Ya'll so posty! I can't keep up! I must do yoga. The husband's mom is on her way out. She had lung cancer (environmental not smoking) and now she had a stroke. A small one. Sigh.
I really hate funerals but cannot let the husband face it alone.
To be fair, l can cope, I hate her, she is incredibly hatable bossy and rude. When she visited the husband got this insane needlepoint thing I got crocheted dish rags. I had to actually ask what they were. Then I said, "I would rather have nothing than these. Maybe you could have another DIL to give them to or someone else you hate." You can't beat about the bush with her. Granted I am hatable at times but I ALSO took care of her PTSD psycho son for five years until he got better so she should be THANKING me.
Also, at the wedding, she yelled at my kid for being barefoot. He, being a smart kid, RAN barefoot away and never approached her again. I did. I said, "Listen MIL, I have given MY soon to be husband permission to instruct my child, but I have TRAINED him and LET ME JUST SAY the amount of negative programming I had to REMOVE was insane. You do NOT have permission to instruct my son in ANYTHING besides how to escape a crowded theater on fire but that is IT. I don't like you, you don't like me and we can live with it. But you stay out of my kid's life FOREVER or I will make sure as your son's wife he never speaks to you again. And, let me tell you, this wife ALWAYS wins because *I* am the vagina he is attached to, so I have a GREAT advantage, that and I am not so nice. But, you are WORSE."
She took it. To be fair if I told that story at the funeral people would, ah, agree. She is the WORST.
Oooh I don't want to have to deal with the manic sister and the brother in law who .........es surreptitiously. Just NO.; Sigh. So, of course I am praying hard for her continued survival dude, and I don't think the motivation matters THAT much.
Work was chill. I HAVE to do yoga now. I realize that was a mean story but I have about a billion of them and I avoid her at all COSTS. GOlly.
I have no clue how the husband will react SERIOUSLY. No clue.
Anna