... The very definition of being an alcoholic is that discipline, will power, character, none of that means ANYTHING -- without abstinence, I would DRINK MYSELF TO DEATH.
Andria
Apologize here, find I disagree a bit.
My grandfather and uncle are/were alcoholics. My grandfather passed a few years ago from a blood clot in his leg coming loose, going to his heart. He had just aged to death. He had been an alcoholic until my grandmother locked him out of the house one night. "Pappy, you been drinking and get too nasty for me. Go sleep out in a ditch tonight", she told him. He did too.
The next morning he found his boy and they both located an AA meeting. It took them both thirty years, they shared maybe one third of a beer on a hot Summer day. Neither wanted to drink any more. They both agreed they
could have sat down and drank all day, on into the night. But they didn't want it. So, for them will power meant something. They had a taste and made themselves stop. They had a choice and chose to not drink.
It has taken me some time to understand this lesson they passed on that day. We all have a choice, weather we can all admit it or not. In their case it was to drink or not. In my case it's to cling to hating my step-father, father, life in general, or to let go of the hate and understand I have that choice. So I disagree that will power, character do not mean anything for alcoholics. I can happily and maturely agree to disagree too.
Still count you as a friend. Even friends can be different. In fact think I remember something about different being what makes our world spin. Hm, well I need to scoot on. Critters will be rebelling soon. Too cold to be without being fed sooner.