I was going to keep my mouth shut, but I just can't any longer.
Let me first say that I'm not "sticking up" for Vaper1960. I don't
know what
really takes place at his house, what his Mom will or won't let him do for her, nor the type or extent of his mother's dementia and how those things affect their interractions.
However, I'm certain that
no one knows what it's truly like...living with, loving, and honestly trying to help, an elderly parent who has dementia or Alzheimer's...until they've been there, done that. IF the parent is still
physically mobile and able to do things for themselves...it's common for them to resent it and/or even get very angry...if anyone
else does those things for them, or at times even offers to! It's seen
by the parent as trying to take away some of what little control they still have left over their lives. Having their finances taken care of for them and driving them everywhere...are 2 of
the most difficult for them to deal with. It's also often the person who's closest to them physically and emotionally, who's helping them the most, or trying to...who catches the brunt of their frustrations, anger, accusations, outbursts, etc. Like I said earlier...no one knows until they've been there, done that.
IMO, sometimes people "open up" here about things that
maybe they shouldn't...because it's usually a given that it'll result in a variety of responses, whether they're wanted ones or not. Also, sometimes it's just TMI. I can think of a past member right away, about that. But, if there
are no close friends, family, or other people...the poster feels comfortable telling about it............
It seems to be sort of a catch-22.
