out MORE when I got out.
That is how it WORKS for some teens, and I needed some hard knocks to grow up, but not really from my .parents OR legally, I had to just live with my wrong decisions and let my brain mature and deal with the fallout.
IF TEENS ARE ALL getting addicted to vaping, we may have a problem. But the reality is the regular subset of teens are getting into trouble, their parents are doing their best, and well, life continues.
And, my mom DEFINED Helecopter parenting. She was NO MATCH FOR MY ADDICTIONS ever, I had to get well on my own like many teens with addiction issues.
Teen addiction and impulsivity are NORMATIVE. It is the fact that they are being USED that I find obnoxious and for a non parent to say "I would just lock mine UP for 30 days IS EASY TO SAY.
I sent mine to rehab, mainly so he'd have a safe place to detox off 16 hits of ACID but chaining him to the radiator would have been cruel and Inappropriate. I wouldn't do that to my worst ENEMY let alone my kid.
Come on, now. THIS IS NOT ABOUT TEENS (good or bad) parents (good or bad) and honestly if you haven't faced those issues maybe it's time to take a long hard look at why you'd say that. That type of discipline usually teaches a teen nothing besides "I hate my parent and I can't wait til I get out."
If you want to address our stressed out SOCIETY that's one thing, but frankly it is not about which punishment works and that one would at least get you the same as the TEEN-- LOCKED UP for child endangerment and the kid is going to hate you and not learn from you.
That is how it went in my household growing up. Things were going badly, and all of us kids eventually grew up.
I will say, my kid got "sane and sober" before I did, and I consider that a victory because my mom BEAT ME REGULARLY and I never once laid a hand on my kid, and if anything his teen genetics were WORSE than mine. He got discipline, but also support, negotiation and I've studied a LOT of child theory. I agree with some of it but not ALL, and I most certainly don't support harsh or illogical consequences like ARRESTING a teen for wanting to try adult things. That is nonsense unless it is a violent crime it should be treatment not harsh punitive consequences of course I kind of think that about many adults frankly,
Anna